I have never had a GF. I've been trying to get my head around the sort of things i would talk about if i were in one. .Tbh, I don't think i would have much to say. Does being in a involve a lot meaningless small talk?

As an experiment, I tried online dating just to have a chat. Within moments, the conversation went nowhere. With dudes, I can talk all day long about this and that. Now I'm starting to think I just suck at having conversations with the opposite sex

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Your girlfriend/boyfriend is just like your best friend, apart from you obviously love them in the girlfriend/boyfriend way dearly.

Once you have gotten to know a girl lots you will talk to them like you talk to any of your close friends because you feel comfortable around them. You have obviously not gotten to know a girl to that extent.

Kaixx is pretty much right.

You see, you can't compare the way you talk to your gf/bf with the way you talk with some guy/gal. Of course, it also depends what kind of person you(also your partner) are. I mean, if you are with a gf/bf just to be and does not actually love, like being around them and blahblah...Then of course the chances of you having less to say are higher.
A gf/bf is still your friend, it just happens that you like sto have some naughty action with him/her now and then(this sounds silly XD).
Sure, maybe you wont talk with your partner about other guys/gals...but that also depends a whole lot.
Anyway, the point is... if you too get along well, you can talk about pretty much anything.

Oh and about the meaningless talk...Yeeaaah, does involve that too XD Dont you also have that with your friends????

You have a best budd? well that ebst budd most likely u could joke around and be like "yo man i love you, no homo" (without even being shy about it)

Thats how you should feel around a girl, once you do youll never have to ask this question.

Look, maybe you will go through a lot of meaningless talk with your female counterpart. But you just have to think about it. Is that really what you want?
I'm sure you don't (at least, that's what it looks like). So then, won't it be a bad choice?

Either way, what I'm saying is, if you go through (in your opinion) a lot of meaningless talk, there's something wrong, when it concerns a long term relationship. See, I'm in a relationship now, have been in it for a while now (almost a year I guess, not THAT long of course, but it's while) and we have LOTS of meaningless talk. But then again, not the meaningless talk you mean. It's like I said in the song I wrote for her:

"We can talk about everything, not just emotional
Star Wars, Dragonball Z, and even Pokemon"

You either need to live with the fact that on a lot of parts, you don't share the same interest, OR, (which I think is the best option) find a girl that you're as comfortable with as you're with your friends, is hot, and loves the stuff you love. Now that may be a bit hard to find, but ya know what I mean. You just need to find a girl you can talk with nicely.

Now maybe you suck in conversations with the opposite sex, that's plausible. But you can work on that. Now first, don't make that conclusion based on internet talks. Internet talks can as easily go awkward as they can go nicely (sounds almost like the real world). The thing is, when you're actually talking, you can talk about a lot of the stuff happening around you. A funny looking person that's walking by for example. Have a laugh and such. Things are happening at the same place with both of you, so you can both see it happening. And well, when having a conversation doesn't come naturally, you can only learn it by practice, my friend.

Though, until you have found a girl that fits very well with you, prepare for either desperately looking for distraction ("Let's go paintballing! No? Ehm... Laserga- No? Ehm... Ehm... Sex again? True... We DID just have sex... Weeeell... You've seen that movie last... Wait... Never mind, we watched that together... So... Yeaaah... Rock, paper, scissors?) or awkward silences.

sex....... Sex........ SEX!!!!!!!!!!! and some other stuff too...... not as much fun as SEX but, your mileage may vary... :P

It's all going to be based off of what things the couple enjoys talking about. If you are open and honest with each other, the two of you should be able to find that common ground you can talk about and use that as a solid point to go deeper into those places you two find important and stay away from those places that could wreck your relationship.

Some people like to talk about random, everyday things to build up trust until they can talk about serious matters. Which...sounds like friendship! But its the same basis. Honestly....you don't even have to talk much (I hope). Its enjoying their presence and showing that you have an interest in their life. If you reduce a relationship down to only being able to talk. There's only so much you can say unless you've an amazing and adventurous daily lifestyle...Most people have a very mundane life though. I'm in a long-distance relationship so all we can do is talk. And YES damnit, its is long! Across the ocean long. Not a stupid couple hour drive long. (Sorry...I've some friends that complain about their "ldr"...) *ahem* We run out of things to talk about. A lot. But we still get on Skype when we can just because we are spending time together. Just don't get so caught up on "what" to talk about rather show interest in your partner and communicateeeeee.

And...as Mucklurker said... SEX! Its so fun teasing them....maybe I'm a tiny bit sadist....I mean... relationships aren't all about sex...but sex can be fun~

hmmm...basic conversation starters are music, movies, hobbies, dreams and goals, family, food, likes and dislikes, pets...to name a few^^;

maybe try playing 21 questions..at least it might break the ice and help you find a topic^^

Well online dating is very limiting.Relationships aren't only about talking,but also doing activities together than online you can't do.

plan to take over the world! :)

well the thing is..it depends on the couple ..if they're the type that loves to hang out on the couch, read books, that's what they do!

There's an awful lot of things happen to your daily lives, as a couple, on a day-to-day basis, the nice part is you have someone to share it with; or at least hold the other end of the board while you saw away...

Even the little daily contact, passing through the kitchen, sharing a laugh, whatever, really does make the day...

to Topic Starter:

I've been most succesful with girls when i avoid blabbering and just let my face expressions speak for themselves.
Seriously I hardly ever have any interesting things to say anyway, and from my experience girls focus more on body language than the actual conversation. I try to carefully sneak in funny remarks in normal/awkward/bizarre situations and it's usually enough to keep the relationship healthy.

If you are a bad talker like me - then atleast be a good listener and tune into her wave length but you need to have your own oppinion about things too if you want to be respected. Dont forget to adapt your face expressions/body language accordingly. If you've watched Kyle XY you know what im talking about.
Of course every girl is different (like aynaaa said) so the question is if your elements are compatible.

I talk to mine about my day, about video games I've recently played, books read, animes watched, comics/manga read, music listened to - I tend to just have a basic normal conversation. The difference is that we snuggle during it.

well some do and some dont, i talk with my gf about once every 2 days or so but i talk to my wife everyday lol ( we have a open rel. )

Surprisingly so, couples talk about normal everyday stuff.
When you first start dating, ofc the spectrum of topics is wider (sometimes awkward too) since you're still getting to know each other, but afterwards it gets better and entirely more natural.

I don't get why small talk doesn't sound important to you (= thread starter). Surely, you don't actually expect couples going out & discussing political & social issues. They might come up in a conversation, yes, but that's about it. I assure you everyday stuff that might sound awfully dull to you now, will be of great importance when you've found the person you care for.

Well~~~ since i'm in the same class as my lover, we often talk about our future, school stuff, exams... we study together, discuss everything.... money problems.... tease eachother..... he often bullies me (in a fun way ofc xD )....

Sometimes we talk about the past~~ our experiences and stuff~~
What to eat for dinner :XD:

just normal everyday stuff as if we were best friends :)

If your relationship is already well underway, your lover becomes your world's best friend and you don't have to pretend or act~~~ everything is relaxed and casual and you just talk about anything ^^

My lover and I talk about music, games, technology, politics, how our days were and various dumb things. And, sometimes you don't need to say anything, you just need to cuddle.

I did have a girlfriend before. for one thing I noticed that they're quite different from your ordinary pals, but they are not too far apart. when we're together we would talk about a lot of stuff. like her study: did she do her homework or how well did she do on the recent quiz. more or less she will reply simply but sometimes she jokes around like saying: "you sound like my mother, maybe you should switch places with her(with a teasing smile)".

sometimes we talk about what we did all day, about our friends, about us and when we're alone we would mess with each other like throwing pillows at each other and tickling each other and biting my ears off. there was this one time when I tried to tease her by asking: "do you ever think about doing ero-ero with me" I expected replies like: "shut up!", "what!?", "go to hell", "so that's how you think, how sick.", "just die" and the ever-famous line "get away from me you pervert!" but all she said was: "every now and then" (I was quite surprised at that time xD)

you can treat her like one of your normal friends but there are several limits and several differences. a meaningless talk might seem like nothing, but most of the time it can get very meaningful for each other. taking your time, enjoying each other's presence, chatting, supporting each other that's how it is

well that's it :D hope that helped a bit xD

sorry if it's quite long xD

I dunno about the others but I usually insult my bf in the most lovely ways ever. Lol. No but really we see each other every single day and we share what we seen, heard that day. We joke around and quote random stuff half of the time. And since we watch a lot of stuff and play games together we kinda comment on that. Serious discussions- if needed or if something happened but sometimes the world is just boring place. Oh and obviously the endless "what should we eat/what should I cook". Lol.
That's kinda pathetic, really. ;P

Well, based on my long distance rlship... Yes you will do all those repeating Q&A x.x maybe in the first 1 year there're lots of thigs that you and your partner want to share, but after a long time, the talks will only become a habit which only repeating like where are you, have you eat, etc....and sometimes maybe there're new topics.. but still ~_~ I think it's boring.

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