Can someone translate/help?

[xfyrenx]

Ok, the situation is this: over the years, and especially the last few, I've met many girls (with whom I became friends) who told me I was really nice, funny, kind, etc... and they'd usually say that I should get a girlfriend. The way they said it, it was like it's a pity I don't have one, and that I should be able to get one easily enough, yet I'm having difficulty getting one.

I know that everyone is different, and therefore other girls will react differently than my friends, but I'm wondering what they mean when they say I should/could get one. Is there some kind of hidden message in there, or am I worrying about nothing?

Sorry if it seems like a stupid question, I'm having difficulties explaining the situation.

[daniel2]

Nope no hidden message. They are just being kind. Weither or not your looks actually compliment you on the ability to perhaps get one easily may however be a different story.

But they aren't giving you a hidden message. Your just being told that your boyfriend material.

[xfyrenx]

Thanks, at least I won't have to worry about that. Now I just need to keep looking, I guess.

[Silmeria]

if you want to pressure a bit the next time they are beign kind...just tell them "if you are that worried about me getting a gf, why you dont step up and be my gf?"
see the reaction on them and see what happens o,o maybe that way they will learn to mind their own bussniess

[daniel2]

Thats if he wants a gf with those girls.

[Sunset]

hahaha *laugh my ass flying*

I see, so they told you straight forward. Unfortunately I can't comment on this one. This look complicated and I do not want to interfere.

[link99912]

Best solution...

-Tone of voice

-Body gesture

-Way they worded it...

Normally it should piece together if they're asking... It couldn't harm to simply say...

"Well, I was thinking about that... Do you have a boyfriend..? Because if not maybe you and me can go out some time."

See how that works out.

~Ps. You should also think if you want them... Because if you do then definitly go for it.

[Kalamadea]

Lol are you really 27? Guess it doesn't get any easier once you get older haha. I just turned 25 myself and I have the same situations.

Never been good with girls or confident enough to make a move and one girl I hung out with a lot would always say or do things to make me think she wanted to be my girlfriend but then other times it'd be the exact opposite.

I kinda cut her off for awhile and she calls me now and then which I don't understand so I don't know if she's toying with me or not haha.

Either way, good luck. The stuff Silmeria suggested could probably work if you're interested in any of your friends though lol.

[dragoncrusher]

Ok, the situation is this: over the years, and especially the last few, I've met many girls (with whom I became friends) who told me I was really nice, funny, kind, etc... and they'd usually say that I should get a girlfriend. The way they said it, it was like it's a pity I don't have one, and that I should be able to get one easily enough, yet I'm having difficulty getting one.

I know that everyone is different, and therefore other girls will react differently than my friends, but I'm wondering what they mean when they say I should/could get one. Is there some kind of hidden message in there, or am I worrying about nothing?

Sorry if it seems like a stupid question, I'm having difficulties explaining the situation.

your lucky im online and reading this,

if ask/tell you to get one, there could be 2 reason,
1/ is that they have feeling towards you, and are to shy to say it in proper words.
2/ they are saying you have a good personality and that any girl would date you, and this may also relate to no.1

[xfyrenx]

Lol, thanks for the replies, but no, they're not interested... I even had a really in-depth conversation about it with one, she likes me, but not that much. And I'm not the 'right type' for most of the others... Ah well.

Kalamadea :Yes, I am 27, guess it doesn't always help to get older.

[reminder]

Lol at the people above. If you think you understand women then you're gonna have huge problems when you marry.

Anyway...

xfyrenx, they explained you the problem quite well. You're just no good for a boyfriend material WHILE you are a REALLY good friend. Your friends care about you a lot, so they suggest you get a GF, yet none of them would fall in love with you. You're just like... well, for girls you are like another girl, someone to be a good friend but not have fun in bed with. Do you know that girls really like to have gays as their best friends?

Your problem is most likely your lack of masculinity. No, I'm not talking about your penis - your problem is (most likely) lack of self confidence, it may be inconsistent opinion, you may be boring or you're just old fashioned. Anyway, you have one or more traits that pretty much turn girls off. Look at your approach and approach of few others and make conclusions. You MAY (though I wouldn't suggest it) try to get a dominative GF if you're a bit too "soft".

Anyway, just work on that crap that makes girls feel secure and happy. Strong opinion, strong body, decisiveness, sense of humour... you name it. Or a plastic surgery.

[xfyrenx]

Anyway, just work on that crap that makes girls feel secure and happy. Strong opinion, strong body, decisiveness, sense of humour... you name it. Or a plastic surgery.

Lol at the last one.

I'd say I am a bit too old fashion, but it's just that I hate modern society so much I make it a point not to be too 'modern'... maybe it's a problem, maybe not... We'll see.

[AmSidar]

xfyrenx, they explained you the problem quite well. You're just no good for a boyfriend material WHILE you are a REALLY good friend. Your friends care about you a lot, so they suggest you get a GF, yet none of them would fall in love with you. You're just like... well, for girls you are like another girl, someone to be a good friend but not have fun in bed with. Do you know that girls really like to have gays as their best friends?

Your problem is most likely your lack of masculinity. No, I'm not talking about your penis - your problem is (most likely) lack of self confidence, it may be inconsistent opinion, you may be boring or you're just old fashioned. Anyway, you have one or more traits that pretty much turn girls off. Look at your approach and approach of few others and make conclusions. You MAY (though I wouldn't suggest it) try to get a dominative GF if you're a bit too "soft".

Anyway, just work on that crap that makes girls feel secure and happy. Strong opinion, strong body, decisiveness, sense of humour... you name it. Or a plastic surgery.
I could have not said it better, i could not phrase what i wanted to say, but it was basically this.

[daniel2]

your lucky im online and reading this,

if ask/tell you to get one, there could be 2 reason,
1/ is that they have feeling towards you, and are to shy to say it in proper words.
2/ they are saying you have a good personality and that any girl would date you, and this may also relate to no.1

Lucky...?

You pretty much quoted what I said.

[daniel2]

Lol at the people above. If you think you understand women then you're gonna have huge problems when you marry.

Neg on that my good man. I lol @ how you address the people on the forums here as a 'whole'.

Anyway...

xfyrenx, they explained you the problem quite well. You're just no good for a boyfriend material WHILE you are a REALLY good friend.

You just quoted what I said. Which everyone else has done in this thread except they wasted their time by explaining more then they needed to.


Your friends care about you a lot, so they suggest you get a GF, yet none of them would fall in love with you. You're just like... well, for girls you are like another girl, someone to be a good friend but not have fun in bed with.

Neg. & Neg again. Once again your talking like you are one of the girls. Stop stating things like they are absolution.
Besides how do you know he doesn't take the caek in bed?


Do you know that girls really like to have gays as their best friends?

That is bullshit. Females because the majority of them are straight like straight males the most. I speak this way because I actually know the 'facts'. Yes some females do prefer gay guys because they know they wont get hit on. But honestly, girls need guys to hit on them. It's what reminds them that they are pretty and wanted.


Your problem is most likely your lack of masculinity. No, I'm not talking about your penis.

How would you know?

Obviously.

Your problem is (most likely) lack of self confidence, it may be inconsistent opinion, you may be boring or you're just old fashioned.

Yes that goes without saying but sometimes it has to be said. The way your talking there is how you should have spoken the whole time.


Anyway, you have one or more traits that pretty much turn girls off.

WRONG. Do you even know what your talking about? That is a totally different subject. I can't even begin to explain why.


Look at your approach and approach of few others and make conclusions. You MAY (though I wouldn't suggest it) try to get a dominative GF if you're a bit too "soft".

That made me choke on my coffee. That advice is not helpful, nor is it something I think anyone would follow up on.


Anyway, just work on that crap that makes girls feel secure and happy. Strong opinion, strong body, decisiveness, sense of humour... you name it. Or a plastic surgery.

Are you actually trying to help the man? Because with that last sentence as well as the overwhelming majority of your post. You wasted your time.
It's impossible to tell when you are serious and when you are clowning around.

[AmSidar]

Well not all of those facts are wrong dany. ;)

[reminder]

Neg on that my good man. I lol @ how you address the people on the forums here as a 'whole'.

I addressed the people who have replied above me. I'm not talking about thousands of perv leeches who are also registered. If you bothered to read what you're talking about, you'd know.

You just quoted what I said. Which everyone else has done in this thread except they wasted their time by explaining more then they needed to.

If you just took the time to read both messages, you would see that we are claiming two different things. You say that he would be a good boyfriend. I say that he wouldn't and isn't. Need eyedrops? I have some spare.

Neg. & Neg again. Once again your talking like you are one of the girls.

Go and ask your doctor how in hell he knows that you have flu even without you telling him that. Oh, and do I have to be a girl to know what they're thinking? Holy Mother of God! What did those physchologists think? It's so obvious that men can't understand women and otherwise! (hey, I know how to use bold too ^^)

Stop stating things like they are absolution.

Ask your doctor to do that. "You may have flu, meningitis, a sore throat or a simple cold".

If you can't say things like they are in absolute - don't. This will mean that you're just wasting time of the person listening to you, since you don't know a c**p and are just trying to look smart.

Besides how do you know he doesn't take the caek in bed?

Because he doesn't get to bed, you, man with too many chromosomes! (no swearing, right?). It doesn't matter if you're able to fly planes if you can't ever get into one.

That is bullshit. Females because the majority of them are straight like straight males the most. I speak this way because I actually know the 'facts'. Yes some females do prefer gay guys because they know they wont get hit on. But honestly, girls need guys to hit on them. It's what reminds them that they are pretty and wanted.

Oh, right! There are SOOO many gay guys around... Just enough for every girl in the planet! Or... should they share?

Your very opinion is wrong because you don't understand what a friend is. You don't choose friends to get laid by them. You find a GF/BF for that.

How would you know?
Obviously.

How else would I know that you peed your pants till you got 16?
I don't. It, as you mentioned, doesn't matter. Still, many guys worry that their appearence is what should be improved. Guess which part do they think of first?

If you want some sense, let's just say that I was worried that the guy would be a Swedish penis pump and think that it would fix all of his problems. Like many other men think.

Yes that goes without saying but sometimes it has to be said. The way your talking there is how you should have spoken the whole time.

I see a sparkle of light in this mind of yours! Yeah, I could have said that from the very beginning. Yet, people are wonderful creatures and they tend to doubt even simplest things. So, I added a little explanation above. Which, as I see, confused that simple mind of yours I already mentioned.

WRONG. Do you even know what your talking about? That is a totally different subject. I can't even begin to explain why.

If you can't begin to explain, then don't. I also can't say that c**p tastes good but at the very least I don't say that a man who claims that is wrong. Stupid me.

That made me choke on my coffee. That advice is not helpful, nor is it something I think anyone would follow up on.

I'm sorry, but I still haven't finished my "How to Get a Wife in 1000 Steps" tutorial. Care to share yours?

Now when you f**k up doing something, you have two ways - either check how others do it or just keep trying till you succeed. Method one is much less bother, but who am I to judge. It's your choice to pick the thorny path.

Are you actually trying to help the man? Because with that last sentence as well as the overwhelming majority of your post. You wasted your time.
It's impossible to tell when you are serious and when you are clowning around.

Well, if you put it that way... I'm probably joking when I'm not talking about serious matters and I'm probably not when I'm giving advices and talking about serious matters. Glad that I could make it clear for you.

Oh, and... sometimes appearence does matter. Obviously, changing it should be the last option but it might be just what girls need.



PS. THIS IS JUST A REPLY TO DANIEL'S POST. xfyrenx, I just gave an advice like others did. It's your choice to pick the advice you like the most. I did what I had to (oh, that stupid inner desire to help people) and the rest is up to you.

[AmSidar]

Guys guys... calm down, this will soon turn into flame if you don't get some smoothing stuff...

[dragoncrusher]

what flame? its just text... so get over it like i did

[AmSidar]

I was not talking from u dc. ;)

[Wes]

I think I have the same problem.

It seems like the nicer I am to girls, the less atracted they are to me. Though they seem eager to be my friend.

Do girls like being treated like shit?

[reminder]

Do girls like being treated like shit?

That is the question for $1.000.000!

To put it simply, the answer is yes. I still haven't figured this one out, even though I have a perfect example right next to me - my sister's BF. He is a college dropout, who constantly keeps re-applying, re-accepted and re-kicked out, because he stops visiting lectures after about a month. He's 28 now, by the way... He tends to throw his crap everywhere around him, never makes himself something to eat and bitches if my sister doesn't make for him, doesn't wash his dishes, starts ranting everytime he's asked to drive anyone everywhere and likes to talk when people are actually busy doing something else. What a piece of wonder, eh? To be honest, the only thing he's relatively good at is fixing cars, though he doesn't do that often. Oh, and they both live off my mother. Even if he has really rich parents.

What he HAS is an aura of a "true man". Strong opinion, reluctance to admit that he's wrong, "manly" interests, manly psychology (why do you have to use brain when you have power). Females to him are beings of lower class and a girl driving a car looks funny to him, while a girl carrying heavy purchases doesn't. Egoistic, self-centered, ignorant - all fits him.

Yet, the funny thing is that my sister loves him! He might be great in bed, but I don't see any other redeeming qualities. Yay for the girls' minds! No logic, just emotions.


PS. I have my own theory to explain that, but I'd rather hear someone else. AmSidar?

[AmSidar]

They say if you can get something/someone easyly (right now a guy) then you don't want him/it. If you have to fight to get attention then you want him... this almost always true except for love...

Salvation: notice girl but don't run after them, they will if you don't do anything that would suggest that you want that type of relationship. At least that's what mom said to my half bro.

[Wes]

Am I understanding this right?...

Girls find guys who treat them like shit sexually attractive. And want them to be their boyfriends.

Girls consider guys who act nice to them... "nice guys". And don't want them to be their boyfriends. They want them to be their friends.


If a guy acts like he's too good to be with a girl, that girl wants him

If a guy acts like he's not good enough to be with a girl (because he didn't act like he was too good to be with a girl), that girl doesn't want him (unless she loves him)


I guess it sorta makes sense…

[daniel2]

I seriously don't know what to say.
There are so many mixed messages here and multiple opinions that totally conflict with mine.

[AmSidar]

I seriously don't know what to say.
There are so many mixed messages here and multiple opinions that totally conflict with mine.So what's your opinion? :3

[daniel2]

I just think reminder has it all wrong. If I say what I think Arika and I will start fighting again.

[AmSidar]

Oh ok then forget what i said. -_-