Should I.......

[paulbob1089]

My situation is kinda lame but I've been in love with this girl since i was a sophmore in high school and she knows how i feel I try enough She tells me no because (from what she tells me) she thinks of me as a friend or ld be a person she would marry and she not ready for comitment (that confused me so much:twirly::nonono:) then she got a bf that shes been with for a bout a year then i go to visit her at school then later on the way home we kiss and hold hands (even more confused:nonono::em04::twirly:) and we never spoke of it so now i see she is getting frustrated with her BF but its been a year since the kiss and i ve known her for 3 and a half years Should i try again? Should I talk to her about it? Or should i just give it up and move on? (moving on is very difficult for me as you can see):iamdead:

[paulbob1089]

Any advice is appriciated

[demoniclsayer]

From the looks of it (from what you wrote), it is not wise to have another try cause I think she might not be very loyal. I have seen some girls having a bf and a few more spare tires for backup. Even if you succeeded in getting her to be your gf, she might have some other unknown agenda behind your back.

But, if you want to go on, there is no harm trying. Just remember that, if the relationship goes sour, you must be able to let go and you must be able to accept whatever that you do not anticipate. So, that you can go on. If you can't let go, you might have more headache than you can ever imagine. Just my humble opinion.

[daniel2]

Ditch her, shes sending mixed messages. If your worth enough to her she'll come back.

[paulbob1089]

I dont think she would have any hidden agendas it was kinda like a spur of the moment kinda thing and i trust her but in your opinoin should I or should i not?

[demoniclsayer]

Perhaps I am wrong. Well, in my country, if such cases happen, most likely it is like what I said to be. I am not sure about your people's cultures and thinking though. Different thinking leads to different outcomes.

I would agree with Daniel- not to go for it. But if you really want to find out whether you should go for it, try to have a background check on the relationship problems between her and her bf. If it was the bf causing problem, then, perhaps she is worthy for you to try again. But if she was the reason behind the relation breaking apart, then I would say just let her off your mind. I know it sounds kinda like going into others private life, but if you want reassurance, that is the only way to know.

But my final opinion is still: don't go for it.

[daniel2]

Seriously, I did a background check on my ex. When I was wanting to be back with her. She thought it was an attempt to sever their relationship. Now we aren't even friends.

Don't fuck with girls in a relationship. Honestly, unless your the one with them. Your only the 'extra'

If she wants more. Then tell her its dump time for her guy.
Thats ALL you should say.

[demoniclsayer]

yeah... I knew that might happen. Girls really don't like boys poking their nose into the relationship. my friends and I did our detective job careful enough to avoid the girls knowing it (well, just to know what happening, no more than that) when we were trying to find out some details about the girl.

[paulbob1089]

So far i found out that he's bossing her around too much and she really frustrated with him. I think this would be a good time to try and console her.

[demoniclsayer]

If that is so, perhaps it is ok to try again. But avoid trying to ask her to dump her bf. If you do it in a right way, she'll start asking your opinion (or she'll automatically dump her bf). So, good luck to you.

[daniel2]

Seriously dude relationships are not a game. Especially females. Don't try and wait for a chick to be all sad before you comfort her you lazy ass.

[paulbob1089]

Lazy ass? their is no need to be mean

[daniel2]

Truth hurts.....

[paulbob1089]

Why would i try to make her feel better if their is nothing wrong? Please im looking for advice not to be ridiculed Id appriciate it if that if its not advice to please keep your comments to yourself but if you really feel the need to say it try be nice. Thank you. But none the less you think im doing something wrong so what do you think i should do?

[Silmeria]

My situation is kinda lame but I've been in love with this girl since i was a sophmore in high school and she knows how i feel I try enough She tells me no because (from what she tells me) she thinks of me as a friend or ld be a person she would marry and she not ready for comitment (that confused me so much:twirly::nonono:) then she got a bf that shes been with for a bout a year then i go to visit her at school then later on the way home we kiss and hold hands (even more confused:nonono::em04::twirly:) and we never spoke of it so now i see she is getting frustrated with her BF but its been a year since the kiss and i ve known her for 3 and a half years Should i try again? Should I talk to her about it? Or should i just give it up and move on? (moving on is very difficult for me as you can see):iamdead:
the black part just kick you in the nuts she doesnt want yuou as a person she would go with maybe just a person who have fun with(by fun i mean it in all ways) btw i am assuming the kiss was on the mouth if it was on cheeck doesnt mean really nothing i have friends who do that all the time.
if you want her that much try to manipulate from the sidelines the results with her BF you seem enough close for it.
bt the way doing this doesnt make you better as a person but if you can keep the feeling of shameness for doing this go ahead.
i see exactly that she got a bf because she doesnt find you attractive (mentally and physical) to be with her so even if she leaves her bf she wont go with you most likely so as a final advice you can try and push your luck and get her to bed even if she has a bf better than nothing for 3 years.

[Dantie Neit]

But, if you want to go on, there is no harm trying. Just remember that, if the relationship goes sour, you must be able to let go and you must be able to accept whatever that you do not anticipate. So, that you can go on. If you can't let go, you might have more headache than you can ever imagine. Just my humble opinion.

Trust me. I know from personal experience. LET GO WHEN IT'S OVER!!! if you can't let go, you can really feel awful about it in more ways than one.
1. You can hate yourself for hurting her.
2. Hate yourself for not doing things right and losing the girl you love.
3. Not just hurt her, but even drive her away. When I broke up (she broke it off) end of 04 or 05 (I'm bad with dates). We were still friends. I got carried away, pressured her, trying to win her back, giving her a lot of stuff. After a while a finally realised I pushed way too far and much. I decided to not see her at all for a bit give a little space (Yeah, Yeah. I know). Then we just completely lost touch of each other. She ended up moving away. I think that I helped her be less reluctant to move. Anyway, just make sure you don't push too much and let go if it doesn't go well. Best o' Luck.

[hochiminshii]

Ill say this Ive been in your situation before and well there really is no victory here for lets say you do get her to break it off and be with you if the boyfriend is as you say then hell you'll probobly have to deal with his ass and it would be a bad idea to assume she would wanna jump in another relationship as soon as she got out of that one you know.
but if you wanna console her as a friend or maybe as something more in the future i say go for it just watch it and dont get in too deep to the point where you cant dig yourself out

[daniel2]

People... look at the dates of this thread THIS IS OVER.

Again Dante Neit please stop bumping topics are that SO OLD.

[AmSidar]

I always wondered why do ppl have to ask the same question again and again in different treads?

[daniel2]

Because they don't realize theres a 62 day gap between posts.