Am i emotionless?

[donedoknow]

After getting bored and thinking about random stuff the other day... i came to a pretty depressing realization... i realized that... I'm pretty emotionless :iamdead:

I've found that every girl in my life which I've had a crush on was because of looks... and every girl who i admired for their qualities (i.e. super smart, or super hardworking, kind heared etc) i was great friends with... just friends >.<

Now I'm not gay... cause my friends describe me as homophobic, which is in every way true. But... what exactly does it mean to have a girlfriend o.O?

Like... other than a sexual partner, I don't see any reason for me to get into a relationship. In general, I'm already disinterested enough in females. To top that off, I cant stand rl porn >.<

What Am I? Some emotionless being o.O

A question to the guys out there... what do you view in a relationship?

EDIT: What I love about life is, sleeping in, being lazy, gaming :D (yeah dota FTW), and watching endless amounts of anime :P

Are there more mature people out there thats gone through this phase? Or is this totally abnormal for a guy who's 18 and attending uni to not be intersted at all in a relationship? o.O

[daniel2]

Your normal. You're simply seeing these things now because you proberly are lonely.

Not to mention, if your not looking at them for: looks, breast sizes, legs & ass etc. Your looking at them for: smarts, intelligence, coyness, activeness.

Your different to every other person. Do not put yourself down for the things you just did. Your 110% perfectly normal human being.

[daniel2]

To better explain myself.

When I look for a girl or just when I notice a girl. First thing I notice always is the face, followed very closely by "does she have any breasts?" then I look at her legs and if I can get a quick look at her ass then thats that. I score her in my head subconsciously (meaning without meaning to) and I change what I think about her as I learn about her personality.

Some guys see, ass first and if they don't have a nice ass It's all over red over for the girl.

It depends on what you like, what turns you on and alot of other things that make YOU who YOU are. Anyway, what I'm kinda getting at is that your not emotionless or insensitive at all.
Your normal.

Infact I think your quite the opposite look you went and made a thread about it didn't you because you obviously care. That shows maturity, compassion and understanding.

Well done 10 out of 10.

P.S With the "Other then a sexual partner I don't see any reason for me to get into a relationship" thats again normal. You like sex, and foreplay so you want someone whos as willing as you are. You once again possess all the traits of a person with emotions and feelings.

[donedoknow]

well thats kinda reassuring >.<

maybe ur right about the lonely bit, since I've just moved outa home : (

[daniel2]

Well then one negative thought would easily lead to another and suddenly you would find yourself thinking about things you don't usually think about.

This can be both a blessing and a curse. Sometimes its good to think outside the box but only constructively. Any time from this point forth spent contemplating if your "emotionless" or not would be wasted time I promise you.

You can't change who you are. Well you can to an extent but there are somethings you cannot change. The time you dwell on these things, the more time you waste.
You should be thinking about what party your going to next or what hot girl your going to hook up with next.

I have always told me self one thing.
Your opinion on yourself doesn't mean jack. If you think your ugly and a significant amount of other people say your hot then your obviously hot. Regardless of your own opinion.

That saying pretty much works for anything.

I used to think I was messed up and I proberly was but other people said I was a great person who looked like he had no problems at all.

Lastly as long as the females don't notice that your emotionless then nothing should change :p

[donedoknow]

Well, guess the next biggest thing is my lack of interest o.O

i dunno... but getting a girl seems so pointless... after thinking through everything... the conclusion is that time used in looking for a gf, and getting a gf, is better spent on better things like enjoying my self, or doing my assignment >.<

[daniel2]

You should follow your desires. Remember to plan for the future. You wont always enjoy your work and having a girl to come and stay with you, for sex, for fun, for company etc. Would benefit you greatly. Then spending all your time just doing other things.

If you are a smart person which I have no doubt that you are, you should be able to manage your time so you can equally address all your interests and work to finish them all at once.
Try a timetable or make some sort of plan like in your spare time you'll try to get close to a girl, after dinner perhaps study before bed etc.

Yes getting a girlfriend does take time always but you can cut alot of corners and get the same end result. Another saying went like this

Nothing is ever as bad as it first sounds

Almost always true, it address the frantic mind where most people the first time they contemplate something only look at the negative outcomes and fail to see the positive outcomes. Thus labeling the whole idea a bad one.
Make sure you think twice before you totally dismiss something as "a waste of time".

As for your lack of interest that will change. Trust me as you meet girls you will get more interest because they will be there in front of you. I had a lack of interest towards girls for along time because I didn't associate with them for quite a while. Then suddenly when I did I never wanted to stop hooking up or just chatting and I found them far better company then guys.

Lastly, looking and getting to know a girl does not take much time at all. You should know that :p

[Viperus]

Well, guess the next biggest thing is my lack of interest o.O

i dunno... but getting a girl seems so pointless... after thinking through everything... the conclusion is that time used in looking for a gf, and getting a gf, is better spent on better things like enjoying my self, or doing my assignment >.<

Im pretty much in the same situation as you.
Not to mention that the girls from my class are complete idiots. They are or drunk , or even worse , sober - they have no personality at all. And all the good girls are already dating my friends x.x

And picking up someone when going out - thats not my style, I gotta see her personality first.

[navi1199]

I'll have to agree with Daniel first off when a guy checks out a girl it's (at first) 97% based on looks. there's no reason to deny that and everyone knows it, imo that's how love at first sight works x3. love doesn't truly start until you start dating, that's mainly when we start falling deeper in love depending on personality and such... but as Daniel said it varies from people to people. and lastly if you think your emotionless then what about me??!! am pretty much in the same boat as you are! if you can laugh, cry, feel hurt, etc. etc. you are not emotionless.

Edit: Just to add getting a gf is a roller coaster ride, so even if you do feel that it's a waste of time but once you get one you'll find out what i mean... maybe you know it right now from your
friends experiences xD.


Lastly, looking and getting to know a girl does not take much time at all. You should know that :p
True xD but finding out if they bite is a different story xD

[krnxknight]

After getting bored and thinking about random stuff the other day... i came to a pretty depressing realization... i realized that... I'm pretty emotionless :iamdead:

I've found that every girl in my life which I've had a crush on was because of looks... and every girl who i admired for their qualities (i.e. super smart, or super hardworking, kind heared etc) i was great friends with... just friends >.<

Are there more mature people out there thats gone through this phase? Or is this totally abnormal for a guy who's 18 and attending uni to not be intersted at all in a relationship? o.O

You're definitely lonely and I'd hazard a guess you're rather shy about your feelings; leading you to the conclusion that you're emotionless since you don't act upon them very often.
Since you're so used to hanging out with girls as friends, you don't really know what to do to "level up" your relationship do you?

as for your not being able to stand rl pr0n, don't worry yourself about it, some girls might find that cute.

[roadkill6000]

green makes me horny is that weird?

[Akazaji]

kinda

i would say so

[Dark Wings]

dude ur only 18 and ur getting depressed over such matters
I'm telling u ,there is a long way to go ,I'm 21 and I barely want to put my time for girls ,not because of lack of Interest or
any other thing ,simply I want to keep my time for myself
as long as I can ,I got myself busy with office work since I was 18 now imagine that,so many of my guy friends felt like they need to have a relationship with a girl (friendship,sexual matter,etc)
but I didn't at least not till now.ur completely normal ,just give
it a time ,it's too soon for u to get depressed like this

[crystalalien8]

dude u cant have it no worse then me....if u get time read the "running out of fish in the sea"...thats how my life is....im 21 and i never went to dance which means no prom,homecoming or anything....i was also in 3 different High schools but none the less i was pretty lonely... so i took every opportunity to find a girlfriend and no i never got one... i admit to doing a handful of naughty things but i have never been in a full fledged relationship....and losing my virginity was just a title to have so i wouldnt be called a virgin anymore....
as for porn...umm i like it lol...
as for your interest i like most of the stuff u like....I myself enjoy tons of anime,car,computer,manga, and music...
(Dark Wings) i have to kinda disagree. In my situation when i had a job (havent had one since april :() but i had worked non stop and when i got my job at pepsi i worked like a dog...like 10-12hr shifts of pure labor and rarely days off.. and i always was depressed because i never had time for my life...i know how most people say they are to young to be looking for a steady relationship but some people need that feeling of having someone always behind them when ever they fall (sounded kinda cheesy lol)
So i for one would have to say...i would like to have a women to come home to...and know she will always be there...

[Dark Wings]

dude u cant have it no worse then me....if u get time read the "running out of fish in the sea"...thats how my life is....im 21 and i never went to dance which means no prom,homecoming or anything....i was also in 3 different High schools but none the less i was pretty lonely... so i took every opportunity to find a girlfriend and no i never got one... i admit to doing a handful of naughty things but i have never been in a full fledged relationship....and losing my virginity was just a title to have so i wouldnt be called a virgin anymore....
as for porn...umm i like it lol...
as for your interest i like most of the stuff u like....I myself enjoy tons of anime,car,computer,manga, and music...
(Dark Wings) i have to kinda disagree. In my situation when i had a job (havent had one since april :() but i had worked non stop and when i got my job at pepsi i worked like a dog...like 10-12hr shifts of pure labor and rarely days off.. and i always was depressed because i never had time for my life...i know how most people say they are to young to be looking for a steady relationship but some people need that feeling of having someone always behind them when ever they fall (sounded kinda cheesy lol)
So i for one would have to say...i would like to have a women to come home to...and know she will always be there...

I never said that u shouldn't look for a women or anything dude
I only spoke about myself and I said It's too soon to get depressed over it like that,ur not a gramps r u?u r gonna live long rn't u? so there is a long away to go and I'm sure someday u will find happiness like every one else and in your own way
I already told that most of my friends spoke about relationship and stuff when they were around 16 but I PERSONALLY never cared ,I had my own management for my time and life ,there r times that I feel just the same like u ,to have a gf that I can spoke with go out etc but I know It'll pass by real soon for me so I really don't think about it that much,cause I'm me and you are u,2 completely different person.
10-12hr is really long but I'm a night shift and I work around 18hr in each shift (crazy isn't it) :destroy: :furious2:

[crystalalien8]

yea 18hr is pretty bad... but yea we are different so no hard feeling...(so now back to the molesting thread i go lol)

[Dark Wings]

yea 18hr is pretty bad... but yea we are different so no hard feeling...(so now back to the molesting thread i go lol)

lol there wasn't any hard feeling in the first place
well see u there I guess

[Chrisuu01]

Okay listen very carefully now i kinda have the same problem
so i might know the cause

You are actualy geting lonely so just like i do now get out of the house more and carfullyy start to talk wicth girls If ur hetrosexcual

Try to make contact stay urself dont try to behave in ways that aree weird to you Honestly youl just screw up and and up beighn found weird person by others

[xzeldax3]

hmmmmm i'm currently like that too. but also its with life, i kinda bored with everything. i just eat, sleep, and occasionally hang out with friends, or play video games. everything seems boring to me. i am almost turning anti-social. like color is fading from everything

[THEBOTCHOY]

I think its pretty usual to not be interested in getting into a relationship or into girl's personalities because you are 18 and you are probably just getting out of highschool and starting college so you should probably be all about hanging out with your buds loving being young, and its not that big of a deal to not be interested in girls you got plenty of time for that

[Draconalis]

Since I'm too lazy to continue reading half the thread, I figure I'll go ahead and answer the question about how a mature person views a relationship.

Now keep in mind, I'm speaking physically mature, mentally, I've got my moments of shear immaturity when I feel like it.

Talking from personal experience. When I was young, I had a few crushed, a SEVER fear of rejection, and thus I rarely acted on my feelings. I was depressed all time, I was apathetic to the world. Then I met her, the one whom 5 years later would become my wife. This portion of the tale is pretty much right out of a fairy tale. She was perfect for me in damn near every way (She caught a sandwich on fire... literally! I do the cooking). Basically, As my feelings for her grew, she became my life. If anything ever happened to her, I would not live to see the next day. This is a weakness I know, I'm not a strong enough person to stand on my own anymore. But I would give her anything, I want to give her the world. I would give my life for her. She give me strength. My relationship is about supporting eachother in our faults to become one complete being.

I know that may sound corny... but it's how I feel about it. I lucked out and found my mate with my very first girlfriend. It WONT be that easy for you, I can almost assure it.

How has my life changed? I'm still pretty apathetic to the world. The world can be damned for all I really care... but there is something I'm not apathetic about... ever. Whether anger at her, playful towards her, or merely being close to her, there is ALWAYS a feeling involved.









Hmmm... after that little rant... I'm not sure if I answered the question in the end...

[Antique]

I'm often like that too but condition, feelings, and time changes everything...

[MisterH]

If your friends and whatever are calling you anti-social and telling you to get out more, I find it's usually when they're alone and want you to come over, such extroverted people can't stand their loneliness, and think you suffer the same feelings!!

Most weekends I wanna stay in my warm house, sleep halfway through the day, watch a lot of anime, drink tea, play WoW, and go to sleep at 9AM, not take a 20 minute walk through the cold weather so I can watch movies and play Xbox for a few hours, and then have to walk home at night through the even greater cold weather, only to arrive and find someone messed with my download manager and nothing is finished!!

[cooleyhighbit]

After getting bored and thinking about random stuff the other day... i came to a pretty depressing realization... i realized that... I'm pretty emotionless :iamdead:

I've found that every girl in my life which I've had a crush on was because of looks... and every girl who i admired for their qualities (i.e. super smart, or super hardworking, kind heared etc) i was great friends with... just friends >.<

Now I'm not gay... cause my friends describe me as homophobic, which is in every way true. But... what exactly does it mean to have a girlfriend o.O?

Like... other than a sexual partner, I don't see any reason for me to get into a relationship. In general, I'm already disinterested enough in females. To top that off, I cant stand rl porn >.<

What Am I? Some emotionless being o.O

A question to the guys out there... what do you view in a relationship?

EDIT: What I love about life is, sleeping in, being lazy, gaming :D (yeah dota FTW), and watching endless amounts of anime :P

Are there more mature people out there thats gone through this phase? Or is this totally abnormal for a guy who's 18 and attending uni to not be intersted at all in a relationship? o.O

dude u are on my track except i thought i liked them but just wanted sex, all i can say is you gotta see the right one but you probly just comfortable it pretty easy to just go get a girl so u just do what u want theres really no advice but i was like that at ur age and at 22 found her in a kind of innocent chick(at first).a deal younger who's expecting so ummm
watch out for the REALLY**491: CUTE ones

[tangano]

you are just in the stage of confusion i guess and this happens most of the times when a person gets solely intouch with himself (like in a point of self-reflection). if you arent interested abt it, maybe because u are interested more in some other things.

you do not see any good point in involving yourself in a relationship because i think you havent experienced getting yourself in a deep kind of relationship. when it comes, you'll surely enjoy the "emotions" that come with it -- pains and joys.:exhausted2:

having a girlfriend is not all about releasing your bad days,pains, anger on to her or just for the sake of procreation or making love. it's about sharing your entire life with someone, loving this person, taking good care of this person as she do the same to you. it's bliss.

anyway, dont push yourself into experiencing it soon so you can understand. enjoy your life as each moment comes and one day, you'll wake up, she'll come unexpectedly to your life.:inlove2:

[Sakujo]

Question: Are the girls who are your friends ugly? Only decent-looking? Are the ones who you want to have sex with attractive or hot to you? If that's the case, then it makes a bit more sense. You may simply have a low desire for forming relationships, and a great desire for sex. It happens. If you can offer a hot girl quality companionship and you both aren't looking for a great level of emotional intimacy, go for it. There's nothing wrong with that.