cute_cailou
07-13-2007, 10:46 AM
Ahh, the nice guy, a term I would use to describe you if I was a female. Now now, I may be jumping the gun here, but I’m confident enough to say that 95% of the guys here what society judges us men to be "nice guys." Of course, don't take my word for it, just answer the 3 simple questions below:
(Note: Don’t pick the option that you would see best, pick the option that you would most likely take action)
1. My approach of a female whom I want to be in relationship can be best described as:
a) I'll become her friend first, and then as we build a connection to her, ill confess
b) I'll just suddenly run up to her and confess when she doesn't even know me
c) I'd tell her straight up with confidence about your feelings to her
d) Stay passive dude, stay passive, passive brings all the females to the table
e) Fate will bring you with the one!
2. When in a relationship with a girl, your method of dating her would be best described as:
a) Do whatever she wants, buy her what she wants, you are completely in love with her
b) I'm the leader of the relationship, I go where I want, and take her to interesting places
c) I satisfy her every desire by becoming a gentleman (pushing chairs, opening doors, buying food for her etc.)
3. Sex in a relationship is:
a) Forbidden, OMG I can't believe you would think of wanting to have sex with your girlfriend
b) Allowed, but I am clueless as to how to get it from her
c) Allowed, I will wait until she is ready for it
d) Allowed, I lay her when ever I want.
Now the obvious correct answer to #1 would be c), to #2, b) and to #3, d)
So are you at risk of being a nice guy? If 2 of the 3 questions was one you answered correctly, I must inform you that you are the classic nice guy. Note that the only correct answer to the questions is the ones that I listed above. Any of the others deems you as the nice guy. Now, don’t reason and say something like “But becoming her friend first works, I remember a girlfriend I once had, she discovered how good a guy I am and got into a relationship with me, what are you talking about?” Ok, sure but was she of the QUALITY that you wished she would be? Did you manifest these feelings over time even when you didn’t like her to begin with?
So post results here :O (Note: Applies to married guys too)
Read on if you would like to fix yourself.
Edit: OMG!! Im sorry guys, it never occurred to me that you guys would feel all down about it. Think about it this way, realizing your own weaknesses, you can work on fixing those errors. Now guys, i propose to you guys a battle plan. I let each and every single one of you decide which path you want to take. You can either choose the path of being busy living, or alternatively, you can be busy dying. Let me explain, busy dying implies that you will do NOTHING to change your ways to improve yourself meanwhile sitting at home and waiting for the perfect one to come. I'm sorry guys cause rarely does that happen. Girls don't grow from trees nor does fate really interwine the two of you. I know its hard. I've felt it before, I'm STILL feeling it, but i'm glad that i've started taking my first baby steps that are required of ANY guy to make improvements. Now guys, i'm not saying its going to be easy, its going to be fucking hard, i know. The very idea of approaching a girl on the street seldom seems to be logical or possible at all, let alone talking to a damn FINE one. When you think of approaching and lock eyes with a girl, you feel like you're staring into the eyes of the Gorgon that paralyzes your body and mind. Your body won't listen, you can't think on your feet and the girl just passes by you as you gradually recover slowly only to kick yourself in the butt because you couldn't take the first step. I know that feeling, i feel it just as much as you do, yet i fight, fight this fear that our head created, i kick and punch resisting the temptations to just abide by fear and let my moment with a beautiful girl to slip again. I hate it, every single fucking second of my life when i have to spend more time regretting something that i didn't do. It fuckin sucks, but you CAN change.
You've gotta say, Fuck that, i'm improving myself and get your ass on it. You'll feel nervous, all of us guys will; afterall we are only fallable humans. Its funny because humans will never change unless they are pushed on the edge to do it. They resist it and would go to extremes such as using money as a means to avoid it. But men, you sir. Can you firmly tell me that you won't regret your own life 10 or perhaps 20 years later if you just decide to settle for a girl whom you don't truly like? Will you be able to look back when you're 70 and tell your grandson that you were completely happy with your life? If the answer is no, i order you to change yourself, take a step in which you will never once regret in your life and take it now. Make the conscious decision that you're going to fucking change yourself so you can teach your son, and your grandson how to become a fuller better man. I know i took that offer, fuck it's worth it if i can ensure that i can keep my genes going and ensure that they will carry on the legacy of what i left. What about you? If you can't take even that first fucking step, I'm telling you to stop reading now because there's no point.
Fear, fear that immobilizes you and hinders your every train of thought. Something all of us guys feel when we decide to approach a beautiful girl. It pushes us and tries to restrain us to stay who we are. And because we are humans who hate treading into the unknown, we grow that fear for approaching women. This is to be said what refrains us from talking to the girl of our dreams. The origin from our fears comes from the idea of toxic shame when we were younger. Perhaps you can recall your first time approaching a girl finally being able to muster every ounce of courage in your heart and confess to the girl you like while clenching your fists wishing for the best results. Unfortuntely, you are shut down and you feel a surplus of rejection that flows into every cell of your body. And as a law, because humans HATE rejection, we incorporate the feeling of rejection with the action of confessing and never do it again to spare ourselves from feeling that emotion again. Simply put its a humans self-defense mechanism. So over time perhaps trying the same method 2-3 times, we stop and never do so again because this feeling of fear and nervousness stops us in our tracks.
There is a way to stop this, but there is no such thing as a magic pill you can take and have it the easy way. I told you it was going to be hard, so you might as well push yourself if you've decided to read this far anyways. Listen you are going to have to place yourself in the position of where you feel fear and expose yourself to it until you become immune to it. Just like how you accomplish any life goal, it requires you to step out your comfort zone and just do it. You'll keep at it, persistantly like how a cat preys on its food. You'll fight fear; that little son of a bi*ch punch by punch. and beat the shit outta it until it can't move and can never paralyze you anymore. YOU must make these punches though, i can only give you the map to where fear lives, but you must tread its lair and fu*k him up with your willpower, endurance and strength as a human.
The method. This will only apply to approaches during the day, in the mall, and in the streets. It will NEVER be done in locations where you work because you are in contact with them everyday and it may affect work. It can only be done in locations where you have a constant supply of new females who have never met you. Now this method is golden, its taken off of multiple sources including Lance Mason and i must give them credit now.
What you will do:
1. Follow the rule of approaching the hottest girl you see everyday and talk to her. If there is an even more beautiful girl, then the last one was automatically voided and you must approach the current hotter girl.
2. I don't care how far you spot this girl, but when you do see her, you MUST run, im not shitting you, RUN to her and go up to her, tap her to get her attention and tell her how you geniunely feel about her. Thats all. You can say anything close or similar to this next line but it must demonstrate interest in her. "Hey, i came over here and i just really had to tell you that you're fu*king adorable." Really it'll change according to how you were feeling when you are running after her but it'll come from a genuine place because you really meant it. Hell, you just ran a freaking block or up/down a escalator to see her and tell her that she was beautiful. I'm serious, you really gotta run and catch up to her, don't make excuses such as "Oh, well she is 2 blocks away from me" or "I can't shes with friends/family." I don't care at all, the greater the amount of audience, the better. Because by that the time you ran that fricken distance just to tell her she looked cute, EVERYONE will be watching. All the guys will be cheering you on from the sidelines because they didn't have the fu*king balls to do it like you did. Best of all, because you really thought she was beautiful, your words will come from your heart and she will instantly be able to see that.
3. Get her attention by tapping her on the shoulder and lock eyes with her NEVER looking away when you confess to her.
4. Continue conversation by asking more about her and flirting.
Don't worry if #4 seems unnatural at first and feels awkward. It will, but as you practice more and more, it becomes more fluid and runs smoothly because your social skills are also honing themselves as you rid yourself of feeling nervous. When you are able to carry a conversation with the girl as fluently like when you talk to your best bud, you are well on your way.
I remember when i did i first did it, even though i got rejected, she was really nice about it and said, "thank you, but i really have to go right now." After doing it a few more times, i realized that she couldn't reject me in a mean way because it came from such a geniune place within my heart. I meant every word that i said and poured my heart out to her. Yes it shows vulnerablilty but it shows that you are a TRUE/REAL guy whos just normal. Even then you are a man with BALLS because you had the courage to step up, run to her and tell her she was pretty. That in itself is success already.
I can remember the moment when i first did it with relative success. This girl was going down the escalator as i saw her from the upper floor. Excuses flowed in my head, but i had to do it. I started to run and chase her, i shoved and pushed people on the escalator and eventually came to a road block where two guys wouldn't move, i waited anxiously and continue to run immediately after i got off and finally caught sight of her in my eyes, i cut through the crowds finally tapping her on the shoulder (she was by herself). By the time i got to her, i was panting, huffing and puffing and i said "Give me a moment here, (breath breath) i just really wanted to tell you that you were really cute." It lit my heart up when i saw her eyes widen and hear her respond "What?!" like she had just be struck by a thunderstorm. Her eyes literally lit up like a christmas tree. I felt so proud of myself then because i knew i had swept this girl off her freaking feet that i actually teared . The very idea of approaching a really hot girl and being able to make her eyes light up like that was something that i could never see possible. And when it did happen, i was happy, so happy. Every single cell in my body danced in joy as i felt like a rockstar at that moment that couldn't be stopped.
So the choice is yours, which will you take?
C_C
(Note: Don’t pick the option that you would see best, pick the option that you would most likely take action)
1. My approach of a female whom I want to be in relationship can be best described as:
a) I'll become her friend first, and then as we build a connection to her, ill confess
b) I'll just suddenly run up to her and confess when she doesn't even know me
c) I'd tell her straight up with confidence about your feelings to her
d) Stay passive dude, stay passive, passive brings all the females to the table
e) Fate will bring you with the one!
2. When in a relationship with a girl, your method of dating her would be best described as:
a) Do whatever she wants, buy her what she wants, you are completely in love with her
b) I'm the leader of the relationship, I go where I want, and take her to interesting places
c) I satisfy her every desire by becoming a gentleman (pushing chairs, opening doors, buying food for her etc.)
3. Sex in a relationship is:
a) Forbidden, OMG I can't believe you would think of wanting to have sex with your girlfriend
b) Allowed, but I am clueless as to how to get it from her
c) Allowed, I will wait until she is ready for it
d) Allowed, I lay her when ever I want.
Now the obvious correct answer to #1 would be c), to #2, b) and to #3, d)
So are you at risk of being a nice guy? If 2 of the 3 questions was one you answered correctly, I must inform you that you are the classic nice guy. Note that the only correct answer to the questions is the ones that I listed above. Any of the others deems you as the nice guy. Now, don’t reason and say something like “But becoming her friend first works, I remember a girlfriend I once had, she discovered how good a guy I am and got into a relationship with me, what are you talking about?” Ok, sure but was she of the QUALITY that you wished she would be? Did you manifest these feelings over time even when you didn’t like her to begin with?
So post results here :O (Note: Applies to married guys too)
Read on if you would like to fix yourself.
Edit: OMG!! Im sorry guys, it never occurred to me that you guys would feel all down about it. Think about it this way, realizing your own weaknesses, you can work on fixing those errors. Now guys, i propose to you guys a battle plan. I let each and every single one of you decide which path you want to take. You can either choose the path of being busy living, or alternatively, you can be busy dying. Let me explain, busy dying implies that you will do NOTHING to change your ways to improve yourself meanwhile sitting at home and waiting for the perfect one to come. I'm sorry guys cause rarely does that happen. Girls don't grow from trees nor does fate really interwine the two of you. I know its hard. I've felt it before, I'm STILL feeling it, but i'm glad that i've started taking my first baby steps that are required of ANY guy to make improvements. Now guys, i'm not saying its going to be easy, its going to be fucking hard, i know. The very idea of approaching a girl on the street seldom seems to be logical or possible at all, let alone talking to a damn FINE one. When you think of approaching and lock eyes with a girl, you feel like you're staring into the eyes of the Gorgon that paralyzes your body and mind. Your body won't listen, you can't think on your feet and the girl just passes by you as you gradually recover slowly only to kick yourself in the butt because you couldn't take the first step. I know that feeling, i feel it just as much as you do, yet i fight, fight this fear that our head created, i kick and punch resisting the temptations to just abide by fear and let my moment with a beautiful girl to slip again. I hate it, every single fucking second of my life when i have to spend more time regretting something that i didn't do. It fuckin sucks, but you CAN change.
You've gotta say, Fuck that, i'm improving myself and get your ass on it. You'll feel nervous, all of us guys will; afterall we are only fallable humans. Its funny because humans will never change unless they are pushed on the edge to do it. They resist it and would go to extremes such as using money as a means to avoid it. But men, you sir. Can you firmly tell me that you won't regret your own life 10 or perhaps 20 years later if you just decide to settle for a girl whom you don't truly like? Will you be able to look back when you're 70 and tell your grandson that you were completely happy with your life? If the answer is no, i order you to change yourself, take a step in which you will never once regret in your life and take it now. Make the conscious decision that you're going to fucking change yourself so you can teach your son, and your grandson how to become a fuller better man. I know i took that offer, fuck it's worth it if i can ensure that i can keep my genes going and ensure that they will carry on the legacy of what i left. What about you? If you can't take even that first fucking step, I'm telling you to stop reading now because there's no point.
Fear, fear that immobilizes you and hinders your every train of thought. Something all of us guys feel when we decide to approach a beautiful girl. It pushes us and tries to restrain us to stay who we are. And because we are humans who hate treading into the unknown, we grow that fear for approaching women. This is to be said what refrains us from talking to the girl of our dreams. The origin from our fears comes from the idea of toxic shame when we were younger. Perhaps you can recall your first time approaching a girl finally being able to muster every ounce of courage in your heart and confess to the girl you like while clenching your fists wishing for the best results. Unfortuntely, you are shut down and you feel a surplus of rejection that flows into every cell of your body. And as a law, because humans HATE rejection, we incorporate the feeling of rejection with the action of confessing and never do it again to spare ourselves from feeling that emotion again. Simply put its a humans self-defense mechanism. So over time perhaps trying the same method 2-3 times, we stop and never do so again because this feeling of fear and nervousness stops us in our tracks.
There is a way to stop this, but there is no such thing as a magic pill you can take and have it the easy way. I told you it was going to be hard, so you might as well push yourself if you've decided to read this far anyways. Listen you are going to have to place yourself in the position of where you feel fear and expose yourself to it until you become immune to it. Just like how you accomplish any life goal, it requires you to step out your comfort zone and just do it. You'll keep at it, persistantly like how a cat preys on its food. You'll fight fear; that little son of a bi*ch punch by punch. and beat the shit outta it until it can't move and can never paralyze you anymore. YOU must make these punches though, i can only give you the map to where fear lives, but you must tread its lair and fu*k him up with your willpower, endurance and strength as a human.
The method. This will only apply to approaches during the day, in the mall, and in the streets. It will NEVER be done in locations where you work because you are in contact with them everyday and it may affect work. It can only be done in locations where you have a constant supply of new females who have never met you. Now this method is golden, its taken off of multiple sources including Lance Mason and i must give them credit now.
What you will do:
1. Follow the rule of approaching the hottest girl you see everyday and talk to her. If there is an even more beautiful girl, then the last one was automatically voided and you must approach the current hotter girl.
2. I don't care how far you spot this girl, but when you do see her, you MUST run, im not shitting you, RUN to her and go up to her, tap her to get her attention and tell her how you geniunely feel about her. Thats all. You can say anything close or similar to this next line but it must demonstrate interest in her. "Hey, i came over here and i just really had to tell you that you're fu*king adorable." Really it'll change according to how you were feeling when you are running after her but it'll come from a genuine place because you really meant it. Hell, you just ran a freaking block or up/down a escalator to see her and tell her that she was beautiful. I'm serious, you really gotta run and catch up to her, don't make excuses such as "Oh, well she is 2 blocks away from me" or "I can't shes with friends/family." I don't care at all, the greater the amount of audience, the better. Because by that the time you ran that fricken distance just to tell her she looked cute, EVERYONE will be watching. All the guys will be cheering you on from the sidelines because they didn't have the fu*king balls to do it like you did. Best of all, because you really thought she was beautiful, your words will come from your heart and she will instantly be able to see that.
3. Get her attention by tapping her on the shoulder and lock eyes with her NEVER looking away when you confess to her.
4. Continue conversation by asking more about her and flirting.
Don't worry if #4 seems unnatural at first and feels awkward. It will, but as you practice more and more, it becomes more fluid and runs smoothly because your social skills are also honing themselves as you rid yourself of feeling nervous. When you are able to carry a conversation with the girl as fluently like when you talk to your best bud, you are well on your way.
I remember when i did i first did it, even though i got rejected, she was really nice about it and said, "thank you, but i really have to go right now." After doing it a few more times, i realized that she couldn't reject me in a mean way because it came from such a geniune place within my heart. I meant every word that i said and poured my heart out to her. Yes it shows vulnerablilty but it shows that you are a TRUE/REAL guy whos just normal. Even then you are a man with BALLS because you had the courage to step up, run to her and tell her she was pretty. That in itself is success already.
I can remember the moment when i first did it with relative success. This girl was going down the escalator as i saw her from the upper floor. Excuses flowed in my head, but i had to do it. I started to run and chase her, i shoved and pushed people on the escalator and eventually came to a road block where two guys wouldn't move, i waited anxiously and continue to run immediately after i got off and finally caught sight of her in my eyes, i cut through the crowds finally tapping her on the shoulder (she was by herself). By the time i got to her, i was panting, huffing and puffing and i said "Give me a moment here, (breath breath) i just really wanted to tell you that you were really cute." It lit my heart up when i saw her eyes widen and hear her respond "What?!" like she had just be struck by a thunderstorm. Her eyes literally lit up like a christmas tree. I felt so proud of myself then because i knew i had swept this girl off her freaking feet that i actually teared . The very idea of approaching a really hot girl and being able to make her eyes light up like that was something that i could never see possible. And when it did happen, i was happy, so happy. Every single cell in my body danced in joy as i felt like a rockstar at that moment that couldn't be stopped.
So the choice is yours, which will you take?
C_C