Do you think being nice is creepy?

[Hunter L]

ok here's a question mainly for ladies but anyone can answer this is being nice to girls a creepy thing or should more guys try it me personally I like being kind and nice to the ladies

[AmSidar]

I like if someone is natural whit me, not puts up the "wonderful boyfriend material" facade! So i dont find only later out when we go out what defects he has. But i guess i am alone whit this.

[Hunter L]

I think I see where you're comming from I didn't mean like super wonderful just you know nice always willing to listen and that sort of thing

[AmSidar]

Oh ok then yes, its good... i mean its not creepy if he can make it natural.

[Hunter L]

LOL thanks I always say sorry for anything even the smallest things would you think that's strange?

[Kalamadea]

Maybe the apologizing for everything... If it's not your fault don't apologize, of course there's like being courteous when a stranger bumps into you and you both say sorry even if it's one person's fault.

[AmSidar]

LOL thanks I always say sorry for anything even the smallest things would you think that's strange?

It can get irritating after some time. >.> Even more if i know you are not fault and you still apologize. >.<

[Hunter L]

I can see what you mean I ask this because I used to do that alot
but let's get back on topic where do you draw the line when being nice
such as if a guy brought you a bear with candy on the first date is that too much or what?

[krnxknight]

if it's a cute teddy bear i'll take it! =D

but showering me with gifts...i'd feel uncomfortable because then it might look like i'm only with him for the presents.

of course, it's always easier to ask someone to stop buying so many presents for you than to ask them to buy you more.

[daniel2]

How can kindness be creepy?

[AmSidar]

if it's a cute teddy bear i'll take it! =D

but showering me with gifts...i'd feel uncomfortable because then it might look like i'm only with him for the presents.In this country you can find lot of those who only are whit a boy for gifts. ;)

[txcforever]

In this country you can find lot of those who only are whit a boy for gifts. ;)

Hmmm... I might visit Hungary in the Summer with a friend that he will go to university there from September. Maybe you can arrange a meeting for us with some of them :31056:

[Silmeria]

How can kindness be creepy?
i find extreme kindness irksome.

[daniel2]

Well thats "extreme" kindness. Which is more or less obsession. Which IS creepy.

[AmSidar]

I think everyone agrees in that. ;)

[tvesrb]

go with general kindness

[Hunter L]

general kindness? please explain

[Rand al'Thor]

i think being nice is very important but you musn't be nice if it's not your true feeling otherwise it's just being hypocrite

[Silmeria]

sometimes they are not faking it...they are just that kind and i hate it lol

[tvesrb]

general kindness? please explain

by general kindness I mean just be nice and casual, knowing where to draw the line before creepy
and if you guys ever get serious, then it might be okay for you to buy her things, in moderation of course

[Rand al'Thor]

yes that's it tvesrb ^^ if i ever need some advice i'll call you ok?

[Hunter L]

by general kindness I mean just be nice and casual, knowing where to draw the line before creepy
and if you guys ever get serious, then it might be okay for you to buy her things, in moderation of course

ok I get it now thanks

[AmSidar]

Thats ok i guess... i thought you meant the extreme one....

[Hunter L]

my gosh no even I have limits LOL

[AmSidar]

hehehe... :hahaha: ...sorry. -_____________-

[Silmeria]

i dont think he can measure himself on kindness only other people who see him can really tell if he is overdoing it

[shahice]

being nice is ook but dun over the limit it will annoy ppl

[tvesrb]

thats also true

[xfyrenx]

being nice is ook but dun over the limit it will annoy ppl

I agree, but we can't determine where that limit is on our own, since everyone is different, and therefore we need to rely on the other person to tell us when to stop.

[faytoshana]

agree
being TOO nice is annoying...

ps: am i the youngest one in here?

[daniel2]

Does it matter if you are the youngest here....?

[himekuma]

if it's obsessive then yes, if it's just being friendly then its cool

[faytoshana]

yay! thank u daniel!

[AmSidar]

if it's obsessive then yes, if it's just being friendly then its cool

agree............:nonono:

[faytoshana]

YAY FOR NICE PPL! :th_osakawave:

BOO FOR UGLY PPL!

[xfyrenx]

YAY FOR NICE PPL! :th_osakawave:

BOO FOR UGLY PPL!

Now now, you shouldn't Boo them they can't help it. Stupid people, on the other hand...

[tvesrb]

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am i the youngest one in here?


probably not
but that shouldn't matter
at least i wouldn't think any less of you

[DragonSlave]

Being nice is not creepy. But in this time it is something rare, so you it can be considered weird. You may be seen as a weakling.
Also, if you care to much about your girl, she will begin to value less and less. I can tell it from expirience :constipation:
It does not mean she is evil, stupid or plain bitchy. People just can't appreciate something, untill they loose it.
Perhaps, you must just try to look cool :cowboy: sometimes?

To make it clear: i am kind in my heart, and i do not want to change that.
But it is very difficult task - to retain kindness in your heart. It is much easier to be coldhearted hypocrite.

[ShenZhiXian]

Just be nice, I think girls like it allot.

[Hunter L]

sorry guys I been sorta busy but to all of you posting thanks
i've put alot of this in to play so far everyone's been right believe it or not

[Hunter L]

if it's a cute teddy bear i'll take it! =D

but showering me with gifts...i'd feel uncomfortable because then it might look like i'm only with him for the presents.

of course, it's always easier to ask someone to stop buying so many presents for you than to ask them to buy you more.

sure it's a black bear too LOL I didn'thave a chance to give it to her because she dumped me but oh well

[breakdown88]

I'm usually a complete dick with a messed up sense of humor, and yet I still get plenty of interested parties looking my way. I'll be nice sometimes too, it really depends on how I feel like playing any given situation. I actually TRY strange things for the sake of getting a few real laughs or to keep things interesting. In the end its really just your confidence and natural flow that seems to spark interest.

[Hunter L]

it couldn't be said any better

[n2oblivion]

Dude long as you dont idolize her and make her feel like some jailbird goddess I think you'll be fine. This isn't ancient Egypt its the 21st century. For some reason I'm reading through this thread and remember the guy on Boogiepop Phantom who went home and imagined his videogame gf was actually real... He liked this 14 yr old girl irl, so he would pretend she was the girl from the game. She was creeped out.

[nioGara]

i don't mind if a guy is nice to me but... it does creep me out when i try to help him out and then laterz he starts to follow me and shows some kind of effection towards me. >< maybe it's just me but i would love to be friend with a guy as long as he's not all nice and lovely foe me cuz then it's not creepy. ^^

[Zaffrono]

Yea,... i bee called creepy because i am "too nice"... but i can't help it... i tried changing to be a bully or w/e but it didn't work some how being nice is impulsive for me, but it still doesn;'t get me the girl i have fallen for ... too long have i liked her and have received nothing in return.

[Hunter L]

yeah nice guys do finish last

[Zaffrono]

SUCKS SOO MUCH, cna't believe they date so much scum <_<

[Hunter L]

it angers me so but if nice guys finish last
then girls are saving the best for last well that's what I tell myself

[Zaffrono]

agreed XD I like your thinking XD