Reeling Me In...

[daniel2]

It's now been 6 weeks since I dumped my bitch ex.
For 3 weeks I told everyone who asked me out that I was taken to prevent being heartbroken again. I also avoided lots of parties and I quit talking to a few people who were more interested in going out with me because I'm popular instead of being with me because they want me.

I met this girl. Shes great, she seems to be different to all the others. I find myself liking her and I just stayed up for 9 hours straight talking to her on msn.

I'll give it to you straight.
I've never met this girl. I met her through a friend, just word-of-mouth from him. He liked her and it ended up backfiring. Because hes stupid and immature and doesn't know how to flirt or capture a girls attention.
So he started hating her.

She then befriended me and likewise and since then we've talked and we've talked and we find ourselves having more things in common and just liking eachothers company more. To the point where she says "I wake up every morning and I feel the larger majority of what gets me through the day or what I look forward too at the end of the day is talking to you <3"

In a way I don't know what to do. In another way I want to see how things go.
But theres a few problems.

1. We haven't met face to face.
Don't get me wrong we have really in-depth conversations and talks for hours on just about everything not to mention it never gets boring.

2. She seems sorta dumb...
I don't know if its an act or not. She is blonde but I don't know if shes just playing the silly blonde card or if she actually is kidna stupid and she misses even the few signs that I give her.
However she shoots me loads of signs and I catch them all.. So I'm really confused there.

3. Don't want to be hurt again.
I just got out of a 772 day heartbreak when I spent that long chasing after my ex. Believe me when I say I don't want it to happen again. Not even over a relationship we've only had for a month/6 weeks.
Though, 6 weeks is along time to get to know someone.

4. She has school.
I don't have a job or school. I live off an extremely large inheritance.
I'll never have to work a day in my life. So I might go to uni when I get older to get better educated but not do anything with my life because I don't want to lift a finger and presently speaking I'll never have to.
But yeah. Monday - Friday shes got school. Then shes got a life outside school, I don't get much of her time except for the end of the days. Same scenario with my ex... she was in school too. It only led to disaster.

5. Age difference?
I've been 17 for a month exactly today. Shes turning 15 soon. Most people would see that as taboo, but we really don't care. I still don't know about this though as younger girls seem to tread on my heart more and not know that they are.

Most people would say 3 strikes and your out. I.e 3 mitigating factor problems = don't bother.
Theres 5.
I don't know what to do.

Your input will be greatly appreciated. I don't want to be hurt a second time. It's still early in the relationship because we haven't met but... well I dunno actually.
I'll leave it at that.

~Love Daniel

[bushidomizer]

hmm, as for the being hurt part, all i have to say is

id take the chance of getting hurt because love is a feeling like no other. sounds a little sappy but its true when you look at it.

as for not meeting face to face, im sure you will eventually and when you do things will fall into place and if you let things take their natural flow, then im sure things will turn out great.

as for being dumb, it doesnt matter if shes dumb as a doorknob, what matters is that you like whats inside the heart and soul.

as for age, imo your difference of 2 years doesnt matter. ive dated a 17 year old and im 19. and ive also dated a 22 year old. age doesnt really matter unless were talking 7 + years. itd be kinda weird.

as for the school part, hmm im not so sure on this so i wont give irresponsible advice.

and sorry for answering your questions in a different order lol

good luck bro !

[Mick1155]

I have to say it would probably be best to have a face to face first

[AmSidar]

I agree chose after you talk whit her face to face, and know a little more from her after face to face conversation.

[lsley]

To 1: Watch out! I had a friend experiencing a similar thing, she was a mix of moby dick and frankenstein. But remember, you're not engaged the first time you see, so that shouldn't be a problem.
To 2: If you can talk to her for this long without jumping out a window (or getting the urge to do so) it's acceptable I'd say.
To 3: You want to stay single for all your life? Surely not.
To 4: Finding a girl without shool or a job is kinda hard, so I'd say it's an inevitable bad.
To 5: Uhm wtf 2 years what's that? I know at least the same amount of couples with a higher age difference as with a lower.

Hoped it was a little help :monk:


Another 2 questions: I'm a bit confused, your other posts allways show something like: I live in a happy relationship, doing strange thing in front of a cam getting tied up etc and now you're single for 772 days? *confused*

Question 2: Is there no school attendance in the usa (or where do you live?)? / Or to wich age is it?

[C02M0]

well , she might be ugly too .
anyway even if she is dumb , it dosent mean shes bad or anything .
and well , 2 year is nothing .

[AmSidar]

To 1: Watch out! I had a friend experiencing a similar thing, she was a mix of moby dick and frankenstein. But remember, you're not engaged the first time you see, so that shouldn't be a problem.

Your poor friend. rofl

[DDv]

You miss Slayden's knowledge at times like this don't You? :)

1. Then meet her.
2. You'll find this out when You'll have more "experience" with her. Meet her in person.
3. Think about this as a possibility. You're not in love, are You? Then You don't have to be affraid.
4. I don't think schoo has much to do with this and I don't think that school was the reason of You parting with Your ex. Altough it's true that You're not there with her the whole day and that can be a problem (at her age).
5. Who cares? :)

Btw, weren't You going to join the army?

[Silmeria]

1. We haven't met face to face.
for starters you should be enjoying fucking life at this moment, meet her she keeps your standars good go out with her
2. She seems sorta dumb...
does it matters when you love/like someone? that makes it part of their personality not all have a good common sense or logic, think outside the box, also if your friend was having a hard time trying to get her maybe its because she is kinda clueless.

3. Don't want to be hurt again.
if you are going to be like this then dont even get closer to her she will suffer a LOT, dont forget your ex just move on, 6 weeks are nothing try it for a relationship of 4 years and a break up for the most stupid thing(my fault) that sucks but you move on lol.

4. She has school.
school has nothing to do with it...even if you have a lot of money doesnt mean you have to be a retard and stay without knowledge...maybe you dont have to go to school but your kids will.....so start using that money to make MORE money, also if you cant leave her have her friend life and school life you are pretty much up fuck up, realize that the less time you spent togheter is more special than beign 24/7 with her.

5. Age difference?
like i said on first question......for now enjoy your life fall in love love back have fun dont think on stupid things.

[premeba]

1.) just go and do it. if you don't you'll never know.
2.) if you like her that much, does it matter how dumb she is.
3.) well if you don't move on, you'll never get anywhere. even if it does hurt, it means something happened and time moved on.
4.) and 5.) i have a friend (girl, 16, in school) that is dating a guy that is like 20? (don't really know age) that is not in school. they've been going out for about 6 months and it doesn't look like their relationship is going to stop. so i don't see a problem with school or age.

hope that helps.

[daniel2]

You guys give great advice.

Yes I was single for about 772 days. However I had 2 relationships within that time that were not with the person I was chasing after, and the person I was chasing after went on and off for that whole time. Big mistake. I'll never make it again.

As for the questions is she ugly. Ask Toadvine shes beautiful. Hes seen a photo of her.
I've talked to her on cam and I've seen her getting onto the bus which I almost ended up chasing just to talk to her.

The reason why I think school might be a problem is just because I can't make sure everything is ok. Don't get me wrong I trust her heaps I know she wouldn't do anything funny but I don't trust her guy friends, or that they wont try something funny.

So yeah I know what he looks like and I know who I'm talking to.
I do want to meet her. She might end up truanting school to see me soon.

School sucks because at my age it's hard to get around to see her. I live 35Kms out of town. She lives 85Kms away from my house and 50Kms away from town. It's hard to arrange a time to meet up. It's only been 2 weeks since we decided we wanted to meet each other. So theres plenty time left.

I am over my ex. I don't care about her anymore. I went single for 3 weeks as Silmera said. To fucking enjoy my life. I was sick of breaking little girls hearts and to have a good time and to put myself in control of weather I kissed or did anything with another girl I said I was taken. All I had to do was tell some I was taken while not tell others I was. Call it a sly trick or whatever it prevented alot of people getting hurt including myself.

As for the being tied up and stuff. Yeah I'm into that, at certain thresholds. Mainly because one of my less recent ex girlfriends was really into it as well. I do live a good life because I plan it out well and I don't hurt myself emotionally 'just-to-see-what-happens'.

@DDV Yes I do miss Slaydens guidance at times like these. I hope his singing career is going well.

@lsley I'm a highschool drop out. Like I said I have a huge inheritance. I'm exceptionally smart but I don't consider it smart enough. I could have gotten a schloarship for I.T but I didn't want to. I got the grades for everything. I don't want to work because its not in my nature. I'm not that sort of person, I prefer being romantic to being good at swinging a maddick.
Silmera I don't have to make money ever. I could pay for my kids to go to University (as we call it in Australia) 100 times over for 5 years. I don't want to work I want to get smarter/wiser thats all. But being wise comes with being old. I want to be around when I have kids, not the father whos always out. But this wont be for a long time.

[tvesrb]

1.) you should definitely meet in person, looks aren't important but it'll put you at ease & give you a better sense of what she's really like

2.) just play along with it if shes faking, eventually her true self will surface & if she really is dumb then just acept it

3.) hey, you know what they say: "you gotta through hell to get to heaven "(no religious notions implied)

4.) just talk to her when you can, try to accommodate her schedule

5.) don't really see a problem there, its only a 2 yr gap

[Mineyo]

First of all Hi. I'm new here as you can see and still don't know if I'll last more than one day. If you're not interested in my introduction skip this text up to real message. As I'm looking for wisdom and information around the network there always was one thing I had hard time attaining. The girls point of view. Here I found this "Ask girls" forum. I hope I will find some clues as to how their minds work. Even if I have overall idea I need to make sure of my theories. I want to learn human behaviour and mind wich is needed for my future plans. I decided on quite big objective for myself and I'm pretty sure attaining knowledge in any possible form will be quite useful. Glad to be working with you.

Real content: Daniel, this post may prove useless to you as every person vary. I shall try my best to Guide, not support or force you to take your way. You may not even hear my opinion at all if I will decide its not necessary. First of all age gap. The view point of others is not your own view point. Always try to come up with a solution of your own if its easy enough to attain in short time. Were not talking about coding or making cars etc. here. You don't need parts of source code/car etc. for this. Only things wich prove too hard for you should be taken granted. If the age gap exist ask Yourself if youre bothered with it. Even if others say its fine if you can't sleep with it it's Not fine. Don't worry about others opinion if you do it's like you're living for them not for yourself. Think if youre bothered with age gap now... if you will be in the future. If she's young she may always change her mind. Young people are easier to change their ways. Try to force your way on her a little. It can be done so she won't even know she was manipulated. Don't listen to those who say apperances aren't important, they are. If youre bothered with her looks or she is with yours it may pose a problem. Ask her what she thinks about you apperance vise. If you don't want to do this face to face it can be done other way. Meeting her face to face is good idea. You will get to know how she reacts etc. Try to make it comfortable so tension disappears but without going overboard it may cause opposite effect. You will then make sure of how she acts normally so you know what you will have to work with later. Make sure she or you dont put an act. It should (it may not) be better to know reality. I don't really understand what you mean by her being dumb so I will go into more detailed mode for some sort of behaviour I think is close to it. If shes clueless then it may be hard on you. When you see she doesnt seem to understand what you meant with your sweet(etc.) talk go straightforward with her. In my opinion it's better than having understanding problems (after all we got my opinion). If shes clumsy then it may become charming point but also could be annoying. Stupidity is another problem and needs some education of common sense. It can be done if you know how to work with it. If she just is not informed well enough like she doesnt know basic things then you may want to tell that to her. It may offend her but if you will be able to help her learn those it should strenghten your bond. If you don't want to be hurt you will have hard time in future I tell you. Those who don't bet don't win it's as easy as that. But if you bet you may always lose. Just decide if prize is worth the possible loss. It's all in your head. Clear your vision. If you go back to defensive you may end without ever getting a girlfriend think about that. You may always decide you want to become Asexual like me (though I had other reasons here) wich I think isn't bad at all. You will just have to find lots of other things to do. Girls require attention from what I know and should be treasured. Also no matter how long I think about her being in school and you not I see only good opportunities. You're rich and romantic right? Why not try to transfer to her class? I know it won't work as it will be to forceful but it's quite funny vision. Scared about her male friends? Money is strenght. Never mess with those who have money if you dont. This time it's other way around. Even kids should know to not mess with you. It's not hero manga in wich they could beat you and people you could hire. If you'd force her to drop out of school she'd lose precious memories of school time. Try to make those better for her by being helpful. I'm sure that if she'd become your GF and youre at least normally looking she'd be proud to show off you to her female friends. Ego boost please? Your a shining knight on white horse see it already? If you take good approach I don't see how those kids would be able to win her over. If they became too forceful and she had you to help her I'm pretty sure she would think youre the one for her and wouldnt stray from the right path (yeah LoL here, this was more of a joke but it makes quite some sense right?). If I offended you in any way, belive me I would be sorry if I'd care though I hope I helped and thank you for reading up to this point (and anyone who read it and think it wasnt a complete time loss).

Also last thing here I'd like to say (not topic related). If You, dear reader found my opinion helpful and would like me to answer any questions or topic you found interesting or came up with just PM me. If I'll have spare time I probably will think about it. This post here I wrote about two to three years after my last one so I'm sorry if I don't seem competent enough. Also sorry for any mistakes I made.

Regards, Mineyo.

[AmSidar]

Your really could make some organizing in that post. I barely can see it trough. Others you say many good thing.

[lsley]

Scared about her male friends? Money is strenght. Never mess with those who have money if you dont. This time it's other way around. Even kids should know to not mess with you.

Huh? I think all in all your answer was pretty good, but I kinda find this point funny. We're not in a world where you can buy anything with money (if I'm wrong, please tell me how to q.q). Vitamin C is much more useful here :smoker:

[Lel]

Huh? I think all in all your answer was pretty good, but I kinda find this point funny. We're not in a world where you can buy anything with money (if I'm wrong, please tell me how to q.q). Vitamin C is much more useful here :smoker:

Correction: You can't legally buy a number of things and most of those things have loopholes in legal documents that will offer adequate protection to minimise damages to yourself. This is true of most of the western world, in a money driven society, there are people in circumstances who will quite literally do anything for money, whatever their personal reasons. The sometimes but not very difficult part is finding the right people.

With the excepion of an odd line here and there I found your input, Mineyo, rather...stupid to say the least. I felt that you were slightly out of touch with reality and towards the end it got totally ridiculous. If you want me to explain in detail you can pm me Mineyo

[daniel2]

I'm going to take her to my best best best friends 18th. Shes going to come over to mine for about 2 hours, we're going to get ready and then we are going over there. It's not going to be a fail party because its been planned perfectly and my mate has security so those plans wont change by force.

After that shes coming back to stay the night at my place and in he same bed (: because its what she wants to do.

I'm going to meet her tomorrow or the next day. When that happens I will tell you all how it goes. Thanks for your continued support I really apprichiate it. :D

[Mick1155]

Well good luck with the 18th i hope all goes well

[ermeyers]

Ok, let me start. Sorry if this gets too long.

1) I hope that everything goes well at the birthday.

2) I know i have told you before, but i feel i should say again how jealous i am that you will never have to work or go to school. I know, i'm childish.

3) I am in somewhat of the same problem. Here is what i am doing to make it work, granted she is the same age. Ok, so this girl is extremely cute and shy to top it off. She lives in the town that i am attending university, so when i am home i can't see her since i attend school far away from home. One of the things that i have tried is to get closer to her and make my feelings more evident, since she has never had a boyfriend before or been on a real date. I know, troublesome.
Anyway, so i try to hang out with her as much as possible and make the times romantic. You should try it, it should work, but in my case it didn't. i took her to the lake that is on campus. We walked over and sat down on the pillar structure there. We spent hours talking at the side of the water with the sunlight reflecting off the water and illuminating her ever so cute face. You would think this would work. Anyway, try something like that.

4) Another thing that i have tried that you might try is spending time at your house more. A place where you feel comfortable, but she feels weird. I know this sounds stupid, but hear me out. Your job is to make her feel comfortable at your house (in your room). You are also not to make any serious moves on her in the beginning. If you can do this then it shows the girl that you are respectable and helps her into some real security. That will improve your relationship a lot and also gives you the ability to show her how you feel without giving everything away to scare her. This did work with me, so it will definitely work with you.

5) I understand your pain with the prior relationship. I was also in a semi-long relationship a while back. I dated my first girlfriend at 16 for 5 months. We lost our virginity to each other and were what i thought to be in love. Later on she became a slut and i wanted to further the relationship in means other than physical. One thing led to another and i caught her sleeping with another man. The guy was black (not that it matters his color, but at the time it really lowered my self-esteem. Because of this bad breakup i fucked up the next relationship i had with a girlfriend and every relationship after that has been just sex. Do not make this mistake.
Remember, don't only do what you think is right for the relationship, also listen to your partner and come to a decision together.

Hope the advice helps Daniel. ;)

[demonicwolf69]

age difference aint much?

i know least here where i live thats prety common.

i was 15 and i dated a 20 year old for a little while about the only advice i know...

and i kinda half to agree with amsidar here with that about meeting face to face.

[daniel2]

Well I met her today. In the rain we spoke for about 5 minutes and she gave me a great hug. I bought her a rose haha but I couldn't give it to her because her two friends were looking me up and down I almost had a laughing fit. But I whispered it in her ear and she blushed and said I should give it to her tomorrow. Which I'm going to do, and she'll just ditch her friends so we can have a proper conversation.

But thats the biggest obstacle down (:
Bummer about the rain tho, while it made it romantic we both were really cold and I was pretty soaked.

[AmSidar]

So she is not a home monster? :P

[Pane]

Daneil that sounds so sweet and romantic! a[Only registered and activated users can see links]

[txcforever]

Well you could ask your friend for a photo of her you know (what mobiles with camera were invented for anyway?). As for the age difference unless it is illegal you shouldn't worry (Now when you turn 18, that would be a problem ;p).

[daniel2]

I have photos of her, that she gave me herself (:
Digital ones, and ones on film.

I gave her the rose today, everything went as planned, she hugged me and then she stepped on the bus. I got far more drenched today in the rain then yesterday..

Oh, and thanks Pane :)

[Pane]

haha Thats sweet!

[daniel2]

X3 this week she'll be with her dad and I get to call her once for an hour. Which I will do proberly on sunday :D at about 6pm.

We can talk for hours on end about everything, and about nothing. She has such a beautiful voice. But all's good so far :)

[ermeyers]

haha.....you sound like your head over heels for this girl Daniel....

well, wishing you the best of luck...not that you need it or anything....XD

[daniel2]

I think I might with this one. But thanks anyway bro.

[demonicwolf69]

that awsome daniel i wish to before your you man.

and age dosent mean anything if you really love that person man just be safe and think before you act and youll be good :P

and about the rain thats so fun :megane: wish i couldve done that before i went single :iamdead:

[daniel2]

I'll tell you kissing in the rain isn't all its cracked up to be. It's never the same the second time. But its different with everyone. I guess what I'm trying to say is that, you can only really enjoy it once per girlfriend. Then the feeling is almost gone forever with that person.

[bushidomizer]

yea kissing in the rain can get you a cold. lol but if you ask me, is the pain that might be experienced in love worth it ?


all i have to say is yes. good luck in your relation ventures !

[daniel2]

I'm immune to the common cold I haven't had one in 5 years. Not to mention I can sleep in a puddle and I wont feel cold. It's just the mountain air up here in winter that threatens my body and makes me feel cold.

[bushidomizer]

^ i wish it was cold here in vegas. right now its averaging 105+ degrees. but i guess im the same as you on colds ahah i havent had one for at least 3 years.

[demonicwolf69]

i know that feeling daniel, i can be soaked to the bone in 45*- F and still be fine, i feel thru the ice once fishing, now the logical thing to have done was call it a day but i just sat in my hut after words and enjoy the fishing ahhh that was fun, pealing the frozen cloths off my skin well that wasnt so fun.

back onto subject, ive never kissed a girl in the rain i really want to tho i unno why but i do >.>