What is LOVE to YOU?

[daniel2]

This is mainly for ladies because most men are pretty blind when it comes to answering this one. (No offense, I'm a guy too you know).

I was thinking today talking to my girl and she was explaining a worst-case-scenario (if it was to happen) about her going to a friends tomorrow. It basically got to the subject of what if she died :em04:, and I thought well lol I'd be only hours/minutes/seconds?? behind her.

It got me thinking, when I told her that, was that what I thought love is? To not be able to go on living if someone else wasn't around?

I've quested all my life to find out the true meaning, and I think that people cannot define it by age, i.e (Your too young to know love). However it does make a difference if your older and 'wiser'.

To this day I'm sure I know what love is. Too me at least.

I've known my girl for a year and I know that no matter what I say no one else on planet earth will know what her and I have been through, so its pointless to try and explain it.

So maybe love is the ability to know the difference?

Anyway, post away.

[kiziroglu]

the further step of being "best friends".
I beleive that sexual desire doesn't have to be involved.
Because of the way I live my life, I keep my understanding of the love under the rules of logic. I don't do stupid things for her just because I'm in love with her.
That's all.

[Silmeria]

love is giving sharing with someone happy times and bad ones no matter what love is giving everything you have to one person without expecting anything in return but waiting to your feelings get anwsered thats one of the reasons one sided love never works, love is not about likeing someone enough to die if she/he dies love is about if she died you will live your life like you wanted her to live it(in pursue of happyness since we humans can never be 100% happy) love has many definitions and depends on the persons now love can be so backstabbing sometimes ...and get to another definition true love....i havent find that one yet so i cant explain it.
another there is no such thing as love at first sight just 2 idiots horny.

[emersedsin]

heh...sry,i know this is mainly for ladies, but in my opinion, the true meaning of Love varies. I've heard alot of so called definations of "love" but most of that is mushy stuff... Love is a wonderful thing not meant to be restricted to words of meaning. Some feelings cannot be explained, but must instead be understood on your own... but then, thats just my own opinion...

[darkJester]

- - - - bare with me, its gonna be a long post - - - -
i also realized that your looking more for a woman's/girl's opinion, but considering the male population on this site GREATLY outnumbers the female, u prolly won't get too much of a female response... so i'd like to give my 2 cents on the subject...

and on that note....
well, 1st off, i want to target your comment on love and age...

I'm glad that u admit that your at least somewhat clueless on the subject... though i would think most everybody is these days, regardless of age... i can tell u this though, when i was your age i thought i knew what love was, and quite some years later, i realized i was dead wrong...

Granted i know from time to time, you'll come across somebody that truly is wise beyond their years, most aren't... and what u think u know now, u'll find out later to be almost complete nonsense... u did say, "However it does make a difference if your older and 'wiser'." which is true in itself, but age doesn't grant wisdom... the experiences u have, and the knowledge u accumulate through out the years is what gives u wisdom... so what i'm getting at, is that age does matter when it comes to understanding love or anything else for that matter, but only to a certain point... and only if u take advantage of those years...

now... what is love to me....
Over the past few years, that topic really has crossed my mind a lot... i'm currently not seeing anybody at this time, but a couple years ago, i did have a GF for a while... and the whole time, i was waiting for that "Feeling" to reveal it self, but it never really did, so after some time, i decided i didn't want to lead her on anymore, and broke off the relationship... but afterwards i thought to myself, what "love" really is... or what i thought it was.... and this is what i came up with...

"Love is something u feel with every fiber of your being... something that can't be questioned... love is understanding, and acceptance.... being able compromise and go out of your way for that person.... it's being able to appreciate the little things, while making sure u don't get carried away with the BIG things... love is not knowing what to do, and at the same time having the confidence to do it despite that fact.... love is unconditional"

that's not what i believe love is, that's what i HOPE it is... cuz to be honest, i'm still very clueless on the subject of love...

on another note, i don't believe in love at 1st sight, i think for u to truly love somebody u have to love ALL of them, not in spite of their shortcomings, but because of them... and one can't possibly feel this if u don't know anything about that person....

well, i think that's it for now, i'll comment later if i get any responses to my post, if not... gg no re...

k thxs....

[daniel2]

I'll take anyone and everyones opinion as long as you are mature enough to give answering the topic a proper go rather then to spam or post garbage.

[shahice]

for me love mean that u care for someone or other that u really like a lot even it will hurt u someday but if that will make that person happy i love to do anything for that person...

[Pekzor]

Love is when you are willing to do ANYTHING for that person for the rest of your life.
Even lowering yourself to begging, so that she will take you back. (that's the sucky part of being in love)

[rising crescent]

sex without love is only physical "desires" meaning only, cannot survive for long term, too deep with this, sex is only in animal meaning only
too much do this, it will drain your life energy,further make possibility of...death.

sex without God's Name will only Invite Heavy Punishment from God.

its true is not easy in this term because responsibility things. but these are for Good things in human itself only.

[txcforever]

Well love is the desire to be with one person and accept any faults she/he has without trying to change them. Anything else is just rubbish and just an excuse to have sex with them (which is fine by me, love is overrated now days).

[xfyrenx]

I'd say love is wanting to be with the other person all the time, and enjoying every moment of it, whether it be eating, talking randomly, or silence (or anything else). Also, not getting tired of looking at them, and feeling that nothing can go wrong while in such company. IMO, sex has NOTHING to do with love, maybe at best a step to it.

Sorry if that sounds a bit cliché, I'm quite bad at expressing feelings.

[Lone_Wolf]

Love is a sum of many component. Element that you could feel for other people, but not at the same time.

Friendship.

Sexual desire.

Care for the partner, beyond the care for yourself.

The loved person is in the same time our best friend, the most desired girl in the world, and something we care about more than our life.

It' something difficult to explain (and with my bad english even worse...) but it's something that you can easily recognize.

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As for the lover's death or disappearance... it' hard but not deadly.

Love is a personal need, we can say that "Everybody need someone to love", there are several that can make you fall in love in the world. (normally one at time… but this is not true for everyone apparently).

So you can feel love again, and again even if you lose your loved one. (for any reason, more or less dramatic)

[gakidou]

Love is when you are willing to do ANYTHING for that person for the rest of your life.
Even lowering yourself to begging, so that she will take you back. (that's the sucky part of being in love)

lol i call that desperate =p

to me, TRUE love needs at least these 4 things (and i'm sure everyone can agree to this):

1. Loyalty - Staying by their side no matter what. You don't question their actions, you support them.

2. Action - What you are willing to do for the person to make them HAPPY, even if it means them leaving you for someone else that makes them happier.

3. Being able to love yourself and appreciate yourself. You won't have what it takes to love someone if you don't even love yourself and treat yourself well. If you can accept who YOU ARE, then you will be able to accept others. I don't believe in loving our partner more than you love yourself, because then that is claiming your partner is more important than you. No, you must love yourself and your lover equally. You can't stay happy if you don't satisfy your own needs before satisfying your partner's needs.

4. TRUST - (i still lack this area, mostly because i lack trust in myself) This goes along with loyalty, but yeah... trust is definately 100% needed.

To me, love is not about feelings. Feelings can only last so long. There must be more than that for it to be called TRUE love. Nothing lasts forever, even "feelings" of love, so you need other things to keep things together, and the more, the better.
Emotional feelings are very basic things in life, you need more than just emotions to keep your relationship going.


And I agree /w DarkJester... when you grow older, you look back about ur thoughts of love and think: WTF was i thinking? LoL....

[tvesrb]

well, thats a complicated question, but I'll give it a go


-love is one's willingness to let go of their own insecurities in order to be with the one they love

-Its the desire to bring them happiness, even at the cost of your own

-Its thinking about them regularly

-Its finding even their most trivial of activities to be interesting or memorable

[beyazm]

for me love mean that u care for someone or other that u really like a lot even it will hurt u someday but if that will make that person happy i love to do anything for that person...

same as above...

[daniel2]

same as above...

You quote alot..

[txcforever]

I'd say love is wanting to be with the other person all the time, and enjoying every moment of it, whether it be eating, talking randomly, or silence (or anything else). Also, not getting tired of looking at them, and feeling that nothing can go wrong while in such company. IMO, sex has NOTHING to do with love, maybe at best a step to it.

Sorry if that sounds a bit cliché, I'm quite bad at expressing feelings.

Yeah that's sound like a cliche. You mean you can have a relationship without sex? It's not the most important thing in a relationship but not having any will end any relationship no matter how strong feeling there are between the couple.

[daniel2]

You mean you can have a relationship without sex?

I see something very wrong there.

[AmSidar]

Me to... anyway i never was the love crazy type, and actually never was in love.

If you ask me there is two type of love... one is that fast strong type (love at first sight) what leaves you devastated after it, whit kid, astronomical bills or some stupid nonsense. I would say avoid it at all cost... but hmmm you cant decide when to fall in love.... sadly.

The other love is between ppl who first only liked each other and later fall in love cause they stay together, this is more permanent usually ending whit good marriage, and happy family.

I saw some cases where "first sight love" turn into permanent but its very rare, at least as i observed.

..And love not build on sex as some hormonal i****s think who think whit they penises. Love is that you would do everything for the other person no mater what, and if he/she loves you back he/she does the same. Also i think love is also a strong bond of trust, also the feeling that you both make each other feel safe when together.

Sex is only the "foam on the cake" as we say it around here. You enjoin it whit the person who you want to live whit.

I am off here...

[txcforever]

Me to... anyway i never was the love crazy type, and actually never was in love.

If you ask me there is two type of love... one is that fast strong type (love at first sight) what leaves you devastated after it, whit kid, astronomical bills or some stupid nonsense. I would say avoid it at all cost... but hmmm you cant decide when to fall in love.... sadly.

The other love is between ppl who first only liked each other and later fall in love cause they stay together, this is more permanent usually ending whit good marriage, and happy family.

I saw some cases where "first sight love" turn into permanent but its very rare, at least as i observed.

..And love not build on sex as some hormonal i****s think who think whit they penises. Love is that you would do everything for the other person no mater what, and if he/she loves you back he/she does the same. Also i think love is also a strong bond of trust, also the feeling that you both make each other feel safe when together.

Sex is only the "foam on the cake" as we say it around here. You enjoin it whit the person who you want to live whit.

I am off here...

I didn't mean a love built on sex but sex-making love being an integral part of it. Come on let's face it, from a certain age and later a strong healthy relationship cannot survive without it. In my opinion it's not the foam on the cake but the chocolate inside (you can still eat it but it doesn't taste as good and you soon get bored of it).

[magicow]

- - - - bare with me, its gonna be a long post - - - -
i also realized that your looking more for a woman's/girl's opinion, but considering the male population on this site GREATLY outnumbers the female, u prolly won't get too much of a female response... so i'd like to give my 2 cents on the subject...

and on that note....
well, 1st off, i want to target your comment on love and age...

I'm glad that u admit that your at least somewhat clueless on the subject... though i would think most everybody is these days, regardless of age... i can tell u this though, when i was your age i thought i knew what love was, and quite some years later, i realized i was dead wrong...

Granted i know from time to time, you'll come across somebody that truly is wise beyond their years, most aren't... and what u think u know now, u'll find out later to be almost complete nonsense... u did say, "However it does make a difference if your older and 'wiser'." which is true in itself, but age doesn't grant wisdom... the experiences u have, and the knowledge u accumulate through out the years is what gives u wisdom... so what i'm getting at, is that age does matter when it comes to understanding love or anything else for that matter, but only to a certain point... and only if u take advantage of those years...

now... what is love to me....
Over the past few years, that topic really has crossed my mind a lot... i'm currently not seeing anybody at this time, but a couple years ago, i did have a GF for a while... and the whole time, i was waiting for that "Feeling" to reveal it self, but it never really did, so after some time, i decided i didn't want to lead her on anymore, and broke off the relationship... but afterwards i thought to myself, what "love" really is... or what i thought it was.... and this is what i came up with...

"Love is something u feel with every fiber of your being... something that can't be questioned... love is understanding, and acceptance.... being able compromise and go out of your way for that person.... it's being able to appreciate the little things, while making sure u don't get carried away with the BIG things... love is not knowing what to do, and at the same time having the confidence to do it despite that fact.... love is unconditional"

that's not what i believe love is, that's what i HOPE it is... cuz to be honest, i'm still very clueless on the subject of love...

on another note, i don't believe in love at 1st sight, i think for u to truly love somebody u have to love ALL of them, not in spite of their shortcomings, but because of them... and one can't possibly feel this if u don't know anything about that person....

well, i think that's it for now, i'll comment later if i get any responses to my post, if not... gg no re...

k thxs....

love your qoute and i'm using it =)..

i'm just a pretty young kid 18.. but i have my opinions... love to me is being able to stand somone without trying... always being able to bounce back and not stress anything too much..

[aiman_nonpsyco]

love is not how much love u have in the begining..its how much love u make till the end..

[demonicwolf69]

well this is kinda were my femy side is i guess..

to me its someone who i can share alot of fun experinces and laugh and smile at take her home and watch a movie till she falls asleep in my arms or something to that. someone who i worry bout but dont show it and is fun to with at anytime someone who when i cry she crys and vice versa.

that make any sense? i unno maybe its just me but ive never found a women like that to me i dont care for looks just for how much fun they can be and if they can see past my bad spots. no women ive met have/will do that so *shrugs* ive not truly found True love....

interestin awnsers tho :D

[daniel2]

I don't know how to describe the love I have for my girl.... =\

[prokuyt]

"Love is just a word used to describe the chemical reaction in our brains..."
"Love is the word used to label the sexual excitement of the young, the habituation of the middle-aged, and the mutual dependence of the old."
"love is a disguise civilized people used to describe primal lust"
"Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage."

[Satsu]

LOL i like your last one xD "Love: a temporary insanity, curable by marriage."

[antiuniverse]

A chemical reaction.

[wolf]

Love isn't something you feel but something you know, like once you meet someone you like if you feel that click in your brain you know your in love, even though most people don't recognize this and think they're in love even when they are not.

Also love can be something of the hart that you feel until it grows and bursts into a feeling that can only be described as wonderful.

[PaulRotterdam]

The original question was asked to girls to answer, but boy's answered the most.
Being free on internet man do can speak what they feel about...

Love. I am not good with it. I am to selfish to open up to others i think.
Amsidar wrote it correct i think.

I try to see it in reverse. You love a person untill you do not mind to turn away and leave him/she. The more you are changing youre dates and posponing them the less you love the person else you had tried to increase them dates / visits.
So in a relation i wonder often if this is it? and do i still feel good with it and am i looking forward or just happy that the weekend is over...
Nah, i am not good in love i think.

Ow, this. I read somewhere here that people do not like to be rejected so they do not come into action and do not talk to girls/boys because of the fact that they can be rejacted and maybe (hell) laughed by others.

Ha.

Their life isn't even started yet.

Love is when you do not care at all and cry out in the middle of a bus, train, metro, school or what if you hear that someone you (apparantly) love is hurt.

Sometimes you do not even realise you love somebody that much. Thats why i wrote apparantly.

When i had to put my cat to sleap by a animaldoctor i have cried out so loud that i never saw the doctors face through my waterfall.... he suggested me afterwards to walk for some time and then step into my car. Yep. I did. And i did not mind that others were there or what. You just grieve.

[Vuki]

This is mainly for ladies because most men are pretty blind when it comes to answering this one. (No offense, I'm a guy too you know).

I was thinking today talking to my girl and she was explaining a worst-case-scenario (if it was to happen) about her going to a friends tomorrow. It basically got to the subject of what if she died :em04:, and I thought well lol I'd be only hours/minutes/seconds?? behind her.

It got me thinking, when I told her that, was that what I thought love is? To not be able to go on living if someone else wasn't around?

I've quested all my life to find out the true meaning, and I think that people cannot define it by age, i.e (Your too young to know love). However it does make a difference if your older and 'wiser'.

To this day I'm sure I know what love is. Too me at least.

I've known my girl for a year and I know that no matter what I say no one else on planet earth will know what her and I have been through, so its pointless to try and explain it.

So maybe love is the ability to know the difference?

Anyway, post away.

I know I'm not blind on this issue when I have an exact opinion on love....

Love to me is a mistake. Something started in the beginning of time as a form to organize society by creating "couples". Love can be so cruel. You can break and forever feel complete pain and agony or you could change and become someone everyone else hates. Love is a horrible excuse to try to better humans. This is of course my opinion on love between couples. When your talking about love between friends or family. Then I believe differently.

I hate love the same way I hate religion. Love has always been something that's "taught" as the last and final thing everyone must have to live a successful life. Which is BS. I don't want to believe in going to church to worship a god that might not actually exist. I do believe that a creator could exist though. Just everything that religion builds "a creator" to be, is horse s***. This must follow for Love as well. What we were taught, generation to generation, about love just seems wrong. Love can't be like in the movies (the white fluffy clouds, strolling over the rainbow holding hands) without one or another lying to each other.

[Antique]

Love is cool to experience but doesn't last too long... The perfect love would be someone your crazy about for a bit then slowly go into a more friendly type then eventually someone you'll be able to stand or not hate...

[Sakujo]

Score! Philosophy time!

Love is one of the most complicated subjects in all of philosophy, and asking for a definition of it is no light thing.

Personally, I see several types of love, all with variations on one fundamental theme: Love is a relationship with something that gives you pleasure.

One can have love for their car, their favorite show, etc, just as they cna love another human being, either as family, friend, or lover. What, then, distinguishes these, or apparent gradients in relationships?

First of all, love is most certainly a state of one's physiology. Love "grows" as pleasure mounts due to prolonged and enjoyable contact. Pleasure comes in many forms, both physical in the way we typically think of it (in physical touch, emotions, etc) and in inner psychological drives (such as feeling greater liking toward things one has been exposed to more often and evolutionary attractiveness).

Love for a friend, I would say, is primarily a relationship of support/value/benefit or a relationship based on pity.

Love for a family member is a relationship primarily based on social ties and responsibilities.

Love for a lover is one primarily based on intimate contact or passion.

Love for a stranger, or altruism, is more truly a reflection of the desire to satisfy the self simply for the sake of the self. That is, your unique ideas of what is pleasure (ie, what should be done) are what guide you into such action, rather than the basic biological drives and social ties that push all people to the other three.

Clearly there are more aspects to each of these, such as that dependence leads one to friendship-type love. These forms also overlap.

What distinguishes between things like "puppy love", "dependent love", and "mature love"? One's mental health/the healthiness of the relationship and the individuals within it, the amount of time together, and the way the partners approach one another. That is, if one seeks a relationship, be it monogamous or polyamorous, they think often of both themselves and the other, and seek to be as good-willed toward them as possible. Furthermore, they have wisdom in doing so. Usually such an outlook takes a long time to achieve, and thus this is why children are rarely said to be "truly in love". The longer individuals are together, the better they can understand each other, and therefore better relate, and this gives access to better treatment. Furthermore, the wisdom to properly act in relationship often takes time and experience of its own, though this is an issue of the individual, rather than both partners having a long relationship together.

It should be noted that many say things such as "sluts can't love" or the like. However, one form of love Is, in fact, sharing physical contact. Nothing is degraded by having sex with many people, or "sharing the love". These individuals simply have a different desired connection with others.

[cooleyhighbit]

Well love is the desire to be with one person and accept any faults she/he has without trying to change them. Anything else is just rubbish and just an excuse to have sex with them (which is fine by me, love is overrated now days).

real shit nigga
personally i think if u can wake up next to this person every morning (with wake up breath) even if u didn't have sex then u headed somewhere, i wake up to a bit but the only one i want to wake uo to now is grumpy in the morning(kinda**505:cute)

[cooleyhighbit]

I'd say love is wanting to be with the other person all the time, and enjoying every moment of it, whether it be eating, talking randomly, or silence (or anything else). Also, not getting tired of looking at them, and feeling that nothing can go wrong while in such company. IMO, sex has NOTHING to do with love, maybe at best a step to it.

Sorry if that sounds a bit cliché, I'm quite bad at expressing feelings.

:th_osakawave:A+

[Yizamat]

I came to the conclusion when I was 13 that I won't properly understand love for long time, mainly because of all the junior high students around me "in love" with their' boy/girlfriends, only to break up weeks, possibly days later.

I'm almost out of high school and I still have no definition, but I very much like Sakujo's philosophy. It sums what can't be summed up quite nicely, enough so that it should be in a book. A big book with gold colored pages. 'Cause those are the best kinda books.

[Sakujo]

I came to the conclusion when I was 13 that I won't properly understand love for long time, mainly because of all the junior high students around me "in love" with their' boy/girlfriends, only to break up weeks, possibly days later.

I'm almost out of high school and I still have no definition, but I very much like Sakujo's philosophy. It sums what can't be summed up quite nicely, enough so that it should be in a book. A big book with gold colored pages. 'Cause those are the best kinda books.

Lol. Well, I'm glad that someone read it and understands it. I keep seeing these naive definitions being posted. Guys, seriously, what you're asking for is unrealistic and in many cases would be probably be unhealthy if it were possible.

[hyo11]

ohh......thats why love is too complicated to understand.....

[C02M0]

"What is love?
baby dont hurt me , dont hurt me no mooooooooore !!!"

back to topic :
love is simply the attraction to an other person .

[blackleaf]

well for mel.. there are really no words or sentence that can define love.. love is just something that exist inside your heart..

[Wisteria45]

"What is love?
baby dont hurt me , dont hurt me no mooooooooore !!!"

exactly my thoughts....

[Shiiro]

Real Love? Something sweet and fluffy that makes your heart warm; tolerance and patience for the people you care; all smiles. :) :) There are times things go wrong, but because of love you get to be patient and try to settle things without hurting others. Usually Real Love leads to passionate love-makin. XDD Yeah, it's funny, but it's true. You become one with the person you love. :) That's why marriage is a good thing. :)

Edit: And I do not mean the stupid "love" teens nowadays experience. That's stupid. That's why you have to look VERY VERY HARD for a person who sincerely loves you and accept your negatives and positives; and you must do the same. That is Love. :D

[Dnajun_Tnuieh]

Love is difficult to explain. It gives you an identical feeling to lust, but better. Definetly not something you would want to confuse with lust though.. Confusing lust for love, well, could be rather painful in the end.

[affie]

To me love is that you care about a person. The love I mean now is the love between male anf female. If I find a girl I really love, I'd die for her.