asking a girl out????????

[manny95]

need some advice im 21 years old im going to fiu i have a nice personality but i cant seem to get a chick to say yes to one date i mean im not that bad looking just look at my photo [Only registered and activated users can see links]

anyway anybody has any advice for this poor sob

[BreakTheChains]

Yeah this would be some good information for me too. I have no idea what to say. I mean, you see it on tv and stuff but that's not real and it's so much easier on tv than it actually is. Maybe some pros in here can help?

[daniel2]

Well both of you look around, theres plenty of help for asking a person out for your first time just waiting to be read. Go to pages 2 and 3 and so on and you'll find loads of information on what to do for your first time. Use the search feature as well.

[MMao]

k firsty upload ur photo 2 another sitez coz I dun have acc there

if u ask how 2 ask girlz out, u better tell what kind of girl and where u live, coz different field meanz different grass

[IrishRed]

Pull up a chair, get comfortable, and learn from an "Old dude"...

First, and foremost, BE YOURSELF. Don't try to be anything but 100% honest. Women can tell. They all know our scams. Leave those in the sleazy bar for the sleazy women you don't want in the first place.

Second. Ask her for a casual get together. Don't make it sound like a "date". She will be more inclined to accept an invitation for casual coffee than a "Dinner and Movie" type date.

Third. Establish conversation with her. Don't just talk TO her, LISTEN to her. Pay attention to what she says. Oh, and look her in the eyes. There will be time to check out her cleavage later if you do this step right.

Fourth. Be a gentleman. Pull out her chair for her, open the door, etc. Some women don't like this, but I will guess that 90% do. Be courteous to EVERYBODY. She will look at how you treat others around you as a sign of maturity and you will gain a LOT of points just by opening the door for the little old lady as well as the 30ish couple.

And lastly, Be clean! This should be a no-brainer, but you would be suprised at the number of women that will not go out with an unmade bed! Think about it.

[Slayden]

^ Good tips. I would like to add a little something to your second one though. Yes going out for coffee is much better than than a stale dinner-and-a-movie cliché. You can take this further though by simply having a night on the town. Here are some ideas for places to go other than coffee:

bowling
carnivals/fairs
a live concert
stand-up comedy show
dance club
jazz club
mini golf
museum
picnics
taking her to the top of the highest building in the city
roller blading/skating
ice skating (love ice skating ^_^)
going to the beach/river/lake
the harbor (if you live near an ocean)
shooting pool
star gazing
strip malls
zoos


And manny95? Build up your confidence. This may be why girls aren't saying yes to you when asking them out on dates. Be kind and courteous, but also be confident. Girls like a strong man to take the lead. There is another thread specifically dealing with confidence that can be found here ([Only registered and activated users can see links]).

[Silmeria]

just be original.....use the dinner idea BUT make it yourself...thats a good way to make points i mean most of woman love to be pampered and take care of.

[the_bacon_man]

Get close to the girl but ask her on a half-date(you don't call it a date but it is)

[shahice]

just 1 advise i got...
be urself and be brave if u really like that girl

[thrashr]

I have no idea but im very shy when it comes to these things too and i know a girl i really like but the one time i asked a girl she rejected me =( so i have no clue what to do

[baottosai]

I have no idea but im very shy when it comes to these things too and i know a girl i really like but the one time i asked a girl she rejected me =( so i have no clue what to do
whooaa....I have the same problems here.

and I just hardly find a topic when I want to call her.
since I rarely call a girl on the phone (my bad) :nonono:

[txcforever]

Well there are two ways to approach a girl.
a)Being true. The problem with this method is that if the specific girl doesn't find anything interesting on your character she will ignore you unless you are great looking or have a good car (this depends on the age of the girl-20+ women aren't that easily impressed) or you are willing to spend a lot of money on her. As you can see unless she likes your personality any relationship you make with a girl like that won't last more than a month.
b)Lie. Now this might make some women in this forum angry but it works. Learn from a close friend of hers what she likes, where she hangs out, favorite stuff and approach her using some of those (like a concert of her favorite singer, a movie of her preferred genre, shopping etc). Now this works like a charm but unless you really like a girl you won't last very long doing and talking about things you don't like.
c)Lower your standards. Come on you mean you haven't noticed any girl that might like you? Or maybe a girl that approach you for help in something (from repairing something for her, studying together, anything?) Maybe you are aiming to girls that you can't reach (even though I don't really believe in such a term)?

[Kaishe]

Well there are two ways to approach a girl.
a)Being true. The problem with this method is that if the specific girl doesn't find anything interesting on your character she will ignore you unless you are great looking or have a good car (this depends on the age of the girl-20+ women aren't that easily impressed) or you are willing to spend a lot of money on her. As you can see unless she likes your personality any relationship you make with a girl like that won't last more than a month.
b)Lie. Now this might make some women in this forum angry but it works. Learn from a close friend of hers what she likes, where she hangs out, favorite stuff and approach her using some of those (like a concert of her favorite singer, a movie of her preferred genre, shopping etc). Now this works like a charm but unless you really like a girl you won't last very long doing and talking about things you don't like.
c)Lower your standards. Come on you mean you haven't noticed any girl that might like you? Or maybe a girl that approach you for help in something (from repairing something for her, studying together, anything?) Maybe you are aiming to girls that you can't reach (even though I don't really believe in such a term)?

Okay well I'm not a complete expert on girls or anything but these advices would most likely be great in a short term relationship (few months or so) but in most situations aren't people looking for someone you can spend your life with?
Problem with A is that if a woman you are spilling your heart out to doesn't find any interest with you i doubted you'd guys last very long in the long run and also if the girl only likes you because of material objects you guys again wouldn't last long in the long run.

B - Okay if you lie to a girl in the beginning you are screwed no matter what, i don't care if its a long run or short your screwed period. Although! the thought of getting to know a girl by her friends is a very promising idea that would be a good reference to where to ask a girl out on a date, just don't be all too straightforward and go straight for the goal when theres still an hour left in the game.

C - Although "lowering your standards" can be debated on, i'll just say that all women are unique in their own kind of way and there should be someone out there in this big world so you don't technically have to "lower" your standards because all women are the same in one kind of way or another, if you get rejected just move on with life and find another girl you think is good.

[txcforever]

Okay well I'm not a complete expert on girls or anything but these advices would most likely be great in a short term relationship (few months or so) but in most situations aren't people looking for someone you can spend your life with?
Problem with A is that if a woman you are spilling your heart out to doesn't find any interest with you i doubted you'd guys last very long in the long run and also if the girl only likes you because of material objects you guys again wouldn't last long in the long run.

B - Okay if you lie to a girl in the beginning you are screwed no matter what, i don't care if its a long run or short your screwed period. Although! the thought of getting to know a girl by her friends is a very promising idea that would be a good reference to where to ask a girl out on a date, just don't be all too straightforward and go straight for the goal when theres still an hour left in the game.

C - Although "lowering your standards" can be debated on, i'll just say that all women are unique in their own kind of way and there should be someone out there in this big world so you don't technically have to "lower" your standards because all women are the same in one kind of way or another, if you get rejected just move on with life and find another girl you think is good.

I don't disagree with you but the title of the thread is "asking a girl out" not "asking a girl to marry me". I know it's kinda wrong to start a relationship with lies and such but still if he can't find a woman the tips I gave him are the best chance he has. Now if he wants a long term relationship he has to work for it not ask in forums

[magicow]

Pull up a chair, get comfortable, and learn from an "Old dude"...

First, and foremost, BE YOURSELF. Don't try to be anything but 100% honest. Women can tell. They all know our scams. Leave those in the sleazy bar for the sleazy women you don't want in the first place.

Second. Ask her for a casual get together. Don't make it sound like a "date". She will be more inclined to accept an invitation for casual coffee than a "Dinner and Movie" type date.

Third. Establish conversation with her. Don't just talk TO her, LISTEN to her. Pay attention to what she says. Oh, and look her in the eyes. There will be time to check out her cleavage later if you do this step right.

Fourth. Be a gentleman. Pull out her chair for her, open the door, etc. Some women don't like this, but I will guess that 90% do. Be courteous to EVERYBODY. She will look at how you treat others around you as a sign of maturity and you will gain a LOT of points just by opening the door for the little old lady as well as the 30ish couple.

And lastly, Be clean! This should be a no-brainer, but you would be suprised at the number of women that will not go out with an unmade bed! Think about it.

same problem as the first 2 guys..

you say to do these things and i do try... and i accomplish them... but when i "be" myself nothing ever turns out right with anyone.. no one really likes the gamer type that sits at his computer 18 hours a day... especially when you go outside and see something funny and go "lol" i've got a lot of friends and the what not that think i'm pretty cool.. but when it comes to girls.. they just think i'm aggro.. and yes i did just say aggro =P

[Hunter L]

it's not really hard to ask girls out magicow you just gotta find your swag and you'll be fine

[Dantie Neit]

Everyone has a good point. Some aren't in the favour of others. I find that if your looking for a girl to screw, lie and do what ever it takes. If your looking for a girl to love and cherish as some put it, be yourself. It's a matter of what you want. If you're sex crazy, then your not going to last long in most relationships anyway. If you just think you have too much love to give to someone then again it's going to be hard keep a relationship. Best bet, follow the heart. If it says lie, then you won't find a long rship easily. If it says be yourself, it's just a matter of finding the girl for you. I apoligise to those that don't undersstand my thoughts properly. I'm more complex and sad to be tan most know. Say what you want. It's thankfully wasier on the net.

[daniel2]

Stop bumping old topics this is the 4th time.