Wes
05-17-2008, 02:24 PM
What does a girl actually mean when she says "Your a nice guy"?
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AmSidar
05-17-2008, 02:31 PM
I personally when i say that i mean it, its noting more nothing less, don't know what other girls think however.
Silmeria
05-17-2008, 06:11 PM
the way i see if if a female i like told me that would be like i am not enough bad to her hate me but i am not enough good to be her bf.
Wes
05-17-2008, 09:59 PM
She also said that I wasn't her boyfriend (and laughed at me). And then said that I was just her friend. And that I should pick my DVDs up when I want to be her friend.
Then she left.
Then she left.
daniel2
05-18-2008, 03:46 AM
Just that your a kind person. Kind people are hard to find, so I'd take it as a compliment.
AmSidar
05-18-2008, 03:48 AM
She is playing whit you... *shalalala* But at least she thinks you are a friend. :D
Wes
05-18-2008, 12:32 PM
Well, I guess I can feed her cat while she's out with her real boyfriend.
That's great... :iamdead:
That's great... :iamdead:
AmSidar
05-18-2008, 12:58 PM
You know it not so bad, i love friends, you can share whit them all you little things. ;)
Wes
05-18-2008, 03:02 PM
Having a friend is better than not having a friend. So I guess you're right...
It's just really hard on my ego, knowing that I'm not good enough to be her boyfriend.
It's just really hard on my ego, knowing that I'm not good enough to be her boyfriend.
AmSidar
05-18-2008, 06:19 PM
guys and they ego >__> like we girls would not have any.. XD
Hunter L
05-19-2008, 03:02 PM
tell me about it LOL j/k
Wes
05-19-2008, 07:20 PM
Tell me Hunter, what's your secret?
How are you so popular with all the babes?
How are you so popular with all the babes?
Hunter L
05-20-2008, 11:31 AM
secret? me popular wes is this a joke or are you serious?
because if this is a joke then LOL it's a good one!
because if this is a joke then LOL it's a good one!
AmSidar
05-20-2008, 02:41 PM
Now i don't get it. :/
daniel2
05-20-2008, 10:34 PM
Well, I guess I can feed her cat while she's out with her real boyfriend.
That's great... :iamdead:
Don't get too attracted to her or you may find that its more painful being friends and seeing her with her boyfriend then not being friends at all.
Happened to my second last ex and me.
That's great... :iamdead:
Don't get too attracted to her or you may find that its more painful being friends and seeing her with her boyfriend then not being friends at all.
Happened to my second last ex and me.
Wes
05-21-2008, 02:02 AM
Now i don't get it. :/
Don't worry. I'll explain it.
I said to Hunter
"How are you so popular with the babes?"
And Hunter isn't very popular with the babes.
So it's a joke. Because I said something that is the opposite of what is true.
Don't worry. I'll explain it.
I said to Hunter
"How are you so popular with the babes?"
And Hunter isn't very popular with the babes.
So it's a joke. Because I said something that is the opposite of what is true.
AmSidar
05-21-2008, 04:21 AM
I did not know that he is not popular, btw how did you find out?
daniel2
05-22-2008, 11:04 AM
Fine don't even listen to my help T_T
AmSidar
05-22-2008, 11:52 AM
*hugs daniel* common dont take it so hard.
bushidomizer
05-22-2008, 04:27 PM
when i heard that first, it was pretty much my first rejection. soo im guessing its a nicer way to say thanks but no thanks. oh well i also took it as a compliment and im now happy with my gf :]
Wes
05-23-2008, 03:01 AM
Hey look. I found an interesting article on another forum:
"ok I didn't wright this ok
Here's a post I read in a forum:
A wise man once told me, "As a man, you have to die once in order to live." I never fully appreciated his advice, nor did I understand it until I experienced it firsthand. From that time on, I understood the origins of the Jerk vs. Nice Guy battle.
Readers may be asking themselves, "What in the world is this guy talking about?" Well, I'm referring to the widely known fact that women habitually date men that are jerks while the "nice" guys are often left twiddling their thumbs in solitaire. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
Figuratively speaking, in order for a man to enjoy the company of women and be able to seduce them, his inner nice guy must first die through heartache. It is at this point that his inner bad boy surfaces and goes on the prowl.
Any man that has experienced true love, only to have his heart crushed by the woman that he thought he would spend his life with, will understand what I am talking about. A man that has never experienced the heartache of being burned by the one person he really trusted probably won't understand my commentary. In any case, it is important to understand why nice guys finish last and why they probably always will.
Contrary to what most women think, men are interested in successful relationships. Most men will never pass up the chance to date the woman of their dreams. In fact, when a man does encounter this rarity of a woman, his passion gets the better of him. The thoughts that race through his mind are something along the lines of, "This woman is a keeper. I'm going to treat her right and do all I can to make her happy."
The only problem with being the nice guy is that you also become the boring, predictable guy. The excitement of the seduction process begins to fade for the woman because she has what she wants and doesn't have to do any chasing. Eventually the woman starts losing interest and before you know it, her eyes start to wander.
In the end, she'll look for a new man who will bring excitement back into her life by being the "new and improved" challenge. Pursuit and excitement usually stem from selfish attitudes, much like the bad boy who doesn't care about anyone but himself. The nice guy will be left heartbroken and will start wondering what in the world he did wrong.
It's at this point that men begin to realize that most women generally don't know what they want from us. Evidently, being the nice guy certainly doesn't help. The conclusion of the aforementioned scenario? The death of the nice guy persona. So that's the life and death of the nice guy and, as a result, "Mr. Nice" is resurrected into "Mr. Jerk".
As long as nice guys continue to get burned, there will always be a healthy supply of new jerks on the horizon to provide the dose of misery that women seem to yearn for. Eventually (often quite quickly), these nice guys will realize what type of man women actually want. The result is something that snaps inside of them as they begin to mimic the jerks that most women seem to pursue incessantly.
To become that kind of man, the charade must be taken to the extreme, which involves acting like a selfish person that has no regard for other people's feelings. This amounts to a jerk that will say anything to get a woman into bed. The jerk will furnish her with tons of roller coaster emotions and once he has sex with her, he'll dump her. Why? Because he feels vengeful and wants to burn women the same way he was burned. Remember; once you get burned, don't STOP playing with fire -- you TAME the flame.
So when women inadvertently give life to these jerks, they are really shooting themselves in the feet. That's the life and legacy of jerks everywhere.
If nice guys are what women really want, then why is it that most nice guys are single? Why is it that we constantly hear stories about women dating big jerks that took them for a ride -- literally?
The fact is that women generally don't want nice guys, or maybe they're too busy chasing after jerks to realize that they do. Why? Because women act on impulse and emotion rather than fact. Who do you suppose brings out these same irrepressible emotions in women? The jerks, of course.
So what does this all add up to? No one wants to get hurt, but in the same instance, no one wants to be perceived as a jerk either. That is why it's important to have a balanced attitude towards relationships. A man has to be able to court a woman, amuse her and excite her while continuously remaining a challenge.
In other words, be nice to women, but remember who comes first in life; you, your irreplaceable family and friends, and then your woman. By following my theory, women will constantly be in hot pursuit..."
Here's where I found it
... nevermind
I don't really agree with this article. Since I think "your woman" should be more important than you, your friends, and your family. But it does seem to be true that men have to be a jerks in order to appear attractive to women.
I did not know that he is not popular, btw how did you find out?
He mentioned getting dumped in one of the other threads (I forget which one).
Edit: I got rid of the link
"ok I didn't wright this ok
Here's a post I read in a forum:
A wise man once told me, "As a man, you have to die once in order to live." I never fully appreciated his advice, nor did I understand it until I experienced it firsthand. From that time on, I understood the origins of the Jerk vs. Nice Guy battle.
Readers may be asking themselves, "What in the world is this guy talking about?" Well, I'm referring to the widely known fact that women habitually date men that are jerks while the "nice" guys are often left twiddling their thumbs in solitaire. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
Figuratively speaking, in order for a man to enjoy the company of women and be able to seduce them, his inner nice guy must first die through heartache. It is at this point that his inner bad boy surfaces and goes on the prowl.
Any man that has experienced true love, only to have his heart crushed by the woman that he thought he would spend his life with, will understand what I am talking about. A man that has never experienced the heartache of being burned by the one person he really trusted probably won't understand my commentary. In any case, it is important to understand why nice guys finish last and why they probably always will.
Contrary to what most women think, men are interested in successful relationships. Most men will never pass up the chance to date the woman of their dreams. In fact, when a man does encounter this rarity of a woman, his passion gets the better of him. The thoughts that race through his mind are something along the lines of, "This woman is a keeper. I'm going to treat her right and do all I can to make her happy."
The only problem with being the nice guy is that you also become the boring, predictable guy. The excitement of the seduction process begins to fade for the woman because she has what she wants and doesn't have to do any chasing. Eventually the woman starts losing interest and before you know it, her eyes start to wander.
In the end, she'll look for a new man who will bring excitement back into her life by being the "new and improved" challenge. Pursuit and excitement usually stem from selfish attitudes, much like the bad boy who doesn't care about anyone but himself. The nice guy will be left heartbroken and will start wondering what in the world he did wrong.
It's at this point that men begin to realize that most women generally don't know what they want from us. Evidently, being the nice guy certainly doesn't help. The conclusion of the aforementioned scenario? The death of the nice guy persona. So that's the life and death of the nice guy and, as a result, "Mr. Nice" is resurrected into "Mr. Jerk".
As long as nice guys continue to get burned, there will always be a healthy supply of new jerks on the horizon to provide the dose of misery that women seem to yearn for. Eventually (often quite quickly), these nice guys will realize what type of man women actually want. The result is something that snaps inside of them as they begin to mimic the jerks that most women seem to pursue incessantly.
To become that kind of man, the charade must be taken to the extreme, which involves acting like a selfish person that has no regard for other people's feelings. This amounts to a jerk that will say anything to get a woman into bed. The jerk will furnish her with tons of roller coaster emotions and once he has sex with her, he'll dump her. Why? Because he feels vengeful and wants to burn women the same way he was burned. Remember; once you get burned, don't STOP playing with fire -- you TAME the flame.
So when women inadvertently give life to these jerks, they are really shooting themselves in the feet. That's the life and legacy of jerks everywhere.
If nice guys are what women really want, then why is it that most nice guys are single? Why is it that we constantly hear stories about women dating big jerks that took them for a ride -- literally?
The fact is that women generally don't want nice guys, or maybe they're too busy chasing after jerks to realize that they do. Why? Because women act on impulse and emotion rather than fact. Who do you suppose brings out these same irrepressible emotions in women? The jerks, of course.
So what does this all add up to? No one wants to get hurt, but in the same instance, no one wants to be perceived as a jerk either. That is why it's important to have a balanced attitude towards relationships. A man has to be able to court a woman, amuse her and excite her while continuously remaining a challenge.
In other words, be nice to women, but remember who comes first in life; you, your irreplaceable family and friends, and then your woman. By following my theory, women will constantly be in hot pursuit..."
Here's where I found it
... nevermind
I don't really agree with this article. Since I think "your woman" should be more important than you, your friends, and your family. But it does seem to be true that men have to be a jerks in order to appear attractive to women.
I did not know that he is not popular, btw how did you find out?
He mentioned getting dumped in one of the other threads (I forget which one).
Edit: I got rid of the link
AmSidar
05-23-2008, 03:58 AM
Sorry but some of those are big bull... what... i mean ofc on ng forum... what you took out is right i think, but on some places he really over complicated it.
SilverReid622
05-23-2008, 04:06 AM
ahh wen i say it its wat it means exactly "wat i say is wat u get" ^^ no further meanings
Hunter L
05-23-2008, 12:03 PM
Don't worry. I'll explain it.
I said to Hunter
"How are you so popular with the babes?"
And Hunter isn't very popular with the babes.
So it's a joke. Because I said something that is the opposite of what is true.
not quite but I was going along with the joke
to the point whers sure I have popularlaty with females
but just in a friend sense:iamdead:
I said to Hunter
"How are you so popular with the babes?"
And Hunter isn't very popular with the babes.
So it's a joke. Because I said something that is the opposite of what is true.
not quite but I was going along with the joke
to the point whers sure I have popularlaty with females
but just in a friend sense:iamdead:
Wes
05-23-2008, 04:55 PM
not quite but I was going along with the joke
to the point whers sure I have popularlaty with females
but just in a friend sense:iamdead:
Your a nice guy Hunter
to the point whers sure I have popularlaty with females
but just in a friend sense:iamdead:
Your a nice guy Hunter
Wes
05-24-2008, 10:50 PM
I personally when i say that i mean it, its noting more nothing less, don't know what other girls think however.
Damnit. I need to ask you this.
Did you say that on our last date? Or are you some other person?
You really remind me of her...
Damnit. I need to ask you this.
Did you say that on our last date? Or are you some other person?
You really remind me of her...
AmSidar
05-25-2008, 02:42 AM
I am 100% sure we never meet, cause i dont had male date for like... was it 3 or 5 year i dont even remember...
daniel2
05-25-2008, 06:23 AM
Lunch then next week my dear? :3
lsley
05-25-2008, 06:35 AM
Lunch then next week my dear? :3
男妾 >_< ...
男妾 >_< ...
daniel2
05-25-2008, 07:14 AM
Bilääbiäl labiodenta dental alveolar postalveolar päläätäl velar glotta... ....
AmSidar
05-25-2008, 07:54 AM
What? -_______-"
lsley
05-25-2008, 07:56 AM
Bilääbiäl labiodenta dental alveolar postalveolar päläätäl velar glotta... ....
writing something with a sence is much more fun than just listing spelling devices (and imo there shoudln't be so many "ä"s xD) :iamdead:
writing something with a sence is much more fun than just listing spelling devices (and imo there shoudln't be so many "ä"s xD) :iamdead:
daniel2
05-25-2008, 08:23 AM
They're not spelling devices but names for certain augmented letters. & Neg.
Besides I can't understand the stuff you wrote and you can't understand the stuff I wrote, even if you googled it.
Besides I can't understand the stuff you wrote and you can't understand the stuff I wrote, even if you googled it.
AmSidar
05-25-2008, 08:24 AM
so teeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeell meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. :wakuwaku:
daniel2
05-25-2008, 08:26 AM
Tell you what? How to understand a Language that it takes more or less 10 years to learn properly?
lsley
05-25-2008, 09:31 AM
so teeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeell meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee. :wakuwaku:
Tell you what? How to understand a Language that it takes more or less 10 years to learn properly?
language x german
Bilääbiäl bilabial
labiodenta labiodental
dental dental
alveolar alveolar
postalveolar palato-alveolar (sometimes also postalveolar)
päläätäl palatal
velar[/LEFT] velar
glotta glottal
Since most of them come from latin the german and english ones should be the same, there really is no need to learn a new language.
And yeah, the difference in these terms between the language you wrote and the names for this in my motherlanguage really is enormous, the ones I know describe how a sound is made, I thought I could refer to this as a spelling device -> my english sucks :hot:
Little tip, there are dictionarys for japanese =P
Tell you what? How to understand a Language that it takes more or less 10 years to learn properly?
language x german
Bilääbiäl bilabial
labiodenta labiodental
dental dental
alveolar alveolar
postalveolar palato-alveolar (sometimes also postalveolar)
päläätäl palatal
velar[/LEFT] velar
glotta glottal
Since most of them come from latin the german and english ones should be the same, there really is no need to learn a new language.
And yeah, the difference in these terms between the language you wrote and the names for this in my motherlanguage really is enormous, the ones I know describe how a sound is made, I thought I could refer to this as a spelling device -> my english sucks :hot:
Little tip, there are dictionarys for japanese =P
AmSidar
05-25-2008, 11:42 AM
If hats german then i eat my clothes.
lsley
05-25-2008, 11:54 AM
If hats german then i eat my clothes.
Then go and eat them =D
But since they are technical terms you have a point there since it's mostly latin.
Then go and eat them =D
But since they are technical terms you have a point there since it's mostly latin.
Wes
05-25-2008, 12:17 PM
So she's not her...
I'm going to try to meet girls in real life for now on.
I hate the internet.:iamdead:
I'm going to try to meet girls in real life for now on.
I hate the internet.:iamdead:
AmSidar
05-25-2008, 03:03 PM
E friends are great... dont close them out just for that.
Then go and eat them =D
But since they are technical terms you have a point there since it's mostly latin.
I learned latin but it was so long ago that i don't know any words any longer...
Then go and eat them =D
But since they are technical terms you have a point there since it's mostly latin.
I learned latin but it was so long ago that i don't know any words any longer...
reminder
05-26-2008, 02:34 PM
Sorry but some of those are big bull... what... i mean ofc on ng forum... what you took out is right i think, but on some places he really over complicated it.
The funny thing is that while you're saying that, you don't believe in it. I see "Amy x Daniel" in your sig, and Daniel neither is a nice guy nor he really understands women. Why isn't it "Amy x Wes" if nice guys are so great?
(I want to say that it's not an insult, Daniel seems to be much luckier in life because of that)
Oh, and I just love giving examples... for example, in one of my relationships I pretended to be a jerk. I and that girl got close and... when we went far enough, I started acting normally (meaning as a nice guy). The girl was rather... well, she got bored very soon and she pretty much left me soon (saying that I didn't love her enough). It was a bit more complicated though, but I toned it down for you.
Now, I always act like a jerk. Works like a charm with the ladies, though there is one "but" - being too jerk'ish makes them leave as well.
In conclusion....
If a girl says to you "you're a nice guy", it means that you need to change. Or turn to boys.
PS. I really don't understand what classification of consonants according to the place of articulation has to do with this topic. Then again, I don't understand many things.
The funny thing is that while you're saying that, you don't believe in it. I see "Amy x Daniel" in your sig, and Daniel neither is a nice guy nor he really understands women. Why isn't it "Amy x Wes" if nice guys are so great?
(I want to say that it's not an insult, Daniel seems to be much luckier in life because of that)
Oh, and I just love giving examples... for example, in one of my relationships I pretended to be a jerk. I and that girl got close and... when we went far enough, I started acting normally (meaning as a nice guy). The girl was rather... well, she got bored very soon and she pretty much left me soon (saying that I didn't love her enough). It was a bit more complicated though, but I toned it down for you.
Now, I always act like a jerk. Works like a charm with the ladies, though there is one "but" - being too jerk'ish makes them leave as well.
In conclusion....
If a girl says to you "you're a nice guy", it means that you need to change. Or turn to boys.
PS. I really don't understand what classification of consonants according to the place of articulation has to do with this topic. Then again, I don't understand many things.
AmSidar
05-26-2008, 07:33 PM
Be honest i don't think Daniel is that what he trys to show here, first i to was unsympathetic toward him, but i learned some stuff since then... and changed my mind.
He is not a big jerk then i first thought...
Maybe i said just the same as you, but still its true...
And what do you mean the girl gone whit the reason you don't love her enough?
I think it was in reserve, she did not love you enough.
He is not a big jerk then i first thought...
Maybe i said just the same as you, but still its true...
And what do you mean the girl gone whit the reason you don't love her enough?
I think it was in reserve, she did not love you enough.
daniel2
05-26-2008, 10:08 PM
For starters Finnish is nothing like german. They both sounds completely different.
I know quite a bit of german, because thats the other half of my background. I also know Finnish completely seeing as I came from there.
As for what reminder says. I don't agree with it so I don't post. If he gets to the thread first and has his say then fine. I wont have my say. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. However if I reply sooner then he does I will happily have my say but if he posts afterwards and what it says is totally against what I think nothing will be said.
I made a mistake when I first multi quoted one of his more larger posts to something. I didn't want to insult the guy I was just trying to point out that I think everything he was saying is completely wrong.
I don't know why it works for you but being a jerk to all girls is just a neg. It's stupid and it wont get you anywhere. Obviously it might where you from from if women seriously like being treateded like shit. But no one lives around where you are.
Reminder remember that what worked for you may not work for others, and seeing as your a 'sepcial case' because you treat the larger majority of your girlfriends like crap it WILL NOT work for others.
Have you ever even once considered that girls may have started liking you before Something Else changed as well as you being a complete jerk to the people your with. You might have changed something else which is what it could be, not this sudden coldness to females.
As for me being a jerk. Take that as you will. e-stereotyping has been around since forever. We're all different on the forums here and this is a place where we can all come together. I wouldn't class myself as a jerk, I'd class myself as an Honest Realist.
One last thing I will say:
The funny thing is that while you're saying that, you don't believe in it. I see "Amy x Daniel" in your sig, and Daniel neither is a nice guy nor he really understands women. Why isn't it "Amy x Wes" if nice guys are so great?
I am a nice guy. How I act on the forums is just normal for me, as dragoncrusher stated its just text, if you don't like it hit the back button or press alt + f4. I think I may be harsh but hell, if you cant take what I'm going to say then your never going to survive. No I'm not some training program I'm just honest. No one ever has to accept my opinion anyway, but it will always be given.
Remember that someones personality from a forums always differs from real life reminder.
I'm not even going into this. Again it is YOUR opinion. Just like MY posts are all MY opinion. What you say doesn't bother me because again in real life for me your words or in this case text has no effect on what really happens and on how things really are.
However if you think I don't know what I'm talking about because I don't agree with you, then perhaps YOU are the one who needs some growing up.
I know quite a bit of german, because thats the other half of my background. I also know Finnish completely seeing as I came from there.
As for what reminder says. I don't agree with it so I don't post. If he gets to the thread first and has his say then fine. I wont have my say. It doesn't bother me in the slightest. However if I reply sooner then he does I will happily have my say but if he posts afterwards and what it says is totally against what I think nothing will be said.
I made a mistake when I first multi quoted one of his more larger posts to something. I didn't want to insult the guy I was just trying to point out that I think everything he was saying is completely wrong.
I don't know why it works for you but being a jerk to all girls is just a neg. It's stupid and it wont get you anywhere. Obviously it might where you from from if women seriously like being treateded like shit. But no one lives around where you are.
Reminder remember that what worked for you may not work for others, and seeing as your a 'sepcial case' because you treat the larger majority of your girlfriends like crap it WILL NOT work for others.
Have you ever even once considered that girls may have started liking you before Something Else changed as well as you being a complete jerk to the people your with. You might have changed something else which is what it could be, not this sudden coldness to females.
As for me being a jerk. Take that as you will. e-stereotyping has been around since forever. We're all different on the forums here and this is a place where we can all come together. I wouldn't class myself as a jerk, I'd class myself as an Honest Realist.
One last thing I will say:
The funny thing is that while you're saying that, you don't believe in it. I see "Amy x Daniel" in your sig, and Daniel neither is a nice guy nor he really understands women. Why isn't it "Amy x Wes" if nice guys are so great?
I am a nice guy. How I act on the forums is just normal for me, as dragoncrusher stated its just text, if you don't like it hit the back button or press alt + f4. I think I may be harsh but hell, if you cant take what I'm going to say then your never going to survive. No I'm not some training program I'm just honest. No one ever has to accept my opinion anyway, but it will always be given.
Remember that someones personality from a forums always differs from real life reminder.
I'm not even going into this. Again it is YOUR opinion. Just like MY posts are all MY opinion. What you say doesn't bother me because again in real life for me your words or in this case text has no effect on what really happens and on how things really are.
However if you think I don't know what I'm talking about because I don't agree with you, then perhaps YOU are the one who needs some growing up.
AmSidar
05-27-2008, 03:32 AM
And you did not answer on my post, i wanted to know what you think. T_T
Syrax
05-27-2008, 01:10 PM
Well, if girls fall for the jerk kinda guys, I guess I have been lucky twice then as I have never acted as a jerk towards any girls or in poublic. Both times however, they have broken up with me AFTER they found another one. Now I haven't had a gf for 6 years and I seriously doubt I am "strong" enought to find one. I have nearly no friends, how in the wide world am I gonna find a gf then?
AmSidar
05-27-2008, 02:36 PM
Even thought everyone says it jerk is not a desired type of guy, at least for me. And no i don't think Daniel is jerk.
demonicwolf69
05-27-2008, 10:41 PM
Wes, i haven't read the whole forum (alot to read) here what i think after reading your post and few of the others.
dude first off kill the ego, it will be alot easier to find a person you like rather then have a huge ego carrying it around like a big stick. some girls will dig it most will find it rather well lame... by no means am i a expert in advice but since i have maybe 1-2 good guy friends and the rest are all female (about 20 people i consider a best friend) i get that alot.
be her friend not her boyfriend mate, first off if your a friend more then a boyfriend that means your gonna get more time with her and enjoy being near her more then maybe a girl friend at times thats not current but being friends your going to be able to learn alot about her and in doing that should she and you become close enough for a relationship then you'll know what she likes dislikes? most the time..
and if not you'll find someone theres like 6billion people on the planet your telling me you cant find 1 person you wont some day love and have a family with?
give it time dude, its better to take it slow then rush in head first and catch a upper cut to the jaw, I'm a guy I've been in your situation ALOT I've had a few swift kick to the shorts so to speak, pick yourself up and keep walking :smoker:
i apologize for the misspelling my grammar sucks diffidently...
little story about my experience in this department.
ive know this girl since basically birth, i grew up with her, she was always the popular happy go lucky girl she loved soccer and to hang out, i was always the mean boy (when i was little) i had a huge ego and i would literately through fits because she wouldn't want to go play in mud and dirt like my guy friends and would make her mad, once i grew up to probably 16-17 i started to get the itch to be with someone and she was it, of course still carrying a massive ego i tryed to impress her but she would just be like "okay..." one night i asked her out she said no because of my ego. i tryed 6 more times that summer eventually taking the hint i carried that with me for the rest of the year she in i started to talk when she turned 17 (i was about to turn 18) she i dated for 1 month and because of her attitude and ego because she had been pampered i couldn't handle it, and so i said i could date her anymore but wanted to be friends. she thinks I'm a total jerk and wont speak to me not even hi when i bump into her and if shes at the mall with her bf she kisses him i just smile and stick my tongue out.
lol ive learned to subdue my ego it gets in the way and only let it loose when I'm paintballing other wise im happy go lucky and enjoying life and alot of chick will like a guy like that then a uptight ass or one who carry a massive ego.
dude first off kill the ego, it will be alot easier to find a person you like rather then have a huge ego carrying it around like a big stick. some girls will dig it most will find it rather well lame... by no means am i a expert in advice but since i have maybe 1-2 good guy friends and the rest are all female (about 20 people i consider a best friend) i get that alot.
be her friend not her boyfriend mate, first off if your a friend more then a boyfriend that means your gonna get more time with her and enjoy being near her more then maybe a girl friend at times thats not current but being friends your going to be able to learn alot about her and in doing that should she and you become close enough for a relationship then you'll know what she likes dislikes? most the time..
and if not you'll find someone theres like 6billion people on the planet your telling me you cant find 1 person you wont some day love and have a family with?
give it time dude, its better to take it slow then rush in head first and catch a upper cut to the jaw, I'm a guy I've been in your situation ALOT I've had a few swift kick to the shorts so to speak, pick yourself up and keep walking :smoker:
i apologize for the misspelling my grammar sucks diffidently...
little story about my experience in this department.
ive know this girl since basically birth, i grew up with her, she was always the popular happy go lucky girl she loved soccer and to hang out, i was always the mean boy (when i was little) i had a huge ego and i would literately through fits because she wouldn't want to go play in mud and dirt like my guy friends and would make her mad, once i grew up to probably 16-17 i started to get the itch to be with someone and she was it, of course still carrying a massive ego i tryed to impress her but she would just be like "okay..." one night i asked her out she said no because of my ego. i tryed 6 more times that summer eventually taking the hint i carried that with me for the rest of the year she in i started to talk when she turned 17 (i was about to turn 18) she i dated for 1 month and because of her attitude and ego because she had been pampered i couldn't handle it, and so i said i could date her anymore but wanted to be friends. she thinks I'm a total jerk and wont speak to me not even hi when i bump into her and if shes at the mall with her bf she kisses him i just smile and stick my tongue out.
lol ive learned to subdue my ego it gets in the way and only let it loose when I'm paintballing other wise im happy go lucky and enjoying life and alot of chick will like a guy like that then a uptight ass or one who carry a massive ego.
reminder
05-28-2008, 02:58 PM
by no means am i a expert in advice but since i have maybe 1-2 good guy friends and the rest are all female (about 20 people i consider a best friend) i get that alot.
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and if not you'll find someone theres like 6billion people on the planet your telling me you cant find 1 person you wont some day love and have a family with?
You mentioned that you have many best friends, but you didn't say whether you have a gf.
I can agree with you - being a total jerk doesn't work either. For example, if you start punching girls, telling them that they look like crap and insulting their parents, you're not going to live happily ever after with them.
Find the golden middle, that's the best way. Me saying "I love you"? Not anymore, now I do it only very rarely and if I'm asked I'm more likely to wriggle out. Me buying presents? Yeah, for Valentine's Day, Christmas and her birthday, a flower and some personal present like a handmade Christmas star.
I may not be the best bf in the world, but hey, it seems I'm a bit better than you.
Well, if girls fall for the jerk kinda guys, I guess I have been lucky twice then as I have never acted as a jerk towards any girls or in poublic. Both times however, they have broken up with me AFTER they found another one. Now I haven't had a gf for 6 years and I seriously doubt I am "strong" enought to find one. I have nearly no friends, how in the wide world am I gonna find a gf then?
Let me ask you, did you ask those girls why they left you?
Also, I don't want to be rude, but it looks to me that you have problems with women as well. 6 years is quite a lot of time without a gf.
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and if not you'll find someone theres like 6billion people on the planet your telling me you cant find 1 person you wont some day love and have a family with?
You mentioned that you have many best friends, but you didn't say whether you have a gf.
I can agree with you - being a total jerk doesn't work either. For example, if you start punching girls, telling them that they look like crap and insulting their parents, you're not going to live happily ever after with them.
Find the golden middle, that's the best way. Me saying "I love you"? Not anymore, now I do it only very rarely and if I'm asked I'm more likely to wriggle out. Me buying presents? Yeah, for Valentine's Day, Christmas and her birthday, a flower and some personal present like a handmade Christmas star.
I may not be the best bf in the world, but hey, it seems I'm a bit better than you.
Well, if girls fall for the jerk kinda guys, I guess I have been lucky twice then as I have never acted as a jerk towards any girls or in poublic. Both times however, they have broken up with me AFTER they found another one. Now I haven't had a gf for 6 years and I seriously doubt I am "strong" enought to find one. I have nearly no friends, how in the wide world am I gonna find a gf then?
Let me ask you, did you ask those girls why they left you?
Also, I don't want to be rude, but it looks to me that you have problems with women as well. 6 years is quite a lot of time without a gf.
AmSidar
05-28-2008, 03:02 PM
As much i understood... not that he cant get a new one but could not bear if he again got left alone after it...
But maybe i am wrong lol.
But maybe i am wrong lol.
demonicwolf69
05-28-2008, 03:07 PM
nah reminder.
i just got out of a really bad relationship and since between college trying to get on locally with the vol.fire department and paintball i dont get alot of time for a relationship and the last one though it wasnt abusive it was mentally and at times physically draining.
and besides to be honest my major problem is im a loner and i prefur to hang out and not go out on dates and what not etc. i just enjoy watching movies etc not go to fancy resturants and show i have money only because i work my ass off like my ex did.
im a better freind then ill ever be a boyfreind ive always been told that.:iamdead:
enough about me this threads more for wes :soccermania:
i just got out of a really bad relationship and since between college trying to get on locally with the vol.fire department and paintball i dont get alot of time for a relationship and the last one though it wasnt abusive it was mentally and at times physically draining.
and besides to be honest my major problem is im a loner and i prefur to hang out and not go out on dates and what not etc. i just enjoy watching movies etc not go to fancy resturants and show i have money only because i work my ass off like my ex did.
im a better freind then ill ever be a boyfreind ive always been told that.:iamdead:
enough about me this threads more for wes :soccermania:
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