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eaz51
05-05-2008, 02:22 PM
well anyways ive know this one girl for a while now really liked herm dont wanna say love cause that got me in a lot of trouble before. Anyways i asked her out and everything we were going out for a few weeks and i found out that the past year and a half that ive known her she has been lying to me about her age cause last year she said she was 17 going to be 18 this year and well she's really 15 going to be 16 this year and its a relationship that im not really in for the sex really (of course if it didnt happen for a year or two then id be pissed) but as well im not asking for relationship advice (i have plenty of experience for my age thats why) or anything just how to aproach it cause im at a complete blank
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AmSidar
05-05-2008, 03:37 PM
I am not sure i understand... she lied to you about her age and now you have to wait...

what's your priority? Do you like here would you wait... or no mater...

Some things or person is worth to wait for, what do you think is she worth?
And about the lie... many time did i hear or experience same stuff, some ppl want to have relationships but are to young and lie... is she others trustworthy? If yes then i would say let this slide...

eaz51
05-05-2008, 03:45 PM
thats the major problem i like her enough to wait but im in contemplation of weather or not i should really thats all after being lied to, i know that everything else thats she told me is the truth cause i actually found this out from one of her friends and they confirm everything with me and i also know a ex of hers, idk really ive really just in the past year and half went through a life changing experience that has made me have a completely alternate opinion on women completely and this right here is actually my 2nd real relationship even though ive had several gf's in the past the whole trust issue and letting things slide and everything is drawing a blank in my mind cause i normally would of in the past of kicked her to the dirt already but im opening my mind to other things and im just trying to understand it all i guess in a way when it comes the whole trust thing and what can and cannot slide

AmSidar
05-05-2008, 04:35 PM
Think this is one what can be forgiven... and more like if she is others a trustworthy. If you can manage i would ask her to why she did what she did... it easier to decided that way... but that's a double-edged sword... if done wrong way she can get angry at you or just think you really don't trust here and the hole thing does not worth all of it and break up... but that's the worst scenario...

eaz51
05-06-2008, 05:05 PM
thx appreciate it a lot + rep

AmSidar
05-07-2008, 05:00 AM
no problem....

daniel2
05-07-2008, 06:51 AM
If she actually was fond of you she wouldn't lie. By lying shes basically thinking that your an idiot who is too dumb to find out the truth. Also man it sounds like your only in it for the sex and that your lying to yourself when you say that your not.

Honestly, I think you need to grow up before you attempt a proper relationship.

AmSidar
05-07-2008, 07:24 AM
You are to rigid Daniel, if she only did it once then she may had done it cause something else then that.
You should first always get all the facts before you do something... others it will end bad.

bushidomizer
05-07-2008, 10:43 AM
well one things for sure. you have to wait. i mean if you dont, thatd be statutory. which is a big no no. but if YOU think shes worth the wait, then wait :) it doesnt matter what others think. also, if you do in fact love her, you wouldnt have to go and confirm whether what shes saying is true or not with her friends.all we can do is give you advice. but ultimately, youre the one thatll make the final choice :] good luck friend !

eaz51
05-08-2008, 12:45 PM
If she actually was fond of you she wouldn't lie. By lying shes basically thinking that your an idiot who is too dumb to find out the truth. Also man it sounds like your only in it for the sex and that your lying to yourself when you say that your not.

Honestly, I think you need to grow up before you attempt a proper relationship.

i found out why she lied about it from her alright, its because of the fact that she hates dating guys her own age cause most of them are too immature in her opinion for her and i can understand that, and ive had a long proper relationship before that last nearly 2 years and just ended a few months ago


well one things for sure. you have to wait. i mean if you dont, thatd be statutory. which is a big no no. but if YOU think shes worth the wait, then wait :) it doesnt matter what others think. also, if you do in fact love her, you wouldnt have to go and confirm whether what shes saying is true or not with her friends.all we can do is give you advice. but ultimately, youre the one thatll make the final choice :] good luck friend !

and thx man im gonna wait till she's 17 at least, ive decided and to show her that im not in it just for the sex involved in the relationship im gonna go back out with her then to show her i can wait the entire year at least, and also cause im on probation still for the next 4 months so that really wouldn't look good, idk how easy its gonna be but if i stil feel the same when im 20 thats what will happen

AmSidar
05-08-2008, 03:55 PM
...and also cause im on probation still for the next 4 months so that really wouldn't look good, idk how easy its gonna be but if i stil feel the same when im 20 thats what will happen
This a little off topic, but what did you do?

Nikki403
05-10-2008, 02:38 AM
It really depends on the girl. If she lied to you once then it is probably ok. If she is lying to others as well, and that often, then don't waste your time. You might be together with her for a year until you figure out she has dropped you already.

You know the girl, just listen to yourself. I don't think anyone on the internet who doesn't know the girl in real life could judge that.

tvesrb
05-17-2008, 07:13 PM
doesn't seem like all that big of a lie to me
have more faith in her ^^

lsley
05-20-2008, 06:55 PM
well one things for sure. you have to wait. i mean if you dont, thatd be statutory. which is a big no no.

What is this forum mainly for?... right, anime&manga. Who buys them?... Right, almost noone here.

Is this allowed?... Right, it's not :em04:

I don't know how this is in the US or in the country you and eaz live, but where I come from reports about this are dropped if not the affected person (the girl) or the parents of the girl report you.