starblade27
02-17-2008, 11:58 PM
:*^8: Why do women pressure guys into getting married? its not like i dont love u or nethings its just.....the thought of marriage
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Unknown81888
02-18-2008, 12:20 AM
Maybe it's because they want you to prove that you're willing to commit to them for a lifetime instead of for the time being = /
Well, it's what I think....
The whole taking half your stuff thing is kind of over the top if you ask me -_-; If they really love you, they should just let you keep all of it -_-; (no offence to the girls/ladies/women out there...)
Well, it's what I think....
The whole taking half your stuff thing is kind of over the top if you ask me -_-; If they really love you, they should just let you keep all of it -_-; (no offence to the girls/ladies/women out there...)
daniel2
02-18-2008, 01:16 AM
Marriage is a contract for when you break up the bitch gets half your belongings *knife teeth*
D:
D:
Slayden
02-18-2008, 06:05 AM
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Perhaps a girl would better answer this, but I can still give my current beliefs as to why they want marriage. Women want security. They want to feel safe, and going through all the trouble of getting married and the hell it takes to get a divorce adds a greater sense of stability than something that is more easily called off with but a few words. Furthermore, saying "My husband" has more meaning than "My boyfriend," adding a kind of "proof" that he loves her if he's willing to tie the knot.
Then again, there are also women like this:
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Perhaps a girl would better answer this, but I can still give my current beliefs as to why they want marriage. Women want security. They want to feel safe, and going through all the trouble of getting married and the hell it takes to get a divorce adds a greater sense of stability than something that is more easily called off with but a few words. Furthermore, saying "My husband" has more meaning than "My boyfriend," adding a kind of "proof" that he loves her if he's willing to tie the knot.
Then again, there are also women like this:
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toxicteabag
02-18-2008, 01:38 PM
i believe that girls wants to get married to feel more sure about their partners love for them,
my ex, who i recently broke up with wanted to get engaged after about 4 or 5 months of relationship, even if we were quite different. I never saw why or how that relationship could end with getting married, but she seemed to have it all planned out. I actualy asked her about why she wanted to get engaged and later, married to me.
There is no good answer really but from my point of view it seems like it is because women look for a safe relationship, and a way for them to feel reassured that they will allways be loved.
my ex, who i recently broke up with wanted to get engaged after about 4 or 5 months of relationship, even if we were quite different. I never saw why or how that relationship could end with getting married, but she seemed to have it all planned out. I actualy asked her about why she wanted to get engaged and later, married to me.
There is no good answer really but from my point of view it seems like it is because women look for a safe relationship, and a way for them to feel reassured that they will allways be loved.
daniel2
02-18-2008, 07:00 PM
I'd rather call my girl my "partner" instead of my girlfriend if I wasn't married.
Silmeria
02-19-2008, 01:17 AM
actually i think marriage is a good way to know themselfs better or more like the secret sides of each person....just like in your family you learn their habits its the same thing...thats how i see it from my perspective other than passing MORE time with them.
now as woman i can only guess since i am not one neither i like to talk more about the subject with "partners".
some females are rather possesive, so married is like beign super loyal to them its like saying you love them forever, and even if you had females friends "he is with me always everyday look my lovely husband and he is so romantic etc etc etc"
in simple words its a self confidence boost.
now as woman i can only guess since i am not one neither i like to talk more about the subject with "partners".
some females are rather possesive, so married is like beign super loyal to them its like saying you love them forever, and even if you had females friends "he is with me always everyday look my lovely husband and he is so romantic etc etc etc"
in simple words its a self confidence boost.
Slayden
02-19-2008, 01:35 AM
Perhaps a girl should chime in.
Unknown81888
02-19-2008, 09:10 PM
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Perhaps a girl would better answer this, but I can still give my current beliefs as to why they want marriage. Women want security. They want to feel safe, and going through all the trouble of getting married and the hell it takes to get a divorce adds a greater sense of stability than something that is more easily called off with but a few words. Furthermore, saying "My husband" has more meaning than "My boyfriend," adding a kind of "proof" that he loves her if he's willing to tie the knot.
Then again, there are also women like this:
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That spoiler pic just made my day :em096:
Perhaps a girl would better answer this, but I can still give my current beliefs as to why they want marriage. Women want security. They want to feel safe, and going through all the trouble of getting married and the hell it takes to get a divorce adds a greater sense of stability than something that is more easily called off with but a few words. Furthermore, saying "My husband" has more meaning than "My boyfriend," adding a kind of "proof" that he loves her if he's willing to tie the knot.
Then again, there are also women like this:
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That spoiler pic just made my day :em096:
toxicteabag
02-20-2008, 06:07 AM
some females are rather possesive, so married is like beign super loyal to them its like saying you love them forever, and even if you had females friends "he is with me always everyday look my lovely husband and he is so romantic etc etc etc"
in simple words its a self confidence boost.
thats the kind of girlfriend i had.
things didn't go very well :frozen2:
in simple words its a self confidence boost.
thats the kind of girlfriend i had.
things didn't go very well :frozen2:
reminder
02-21-2008, 01:57 PM
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Perhaps a girl would better answer this, but I can still give my current beliefs as to why they want marriage. Women want security. They want to feel safe, and going through all the trouble of getting married and the hell it takes to get a divorce adds a greater sense of stability than something that is more easily called off with but a few words. Furthermore, saying "My husband" has more meaning than "My boyfriend," adding a kind of "proof" that he loves her if he's willing to tie the knot.
Then again, there are also women like this:
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What he says.
Women want security and stability... and sometimes, money :JFBQ00213070516A:
If it's the third type... better don't drink tea served by her
Perhaps a girl would better answer this, but I can still give my current beliefs as to why they want marriage. Women want security. They want to feel safe, and going through all the trouble of getting married and the hell it takes to get a divorce adds a greater sense of stability than something that is more easily called off with but a few words. Furthermore, saying "My husband" has more meaning than "My boyfriend," adding a kind of "proof" that he loves her if he's willing to tie the knot.
Then again, there are also women like this:
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What he says.
Women want security and stability... and sometimes, money :JFBQ00213070516A:
If it's the third type... better don't drink tea served by her
Junior666
02-23-2008, 08:53 AM
Marriage is a contract for when you break up the bitch gets half your belongings *knife teeth*
D:
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.
That's why I would. =)
And omg Slayden, that pic was hilarious. And you are right. o_O
D:
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.
That's why I would. =)
And omg Slayden, that pic was hilarious. And you are right. o_O
daniel2
02-23-2008, 08:59 AM
YESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS.
That's why I would. =)
And omg Slayden, that pic was hilarious. And you are right. o_O
Aaahh!!! I knew it I KNEW IT!!!!!! e$#f
That's why I would. =)
And omg Slayden, that pic was hilarious. And you are right. o_O
Aaahh!!! I knew it I KNEW IT!!!!!! e$#f
Junior666
02-23-2008, 09:04 AM
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! NOW IMI WILL BE SCARED TO GET MARRIED.
YUS. Mission accomplished.
YUS. Mission accomplished.
daniel2
02-23-2008, 09:07 AM
I'll get married after I retire from the Army. I'm still going to get Married (:
If she wants to. I hope I marry the girl I'm in love with now. I feel so strongly towards her *trails off*
If she wants to. I hope I marry the girl I'm in love with now. I feel so strongly towards her *trails off*
Junior666
02-23-2008, 09:09 AM
ah yes, I remember your thread.
Seriously. She will marry you, Mr King-Of-Oral. XD
Seriously. She will marry you, Mr King-Of-Oral. XD
daniel2
02-23-2008, 09:20 AM
Why thankyou. I don't know tho I'm leaving for the Army. It's hard for someone to feel that way about you when your not there to support them. Anyway anything could happen in the next 34 days.
Junior666
02-23-2008, 09:23 AM
Only 34 days? ppfft. She can wait for you. D: Why to the army tho?
Yes, this is off-topic. >.>;
Yes, this is off-topic. >.>;
daniel2
02-23-2008, 09:27 AM
Because I want to, and its a career. Not a job. No.. I'll be gone for 80 days first.. 34 days UNTIL I LEAVE. I'll come back after 80 and then yeah its full time pretty much.
Junior666
02-23-2008, 09:36 AM
Wow. That's a long time! OMG 34 days! D: That's so damn soon!
If I was her, I'd totally die.
If I was her, I'd totally die.
elusivefreedom
02-23-2008, 03:50 PM
well.... i'd say each person is unique and not all girls bring up marriage. (ESP not during the first few months of dating, at least!)
but my point of view is... say after being together for 3 years, i'd like to know whether the relationship is going somewhere or is it time to move on?? cos unlike guys, who can afford to settle down in their mid thirties (or forties for some of you players out there =P) us girls have a biological clock ticking. i know (some) guys shudder at the mere thought of settling down, what more the notion of fathering a child! but the fact is that once a woman hits 35, the risks of giving birth to either a stillborn or a Down Syndrome child increases 5% every year... so by the time she hits 45 the risk is 50%. (these are just rough figures, and i have no stats to base them on, if i'm not mistaken, i just remembered reading it somewhere)
anyways, i don't know about other girls, but what i want to hear from my bf when i ask this question is him honestly saying that he would want to marry me in the future(and mean it). it doesn't have to be right away, it can even mean "yes, i can imagine marrying you say... in 10 years time once we've realized our dreams" or something along those lines.
i suppose we just want to know that the guy's willing to commit to us. otherwise... there's a limit to how long we're willing to wait. (that's why most Long Distance Relationships fail)
that's just my 2 cents
but my point of view is... say after being together for 3 years, i'd like to know whether the relationship is going somewhere or is it time to move on?? cos unlike guys, who can afford to settle down in their mid thirties (or forties for some of you players out there =P) us girls have a biological clock ticking. i know (some) guys shudder at the mere thought of settling down, what more the notion of fathering a child! but the fact is that once a woman hits 35, the risks of giving birth to either a stillborn or a Down Syndrome child increases 5% every year... so by the time she hits 45 the risk is 50%. (these are just rough figures, and i have no stats to base them on, if i'm not mistaken, i just remembered reading it somewhere)
anyways, i don't know about other girls, but what i want to hear from my bf when i ask this question is him honestly saying that he would want to marry me in the future(and mean it). it doesn't have to be right away, it can even mean "yes, i can imagine marrying you say... in 10 years time once we've realized our dreams" or something along those lines.
i suppose we just want to know that the guy's willing to commit to us. otherwise... there's a limit to how long we're willing to wait. (that's why most Long Distance Relationships fail)
that's just my 2 cents
LightElf
02-23-2008, 04:37 PM
I am very inexperienced in things regarding the opposite sex...so I cannot be sure, but if you really sincerely love someone, I dont think the passage of time should be of any hindrance.
As for marriages, I share the same view as stars2die4. I think if you want to marry, it should be done in early thirties, so the risks of having a Downs child and many other disorders stay low.
But is there any typical "right age" where it is time to get married? I mean if you get married, and have a child etc. then one person has to take care of the household and child while the other goes to make money...not always but most of the time. Which means one or the other may have to postpone or even give up on his/her dreams...and to make that not happen, one would be forced to marry late, but if you marry late the chances of birth disorders get increasingly high (I can confirm it. I am a to-be med student).
This goes especially for people like me who want to reach far in life (7 years undergrad med, then 4~5 years specialization, 2~3 years of work as junior doctor, and only THEN I can start to make proper money to support a family. So at around mid-thirties I might have time to see someone, but that'd be way too late and I might end up being a single all my life! cries.).
Meh, quite difficult. just my thoughts on the issue.
As for marriages, I share the same view as stars2die4. I think if you want to marry, it should be done in early thirties, so the risks of having a Downs child and many other disorders stay low.
But is there any typical "right age" where it is time to get married? I mean if you get married, and have a child etc. then one person has to take care of the household and child while the other goes to make money...not always but most of the time. Which means one or the other may have to postpone or even give up on his/her dreams...and to make that not happen, one would be forced to marry late, but if you marry late the chances of birth disorders get increasingly high (I can confirm it. I am a to-be med student).
This goes especially for people like me who want to reach far in life (7 years undergrad med, then 4~5 years specialization, 2~3 years of work as junior doctor, and only THEN I can start to make proper money to support a family. So at around mid-thirties I might have time to see someone, but that'd be way too late and I might end up being a single all my life! cries.).
Meh, quite difficult. just my thoughts on the issue.
elusivefreedom
02-23-2008, 05:14 PM
but if you really sincerely love someone, I dont think the passage of time should be of any hindrance.
i suppose there's some truth to that... but girls get... insecure. and sometimes after being together for so long, if guys aren't able to promise a future and start taking things for granted(and think like.... "i can take forever to think about marriage, she's not going anywhere")
that's where things change. love works both ways.... and in this day and age, if a girl gives her all to be in a relationship which she expects to go somewhere... but the guy doesn't... what's left for her to stay?
i suppose there's some truth to that... but girls get... insecure. and sometimes after being together for so long, if guys aren't able to promise a future and start taking things for granted(and think like.... "i can take forever to think about marriage, she's not going anywhere")
that's where things change. love works both ways.... and in this day and age, if a girl gives her all to be in a relationship which she expects to go somewhere... but the guy doesn't... what's left for her to stay?
LightElf
02-23-2008, 05:44 PM
i suppose there's some truth to that... but girls get... insecure. and sometimes after being together for so long, if guys aren't able to promise a future and start taking things for granted(and think like.... "i can take forever to think about marriage, she's not going anywhere")
that's where things change. love works both ways.... and in this day and age, if a girl gives her all to be in a relationship which she expects to go somewhere... but the guy doesn't... what's left for her to stay?
Also true...I wouldnt like it if I were a girl put in such a situation. So in conclusion, marriage should be done...quite early I suppose? at least not too late. Maybe late 20s or early 30s would be appropriate I guess...
that's where things change. love works both ways.... and in this day and age, if a girl gives her all to be in a relationship which she expects to go somewhere... but the guy doesn't... what's left for her to stay?
Also true...I wouldnt like it if I were a girl put in such a situation. So in conclusion, marriage should be done...quite early I suppose? at least not too late. Maybe late 20s or early 30s would be appropriate I guess...
daniel2
02-23-2008, 08:32 PM
I'd say 25 before you get Married.
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