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ioanjivan6

04-09-2012, 01:34 PM

Hey there!
I realized that all the topics I start, or at least the most of them,e are about my problems:weddingpeach18:...g...I'm kinda pathetic ::destroy:

But the truth is you guys somehow solve my problems.....
So here is another one:
I've been in love with a girl some years ago and have not forgotten her or loved someone else more....... but we don't talk at all, we're not even meeting. I'd like to talk the her and see if I feel the same way but have no idea how. We were not in a relationship and I dislike her friends (the most of them). Any ideas ?
Thanks!

Siara

04-09-2012, 01:52 PM

Don't worry, I don't think you're pathethic. Just need a little more info :)

Hmm, why didn't it work out back then? Just unrequitted? Never confessed? She in love with someone else?
And why do you think you were never able to get over her?

ioanjivan6

04-09-2012, 02:10 PM

Never confessed but she may have been in love with someone else as well. I'm not sure.
Thanks but if that is not pathetic, the fact that I never confessed is:innocence2:
I'm not sure why I didn't get over her... maybe its because I wasn't that close with another girl...but maybe I wasn't that close with anyone because I was still looking for her. I tough about this before but couldn't find a answer.

daniyagami

04-09-2012, 07:14 PM

My suggestion is simple and direct: go talk to her.
You would never know what's going on without talk to her.

Hinata-Hyuga

04-09-2012, 07:35 PM

Well to advance anything, Even just being friends you'd have to talk to her. Eventually you will have to do it face to face and i think that would be best but if you want to take it slower there are plenty of other ways. I know how hard it is to carry conversation, so try messages txts, chats, IM ect. If you are uncomfortable around her friends i wouldent let that stop you. You want to know her not her friends.

Mucklurker

04-10-2012, 03:13 PM

I'll second Siara's thought, it's not pathetic. If you have issues, it's good to recognize them and learn from them. It's how we as humans can grow....or in some cases, not learn and not grow.

If you have to go completely out of your way to meet her and it's been a long time since you have had any interactions with her...that may not be such a good thing. A lot can change over time and you might even be forgotten to her. You don't even know how she felt about you, which MAY mean that your chance of starting something with her is.....near non-existent.

About the friends of her's you dislike.....well, she might have some traits of those friends. :l Just saying.

You are going to have to come out of your shell and try to start a relationship with someone who fits into what you are looking for in a person. Make sure you know you have a very good idea of what you are looking for in a person first, otherwise you will not be doing yourself any good.

Setebos

04-10-2012, 04:00 PM

I can't give a better or more complete answer than the ones that you've been given. I can only affirm what's been said, so don't put it off. You'll never know if you don't try and don't take a chance. The very worst that can happen is failure, but you can have peace of mind with that and move on with your life.
Good luck to you.

Siara

04-11-2012, 05:55 PM

I completely agree with Muck on this issue. He covered everything important so I have nothing to add unless you still have questions or any doubts about anything else regarding this issue. Feel free to do so. Everyone here thinks that way ^ ^

ioanjivan6

04-11-2012, 06:10 PM

Thanks for all the answers!

I'll second Siara's thought, it's not pathetic. If you have issues, it's good to recognize them and learn from them. It's how we as humans can grow....or in some cases, not learn and not grow.

If you have to go completely out of your way to meet her and it's been a long time since you have had any interactions with her...that may not be such a good thing. A lot can change over time and you might even be forgotten to her. You don't even know how she felt about you, which MAY mean that your chance of starting something with her is.....near non-existent.

About the friends of her's you dislike.....well, she might have some traits of those friends. :l Just saying.

You are going to have to come out of your shell and try to start a relationship with someone who fits into what you are looking for in a person. Make sure you know you have a very good idea of what you are looking for in a person first, otherwise you will not be doing yourself any good.

You're right and that's the problem (not that you're right lol ). That's why I didn't act sooner.

There is a saying: "If you're unsure about the character of a person, look at the persons friends." If she really has a annoying character the that's it, I'm not good at people and I'll move on, but I am really eager to see her personality, even if it changed.

The reason is that we do say hi when we meet and such, all is nice ..... but when he part I'm like: "dafuq happend?"

So yea... I still want to talk to her. Actually, if being friends sounds pretty good as well since she seems a interesting person.

Anyway, I need a strategic approach. Any ideas?

ColuSeven

04-18-2012, 02:11 AM

Throw strategy to the wind my friend and say hello! ask how she's been. make small talk and catch-up :)

raginu

04-19-2012, 11:24 AM

Honestly...
I would like to know something first...

ioanjivan6

04-23-2012, 01:45 PM

I challenge you to upset me!

raginu

04-23-2012, 02:50 PM

I don't even remember anymore what I was gonna ask lol ...

Anyway... any progress ?

ioanjivan6

04-23-2012, 03:20 PM

Man... I really looked forward to that ...^^ Nope, no progress

ColuSeven

04-30-2012, 06:09 PM

how about now? :P

Mitsuki ダイヤモン

05-19-2012, 11:04 AM

U should confess to her,u know? Better than juz keep silent about ur crush and regret after tat xD