How to find a good gf

[n2oblivion]

I know a lot of people are like 'in love' and everything with each other, but a lot of times this so called love just shatters into the treanches. Relationship fails, people go home crying, packed bags, heartbroken - braindead. How does -no... How 'should' a guy approach you to see if he relates? Also. If your relationship is an emotional freight train of doom, why do you still ride that shit with tears?

[Pervy Sage]

okay im a dude and i've been in this situation...i approach with the hey i wanna help mentality...i literally go up and see whats up...that is if the girl is in a bad mood...then if god willing my words comfort her i use my wits to make her laugh or to cheer her up...

but u wanna know how to apporach a girl to see if u relate? well if u know the girl for a while then i'd say ask her out as friend....say something like hey u wanna hook up for to study for that test or if ur not doin anything on *whatever day* then u wanna catch a movie. yes these lines might not work but then again it depends on the type of girl. what type of girl is she...preppy...rocker..popular..stuck up...conceited what?

[n2oblivion]

A mentally capable sword wielding drop dead gorgeous girl with a car, apartment and need to travel.

[lsley]

How 'should' a guy approach you to see if he relates?
Somehow I don't understand what you want to ask with that o.ô

If your relationship is an emotional freight train of doom, why do you still ride that shit with tears?

Good question, that's why I don't :megane:

[Queenie]

I know a lot of people are like 'in love' and everything with each other, but a lot of times this so called love just shatters into the treanches.Relationship fails, people go home crying, packed bags, heartbroken braindead.

Haha Yes many high schoolers even my self sometimes fall in to "Fake Love" everyone doesn't even know the meaning of it yet and they just think "lets date" means that they'll be with the person for ever, and when u know that the person isn't right "lets break up " is a very strong word that lots of people take advantage of .


How does -no... How 'should' a guy approach you to see if he relates?

I Think it depends on the type of girl you want to go after . If you wanna see if u relate to a girl i suggest to talk with her, be friends with her and see how you feel around with her. Even if you feel like happy around her don't think "SHES THE ONE " because like if u suddenly date u may find out things that u never mite of known o.o and it'll be hard for you to accept things like that so i suggest knowning the person first. Cuz "Love at first sight" =.= doesn't work all the time .


Also. If your relationship is an emotional freight train of doom, why do you still ride that shit with tears?

Most people , The insecure ones i guess, After being with a person for so long and when its about to break , the feelings are still tied. like cuz yes even before u did once love this person. And so even if everyone around them sees that its not working , i think the ppl are afriad that they can't find anyone else, or its like they don't want another person . I dealed with this couple before and there still at it sometimes . when they were dating they argued so much and it just got to a insane mess .. yet they can't seem to stay away from each other long and then they just get submissive and give up with everything . So its so complicated but ive never been in a situation so i can't completely understand how ppl go through with it .

[ermeyers]

A mentally capable sword wielding drop dead gorgeous girl with a car, apartment and need to travel.

hmmmm.....sounds like a tough one....just remember not to try and be someone that you aren't. Girls pick up on that. Just be yourself and talk to her more. Try and get her to go on a walk, they usually work. Just walk and talk or go to the mall and walk and talk....be yourself, no one else...:JFBQ00209070429A:

[Pb10]

I'm getting a little confused from understanding where this is a question of how to get a girlfriend, how to know if you really love someone, or how to deal in an emotional relationship.

Regardless of what the question is, no relationship should be a great deal of work. Folks, especially young folks, often cannot distinguish between love and temporary infatuation. Which is fine. No bills to pay, no one to support, why not. You will learn the difference eventually. Just don't have kids lol.

[Zaffrono]

i have a similar problem. i have liked this girl for over 3 years, and i screwed it all up by being immature and asking her out the first day i saw her. But! i still knw her and hang with "her group" but she doesn't talk to me..., but i knw what she likes and such, but i can't even be nice to her <_<, i like the same books shes does, and i like Hello Kitty more than her =D, and its not one of those i want to date kind, but the one where i want to just hold her in my arms and just talk about things with her, she has one of the prettiest faces i have ever been graced with... but is it possible to fix it? or did my first approach just mess it up for me forever?

[AmSidar]

A mentally capable sword wielding drop dead gorgeous girl with a car, apartment and need to travel.
I am just speaking whit a guy who will never find a gf. :o

[Pervy Sage]

yeah she does sound tough...but again one way to find out if she's the "one" or if u should ask her out is to get to know her....like everyone said...hook up...walk around..hang out and talk...start off with music..animes whatevr...see what shes into..get to be like her best male friend...when she confides in u..means she trusts u...when she tells u shit that no one else know that means she really trusts u...so eyah take everyones advise and just hang out with her....


make sure she don't take the sword when u do hang out...just in case u say the wrong thing...ALSO..dont say the wrong things...we're guys...we talk first and never ask questions...remember THINK THEN TALK

[AmSidar]

we talk first and never ask questions...

Dont you mean "we talk first before we think"?

[Zaffrono]

well i did try to ask her out, she says no before even trying to get to knw me.... its cuse shes in IB and i am not... guess being good with computers and being the schools top boxer isn;t good enough <_<....

[bushidomizer]

hmm there isnt really a strategy guide or an FAQ to find the perfect someone for you. in my case, i just happened to meet her at school, get to know each other, and things just took their place from there. its not like i had a game plan to sweep her off her feet. i just had the right broom ;] but what im trying to get at is, no matter how much you plan and think ahead like in chess to get the right person, they might not even be the right one for you. but its definitely worth the try. and if all goes well, its the best feeling ever !

[DualFace]

Haha Yes many high schoolers even my self sometimes fall in to "Fake Love" everyone doesn't even know the meaning of it yet and they just think "lets date" means that they'll be with the person for ever, and when u know that the person isn't right "lets break up " is a very strong word that lots of people take advantage of .

Your short little paragraph here is nearly the text book definition of the word:
LUST. This is what most teenagers experience early on and why it's difficult to explain
as anything else. I still experience it and I'm nowhere near being a teenager anymore! Tah!

[n2oblivion]

I am just speaking whit a guy who will never find a gf. :o

A big challenge for a lot of people comes with the search and the wait.

[lsley]

Your short little paragraph here is nearly the text book definition of the word:
LUST. This is what most teenagers experience early on and why it's difficult to explain
as anything else. I still experience it and I'm nowhere near being a teenager anymore! Tah!

Guess you'll allways experience it unless you don't cut a certain thing...

[Silmeria]

ill keep it simple and fast
there is 3 females for every 1 male....if you cant find a gf you are rather "special"
i would advice to talk to 8-10 different people at day like for example 4 of them be females i am sure one of them will like you since likeing and love comes in all color and shapes.

[n2oblivion]

ill keep it simple and fast
there is 3 females for every 1 male....if you cant find a gf you are rather "special"
i would advice to talk to 8-10 different people at day like for example 4 of them be females i am sure one of them will like you since likeing and love comes in all color and shapes.

Your social competency amazes me.

[daniel2]

Yeah he is pretty smart and very honest which is a good quality.

[donedoknow]

Haha Yes many high schoolers even my self sometimes fall in to "Fake Love" everyone doesn't even know the meaning of it yet and they just think "lets date" means that they'll be with the person for ever, and when u know that the person isn't right "lets break up " is a very strong word that lots of people take advantage of .
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i agree with this >.< like totally and completely..... wth is love anyhow? i still dont think i know o.O

[daniel2]

Love is anything and everything you want it to be.

[reminder]

My answer to "How to find a good gf" is...
buy one on eBay

Ok, seriously, you just have to try many times. That's all it takes. When you find a good one, you WILL know.

[daniel2]

But the ones on ebay are expensive and they're all russian :(

hehe.

[Viperus]

A mentally capable sword wielding drop dead gorgeous girl with a car, apartment and need to travel.

Japanese swords or that french fencing? If its fencing , you dont have a chance + its lame as a sport.
If its something like kendo , I'd ask her to show me some moves, and maybe a duel. And it wouldnt be obvious you're hitting on her cause swords are cool. XD Damn, I wish my some of my female friends would wield a sword.

[LightElf]

Ok, now from what everyone is saying here, being yourself and just hanging out with girls like going to a walk and talking about stuff is a good way to perhaps get to know each other.

HOWEVER, the greatest problem I am currently facing is that I dont know what I should talk about with girls. I am, as a person, rather calm and quiet, and when I talk with people, its usually them who started the conversation with me just chattering along.

Ok, I know some obvious ones like asking her what her hobbies are, what music she likes etc...but arent there any topics out there which I mean really lends itself well to starting off conversations that do not only last a few seconds and could potentially bring two people closer together fairly well? (like first becoming friends, then moving up a bit, etc). Cuz I really have problems with that and if I ever talk to a girl then the chat lasts like 20 seconds before I dont know what to say anymore.

[daniel2]

What you should to them about? Them! Every girl loves to be talked about, pull out the compliments, talk about sport maybe. If you know what shes interested in then talk about that. Try a few different subjects and you'll strike gold eventually.