how hard is it to forget ur first love...

[aiman_nonpsyco]

i had this relationship before..and we both shared our first kiss...
it was really cool...


but then we broke up....

n i cant forget her no matter wat i do...

i even tried to attempt a suicide...but i was stoped by my feeling towards her..

i love her...i really love her...

what should i do??


:iamdead::defeat:

[kiziroglu]

well, I'm still with my first love, engaged, an so on... so I don't have any such troubles :)

[Sword]

I will share a bit of info with u:

I have never loved a girl in my life but did attempt a suicide, not once but twice. It is better to have love once then not at all, trust me. All your happy moments and experience can save your life from the dark abyss, in which your case has. Love can make a man or women stronger then they were once before. Your experinces with your ex may have change your views in life for the better (I hope). Even though it hurts now you will recover in the long run and find love again. Life is a process of pain and happiness. You mustn't stop if the pain is unbearable, but instead go ahead and face life head on.

Hope this help you, but just remeber that at least for a moment you were happy and I think that what we all strive for.

PS: I'm soo lonely:iamdead:

[the_bacon_man]

The first girl that left did not have much for an impact(a wekk of dating not that much) the first time i've gotten into a strong relationship, i stopped going to school for 4 days until my friends used a spirit+10 speech on me... and then started kicking my ass for being so mopey

[Sora]

Do crushes count ?
I can forget about crushes, easily, I guess .

[the_bacon_man]

i think they are talking about the first love you really feel and the one that normally hurt the most

[RockmanX204]

Ah, the first love is hard to forget...

[aiman_nonpsyco]

:iamdead:

i still cant forget her...

:escape::*^8:


everytime i think,her face pops out in my head...

its really scary...

:189bbdde:

[toadvine]

Just give it time, my man - you never TRULY forget, but you won't think of her nearly as often the longer ago everything becomes. It especially helps once you find someone new!

At least, that's been my experience.:one:

[shahice]

never forgot 1st love cause it the most beautiful thing in this sick world

[stryfe]

First...chill with the suicide stuff. No person is worth that. The one thing that will heal your wounds is TIME. The heart will heal....promise

[the_bacon_man]

Like i said earlier, my first love was a bitch so no prob, but the one i've rly loved...

a month of two of depression until my friends did an intervention not to help me, but to work on the school project that counted to 30 of the year grade ( i was always the guy that does all the work)

[daniel2]

I think its impossible to forget your first love.

[the_bacon_man]

if your first love was such a bitch like mine, you cannot forget but you can stop caring about it

[xtehlegendx]

I have never forgot the first time i met my gf. Dam we have been together for almost 5 years now. Ever since sophmore year of high school. We were walking to class and i bumped into her and she said hi. Then later on the school year we got close and i asked her out to winter formal (dance). Then when Saddies Hawkin's dance came she asked me out and ive been with her ever since, but just lately we got into an argument and this post just brain jogged me XD

[the_bacon_man]

legend i've got only one to day say for you, GET OFF TAH INTARNETZ AND GO TO HER

believe me, if you still love her after 5 years then don't lose her because of an argument

[shahice]

we will never forget ur 1st love cause it teach us soo many thing about life

[the_bacon_man]

Mine teached me that i should maybe not go out with the crazy bitch that made my friend (her first ex) goes nuts and that being the second choice always suck

[rurushu]

I kinda understand your situation here. But i think i cant provide any useful help to you. I did have such feelings before and i was kinda lucky because i had fall in love with my friend's gf and i didnt know they were couple until the day before i wanted to confess to her. The person who told me about them was a friend of hers. I was so shocked and feeling sad and like you, i just hard to forget her face... then i turn into watching animes, ALOT of animes, trying to keep my attention away from thinking of her and who knows? It works for me, im kinda ok already right now. So if you think you're a person who likes anime,then why dont you try it? You dont lose anything if it fails, right? :)

[gakidou]

my friends used a spirit+10 speech on me... and then started kicking my ass for being so mopey

I love the video game talk man haha +10 spirit speech...

errr well... i'm telling you 1stly, suicide is for losers. It's taking the easy way out of life. Suck it up, live life, and LEARN from it. Don't be a coward.
It's okay to think about suicide, it's okay to feel sad and hurt, but to try it is a coward's move.

Anyway, sorry just felt strongly about saying that.

Yes, I've had that 1st love in high school, it was hard to get over at first. But you GOTTA realize there are A BILLION other girls out there that WILL be better than your first love.
Instead of missing her/him, APPRECIATE that time you had with them. TAKE all the things you learnt from the relationship and USE it to help make your next relationship better. Don't
try to ignore her in ur head.... CONFRONT IT =) running away from the problem only makes things worse. It helps to see friends and family. Spend time with others. And also you need
time to be alone as well... but don't lock yourself up.

Life is all about having relationships, and LEARNING from them. You'll find a lot of people have the same problems from one relationship to another, and that's because they aren't learning from their past relationships.

After a few serious relationships i'm now with someone I REALLY love and care, and the reason we're so happy together is because we learned from our past relationships.
Some may not agree, but let me tell you something about this thing called LOVE:

1. True love does not purely rely on "LOVE".

2. you must have more than just that feeling of "love" for each other. Feeling is not enough, you need to have other things to go on. Such as common goals, interests, similar values.

3. Love is an ACTION not a feeling, love is something you DO. (I.E. being there when someone needs you. Cook a meal for your gf/bf. Hugs, kisses, etc. Helping a friend in hard times.
Forgiveness as well.)

4. The small matters count. Sometimes, even more than the big stuff... it ALL ADDS UP!

5. Private space and time alone is required, don't suffocate each other to death.

6. LOVE requires HARD WORK, it doesn't just happen. If you have problems, TRY to solve them. DON'T be stubborn.

7. Learn to forgive (depending on the action tho ;p)

8. COMMUNICATE!!!! Talk about the things that annoy/bug you or her/him (i.e jealousy or stuff like that). Talk about how you can deal with these things. But also talk about the good things!!! My gf and I make a point to review each month and talk about the good and bad things about each other and how we can make each other happier.

9. Sometimes, it's just not meant to be. And you gotta let that go. True love is about wanting the other person to be happy no matter what, even if that involves breaking up and never seeing them again. As long as they're happy, that's all that should matter to you. That's of course if you truly love her tho ;p... and if you want them all to urself even tho u kno they won't be happy... well then... that's not love, that's just being selfish =p and love is TOTALLY not about that.

sorry for the caps and the long speech =\ But I've come a long way /w my girlfriend and there were times when i wanted to break up /w her, but we've settled those issues and moved on.

And yes, it is 100% possible to get over your 1st love. My "first love" is actually now married (at the age of 20!!!), and i'm happy that she found someone.

so remember... LEARN FROM YOUR RELATIONSHIP!!!
ask urself why?
find that out, and improve yourself to prevent the same thing from happening in your next relationship. From there on, u'll just get better and better in relationships, and soon enough u'll find the right person! =)

g'luck! Don't be sad... it's all part of life, you just gotta keep your head up and charge through it.

EDIT: hehe damn i didn't realize my post was so long... sorry >.< hope it helped tho

[xfyrenx]

My first love... I was crazy about her, I even started to write poetry for her. Damn, it hurt when she left... I was really down for about a year afterwards, until my friends cheered me up. It's probably what's needed most for an after break-up: good friends.

[Lone_Wolf]

i had this relationship before..and we both shared our first kiss...
it was really cool...

but then we broke up....

n i cant forget her no matter wat i do...

i even tried to attempt a suicide...but i was stoped by my feeling towards her..

i love her...i really love her...

what should i do??

:iamdead::defeat:

Who said that you have to forget?
You perhaps try to forget every book or a movie you have liked just because they are finished?

No need to forget a relationship that had given to you good memories..

Just live on and lock all those memories in you heart as a memento that "love exist and it is a great thing".
And you still will be able to find love again in the future.

But to do that you have to look ahead, not backward.

Because Memories will be always with you when you need them, but if you do not pay attention to the life ahead of you , you can miss the opportunity to live many other good experience.

And do not talk about suicide that will not fix anything.

I’m talking for personal experience. Do not make the same mistake I have done. You will regret that, I can assure you. I have lost many opportunity to grab happiness for being too concerned with the past.

[gakidou]

Who said that you have to forget?
You perhaps try to forget every book or a movie you have liked just because they are finished?


shieett.... i like that quote =p *steals it*

[txcforever]

Well the only time I fell in love was when I was 18 but I just couldn't worked out (she moved to England a couple of months later). Since then I never felt anything like that again except maybe for one time (but she was a friend of my sister and I knew her all my life so it felt kind of strange to make a relationship with her.

[jaimyahoo]

looks lie it's tough for everyone,huh?
for me,it sucks, cos we broke up after a week cos she knew the real me and ended up hating me...

[AmSidar]

took about 1 year to return to normal life... but i only liked him... maybe loved but i don't think so since i could think rational.

[shadowwins]

my first love only lasted about a week so it didnt take much time for me to forget really i think it took about 3-4 days lol

[Rednal]

Well, I still know mine, so... pretty hard for me to forget. XD

[METD]

I really cant say what you should do to be honest, it's a bit different for everyone. Time can heal almost any wound tho. Try to find something to do with your time, going out with friends, find a hobby, spend time with family, whatever. It'll get better over time, it never SEEMS that way, but it almost ALWAYS does.

I don't think you'll ever truly forget your first love, its one of those things that shapes the kind of person you become I think. Eventually you'll be able to look back at it and instead of feel sad you'll be able to smile. First loves are never meant to be forgotten I think, they'll always hold a special place in one's heart.

[shadowwins]

when it comes to first love its means as it says its the first time to do most of the lovey-dovey stuff for the first time and work on it to improve

but most of the time your first love only lasts a short time because of bashful emotions so it rare for that people marry their first love

[himekuma]

haha i hate my first love, after i found out he cheated on me that was it >.>

[Ray-kun]

Well yea hard and makes me regretful about it x.x

[blush__x]

I can't really remember who my first love was :/
so yeah...not hard to forget.

[moonstorm_2000]

Well for me its tough as shit...it may not help that I've remained friends with her for the years since we broke up (not too kindly i may add :-p). I'm always reminded of what could have been and might have been so it gets tough. I guess I think about it too much...I'm moving on more recently but some days...

[bushidomizer]

i thought it was the end of the world for me. i felt really depressed when i found out the the love would never bloom. but as soon as i met my new and current gf, ive never felt happier. if i had the slightest notion of what true love is, this would be it :]

[daniel2]

I think its kinda impossible to forget your first love.

[bushidomizer]

yea you will most likely never forget, but you will eventually get over it. but that first love is usually something special in a way.

[Blac Haze]

haha i hate my first love, after i found out he cheated on me that was it >.>


Yeah some guys are heartless..idiots.

I once was in love after I found out she cheated on me and
went out with me to get some other guy jealous.

[jb23]

I never saw mine again so after 3 months I was able to move on. It's really difficult when you're still around that person a lot or even if you just see that person once a week. I still think about her, but not negatively anymore. Of course, it's been over 7 years.

[narutoshippud]

really hard because that was your first time experiencing that type of emoton, so it will always be there.

[qifu]

u can never forget your first love but your first is not necessarily your last so i just try to remember it as a lesson/experience but i don't dwell on it

[DXHK]

ah first love how nice everything was tho lol
well anyway sometimes you dont remember your first love that well however it starts everything, personally I remember my best love, the one you had most fun with but it doesnt have to be your first love in this particular scenario :)

[superblob88]

it like they say the firts scar is the one it hurts the most but i agree thet you dont have to foget your first love better treasure the best moments you spend with from my experience after a break is try to live with and to remember that life goes on (and many other girl are out there waiting )

[MrStick]

First off. Its nice you both shared your first kiss :D

Unlike me, the girl I loved..... we didn't do nothing........because she didn't love me in that sort of way - she didn't have the same feelings. and we were close friends. I was in love with her for over 2 years. And when I found out things won't work up, my heart shattered. It was a horrible experience, but I expected it in a way. I was ready for the consequence, that she may not love me in the same way. Blah, after when she found out, our friendship broke, I was left kinda depressed. But now its been a year, we're back together as normal friends :D (but I still love her loads XD [not much in that way though])

Another girl, I liked her for 5 years!! Didn't tell her I liked her, whent on holiday, came back, and found out she moved to another place. :(
But yeah, still haven't forgotten that. Its not easy forgetting things like that, especially love for a long time.

You don't have to forget. And don't be a fool for resorting to suicide. It would only make things worse for others. Live your life happily. Forget her in that sense that you still like her, and move on. Thats what I did. I kept telling myself that she doesn't like me in the same way, so we're not going to get together in a boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. So forget about being with her like that. And after that, I moved on and liked another girl. Don't end your life over love. Its a foolish thing to do. Its not the end of the world.

Surely there are many girls out there who are better for you than the girl you love right now. Love comes and goes. Don't let it ruin yourlife. I take it that your still a student. Your still young if you are. I understand that you can't forget her no matter what, I was the same. I was obsessed with the girl I loved. Literally. But I was a fool for doing so.

Just try to still be good friends with her, and move on to another girl. Don't always lock yourself with 1 girl for the rest of your life saying that your life is ruined. I've been through so much pain myself, so I understand how you feel and what your going through. Similar incidents happened with my friend. If you can't forget it, leave it in your heart, but lock it up. And like I told him, don't let Love take over your life. Don't let love use your life. But use your life to love, and move on.

Hope that helps and sorry if I was harsh in any way.
Just brighten up, and smile :)

[Elysium]

Listen, just because you broke up with your first love doesn't mean you have to end your life. Think about if you had actually went and killed yourself. Do you think you could still love another after you're six feet under? I don't think so. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. You kill yourself and you'll only hurt your family and friends. If you truly feel that you can take your relationship with your ex and maintain a strong momentum, why not talk to her about it? Never hurts to give another conversation with her a shot. If it doesn't work out that way, then allow yourself to ease back into the regular scheme of things. No one ever said love is easy. As someone had said, it's better to have loved and lost than to not have loved at all.

Edit: Lol, MrStick pretty much wrapped it all up! :D Did I sound mean? Hope not, as it's just constructive criticism. :)

[darakm]

hi, listen as someone whose been dumped by his first love (first girl,kiss) i can tell you that suicide isnt the answer and you'll get over it.

my girlfriend broke up with me a week before my birthday saying it isnt the right time together and that she still loves me.

the truth is that she wasn't, she felt like she loves me because ive been a supporting shoulder in the dark times. (ive been a friend to her for like 4 years before i told her how i feel).

so yha it hurts, and tough it hasnt been so long since she broke up with me (about a month ago) i still love her very much, and i still see her from time to time or talk to her, and thats actually makes me feel better.

anyway this isnt worth killing yourself.

[NightMyth]

I know it is hard to forget your first love, but life is too precious to give up just for no reason. Do stuff with friend and don't try to think too much about the negative thing occur in life.

[taconapsack]

wow, yeah, getting over that first one is really hard. Heck, I haven't even forgotten my first love. I understand where you are coming from but just try doing what you want for while, live a dream, go skydiving or like someone said before me, just chill with friends. That is what they are there for, trust me, it will make you feel better. Life is not worth wasting on someone else, just fun with it and screw the rest.

[werehuntress]

I've never been in love so i guess i shouldn't be even replying to this thread...

[XsEsPrEsSosX]

I'm the one who can't forgot First Love.Because when I saw her my world so beautyful.