Question about Moaning (Girls Opinion please)

[Dexter32]

It´s about Moaning while having Sex. Imho, Girls might moan for two Reasons:

The first one is, they really enjoy having Sex and do it automatically.
The second one is, they normally are rather quiet during Sex and only do it, because they think they have to, or because they think it will turn on their Boyfriends.

Do you moan on purpose or for real?
Is your Boyfriend confused or feels insecure when you are not moaning? thinking that he may not please you enough?

Girls Opinions are most appreciated here^^ :hot:

[krnxknight]

i think my bf does get insecure if i don't make noises, never asked him. i'll ask and reply later.

[Dark_Clown]

du stellst eindeutig zu viele fragen an die armen weiblichen mitglieder hier ^^

[daniel2]

Dark_Clown said: You ask alot of questions about females here don't you ^^

We ajatella että on koska hän on erittäin huvittaa jokseenkin naaras- anatomia kuin me aivan aari ankea ilveillä ainoastaan koska me jälkisäädös ei koskaan olla etevä jotta kokea olemassaolo naaras- itseämme. :snicker:

~ImI

[Dexter32]

I understood Dark_Clown very well. I am a german Male, you know^^
And he said, that i am asking too many Questions. But doesn´t this Thread exist for that Purpose? for asking Questions? ;-)

and Imi....what?!?!? would you mind to translate that? :-) I don´t even know what Language this is.Looks like some sort of Scandinavian Language to me.^^

[daniel2]

Aaah sorry I didn't realise you were German.. I didn't bother too look. Assumed Dark was being mean =D

As for the language it is my primary language. Finnish. i.e Primary language in Finland.

I said: Females are interesting specimens and this section is for asking whoever, whatever. Also that Dark should contribute to the thread once in awhile.

[reminder]

I'd feel really insecure if my girlfriend would just lie on the bed like a log and wouldn't look satisfied by my efforts.

[cinconneal]

I'd feel really insecure if my girlfriend would just lie on the bed like a log and wouldn't look satisfied by my efforts.
Yes, I totally agree with that. I mean, being a guy, you have a lot of ego when it comes to how much you can fulfill your gf's needs...and moaning/noises is ONE way a girl can indicate that. (I mean...guys are pretty stupid when it comes to figuring out how a girl is feeling....XD).

Even tho I'm a girl, I can VERY easily put myself in a guy's perspective(or ANY person's perspective) and analyse the situation in many ways^^.

Anyway, to answer the question.... I think moaning/noises come automatically and should be real most of the time. It's quite a good 'indicator' of satisfaction for both the guy and the girl IMO^^~.

P.S. (Tho i may sound like i've done it b4....I actually haven't. But I read quite a bit in this area...both the physical aspects and the psychological....so rest assured that my comments are not 'imaginative' nor 'unrealistic'^^ ^^).

[krnxknight]

my bf says when i gasp is when he (his ego i'm assuming) feels best.

typically i just moan and chew on my finger so i guess i see where that's coming from.

[daniel2]

Well when I first did anything with a girl. She moaned alot and gasped alot. I think the automatic real moaning and not the fake bullshit moaning is really good and really important. It let me know when I was being too hard or soft or whatever.
It's really handy and it made me feel like I was good at what I was doing (: which gave me the self-esteem to keep on going!

[Slayden]

I'd feel really insecure if my girlfriend would just lie on the bed like a log and wouldn't look satisfied by my efforts.

Tut! Work on your self-esteem. And observing body language.

Like any guy, I do like a screamer, but few things will get me to quit faster than fake moaning. If a girl fakes it, I usually go limp then tenderly ask her "What's wrong?", because she usually has something on her mind that is bothering her, yet she wants to please me and doesn't want it getting in the way of satisfying my needs.

I'm a listener. I can listen to a person talk for hours without interruption and allow them to express whatever is on their mind, so I guess it shouldn't come as a surprise that a turnon for me is actually whispering. This can be an alternative for girls who don't get into moaning but still want to express what they like and dislike.

There's no bigger turnon than a girl hanging off your ear whispering "Do me this way" or "Oh yeah right there."

[Dexter32]

There's no bigger turnon than a girl hanging off your ear whispering "Do me this way" or "Oh yeah right there."

That´s totally right. I wish my Gf would do that once in a while. But i guess she is too shy to offer any wishes directly, even if i ask her. Maybe that results from her Inexperience...i don´t know.

But i know when she comes. I can feel that, because her whole Body shakes, she Gasps hard and moans. But during intercourse, she is rather quiet, but she enjoys it.

That´s why i wanted to know about moaning. Some Girls do it that loud, that you may hear her 2 Blocks away^^ and other ones are the more quiet Type. And because of that, it came to my mind that Girls may want to do it, just because they think it has to be that way, and not because they feel pleasure.

:bingo2:

[Slayden]

To solve that, just get her to talk dirty. Next time you're going to have sex, talk dirty to each other during foreplay. Ask her, "What am I doing?" then start licking her nipple. Point to your dick and ask "What is this?" Stick your fingers inside her and ask her "And what is this?" Rub her breast and butt and ask the same questions.

Don't settle for terms like "breast," "butt," "penis" or "vagina," because in all likelihood, that is exactly what she will say. Make her say "dick," "cock," "pussy," "cunt," "twat," "tits," "ass," and whatever else you can come up with in reference to their respective parts. My first girlfriend was actually turned on by either of us saying "cunt" instead of being offended, which was a surprise to me. In any case, make it really dirty and don't settle for any less in bed.

She's going to say "no," she'll be embarrassed, and she may even hide her face while grinning, but make her say it. Clearly and audibly, even from the next room. Trust me she will get wetter and far more turned on from saying it. Also, don't give her what she wants unless she asks for it in explicit details.

:em0136:

This should pretty much solve your problem. I think she'll be more than happy to whisper after all this...

Hahahaha.....

:kukukuh: :em0141:

[Kenadian]

That´s totally right. I wish my Gf would do that once in a while. But i guess she is too shy to offer any wishes directly, even if i ask her. Maybe that results from her Inexperience...i don´t know.

But i know when she comes. I can feel that, because her whole Body shakes, she Gasps hard and moans. But during intercourse, she is rather quiet, but she enjoys it.

That´s why i wanted to know about moaning. Some Girls do it that loud, that you may hear her 2 Blocks away^^ and other ones are the more quiet Type. And because of that, it came to my mind that Girls may want to do it, just because they think it has to be that way, and not because they feel pleasure.

:bingo2:

I wonder what that sounds like in German.:071:

[daniel2]

Proberly sounds horrible. Because German sounds horrible.
With the whole tell your girlfriend to use dirty words. I think I find more happiness in knowing that we are both mature to use and know the correct words for both our anatomy.
Usually when we do anything sexual she wont use the term at all, and just say simply, harder, faster, both etc. Because she knows I'm a smart lad and that I know what I'm doing.

[Slayden]

I've had a good home-school education and rarely swear because I know how to express myself eloquently, but in the bedroom my language changes dramatically. ^_^ I just find it a bigger turnon to use and hear such words used, and that most girls find it a turnon too. Try it sometime. Though you may be a person who remain unfazed in such an instance in which case it would be pointless. Now you have my curiosity piqued. Have you tried it but found that it isn't a turnon?

[daniel2]

No I haven't tried it. I think we would be both a little too shy. She is only 14.

[EviL]

No I haven't tried it. I think we would be both a little too shy. She is only 14.

Is that even legal?

[Kenadian]

Is that even legal?

He's 16, not 40.

[EviL]

Ah hmm my mistake:em0143:

[daniel2]

Lol you swine... No shes not "legal" which makes it more fun.

[EviL]

Lol you swine... No shes not "legal" which makes it more fun.
Well I'm no police officer and can't say I don't disagree. Just make sure you don't get caught, however unlikely that may have? been.

[Slayden]

LOL They're just two years apart.

I know, ImI's demeanor is pretty mature for his age and it threw me off a couple of days ago too.

[EviL]

Looks like ImI gets the best of us all even the smartest of us.:maikka:

[Christie]

I moan for real, but I tend to be more self conscious about my moaning during sex (during masturbation I don't care because nobody can hear me, so I just let myself go).

I notice how my partner reacts to it. In my experience, most partners get more turned on over acute moaning (not necessarily loud). I figure as long as I don't stay in the same tone for too long it should be fine.

[daniel2]

I've always been too shy to moan. When I'm masturbating or when I'm with another girl. Tho I always cant help moaning when my ex use'ed to bite my neck and make me bleed.

I'm shy in that department.

And guys as for me with the girls. I just have loads of options. I want to meet a few girls before I leave for the army. I'm signing my life away really.
Yes I would say I'm pretty mature for 16 almost 17. No I'm not boasting.. =|

[Slayden]

In my experience, most partners get more turned on over acute moaning (not necessarily loud). I figure as long as I don't stay in the same tone for too long it should be fine.

I can agree with this for the most part. A voice that varies in pitch sounds better than a constant tone. And the semi-conscious moaning from a pleasure spike or plateau is a definite bonus, like the "oooooh" or "oh wow...", for example, from your pussy suddenly being stabbed in different directions with a penis rather than straight in-and-out penetration.

I've always been too shy to moan. When I'm masturbating or when I'm with another girl. Tho I always cant help moaning when my ex use'ed to bite my neck and make me bleed.

Oh a bit of a vampire eh? I'm a bit apprehensive to moan too, but not from shyness, rather, I'm just not used to it. I got into the habit of being quiet so that my over-religious mother wouldn't hear me masturbate.

Yes I would say I'm pretty mature for 16 almost 17. No I'm not boasting.. =|

Are you this mature because you'll be joining the military soon? Or is it something else? I reached your maturity level when I was 14 or 15, but mine was due to a combination of a good education and child abuse.

[daniel2]

I'm sorry about the child abuse man. The maturity comes from just how I was born. How I can talk and how I can tell that I'm very different to anyone else that I have ever met. As well to the fact that I flogged an I.Q test for a 15 year old when I was 9. Why of coarse we are all different to each other but I'm very different to all people.
An example is that I cannot relate to anyone else and that I have trouble understanding simple things, this doesn't make me dumb because I can answer a 500 question aptitude test in 1 hour. Which is impossible for any adult I know to do. Which is why if I went back to grade 12 I'd be able to fly a billion dollar jet. I can also type faster then anyone I've ever known without making any errors and my spelling is fantastic. Though I cant say the same for my punctuation.

However telling everyone this and actually believing me are two very different subjects. Everything is open to speculation in life.

I think the wisdom to know the difference is the most important thing, and the thing I value the most.

As for the rest of mature, I think I'm mature because I've faced alot of pain in my life, mass bullying because I was different and I liked to talk my way out of things when it proberly would have been better to punch the person in the face.

With the whole 'I'm joining the military deal' thats because I want a decent career in my life. I have no idea whats really instore for me except from what I have read about it and from what I have learned at a J.O.E.S day. (Job Options Evaluation Session).

To go back on topic yes I love the whole romantic vampire thing. I dunno why but ever since one of my past girlfriends bit my so hard on the neck that she made me bleed enough to have me think I was going to die I felt no pain. Only pleasure. My neck is my sensitive spot, always has been, always will be. I'm not used to moaning either, same with masturbating I don't moan when I do that, so I usually forget. But I know my ex loves it when I moan so I get a little over dramatic just for her ^______^

[Slayden]

I'm sorry about the child abuse man. The maturity comes from just how I was born. How I can talk and how I can tell that I'm very different to anyone else that I have ever met. As well to the fact that I flogged an I.Q test for a 15 year old when I was 9. Why of coarse we are all different to each other but I'm very different to all people.
An example is that I cannot relate to anyone else and that I have trouble understanding simple things, this doesn't make me dumb because I can answer a 500 question aptitude test in 1 hour. Which is impossible for any adult I know to do. Which is why if I went back to grade 12 I'd be able to fly a billion dollar jet. I can also type faster then anyone I've ever known without making any errors and my spelling is fantastic. Though I cant say the same for my punctuation.

However telling everyone this and actually believing me are two very different subjects. Everything is open to speculation in life.

Whoa I can completely relate. I took an aptitude test when I was 7 or 8 and it said I was ready for college. About 3 years ago I took an I.Q. test and the results were 140. Like you, I frequently have trouble understanding simple things too and I rarely bother with them. However, if I've been listening to a bunch of music, I'll get 2 sometimes 3 songs stuck in my head at the same time, but it strangely isn't noisy. If I haven't been listening to music, I end up composing my own, which is why I want to break into the music industry.

As far as the child abuse goes, it was mostly neglect and mental abuse ("you'll never amount to anything", "you're shit", etc.) and infrequent physical abuse (punching/kicking), but never sexual. I've disowned my family and moved on. I know that the first 20 years of my life were wasted and painful, but if you keep facing the past, you can't look forward to the future.

I think the wisdom to know the difference is the most important thing, and the thing I value the most.

Here here. *toast* Wisdom is what I value the most as well. Above my intellect, and even above my music.

As for the rest of mature, I think I'm mature because I've faced alot of pain in my life, mass bullying because I was different and I liked to talk my way out of things when it proberly would have been better to punch the person in the face.

I was home schooled, but I can still relate, though in a different sense. If you want we can move this to PM's since this is getting pretty personal.

With the whole 'I'm joining the military deal' thats because I want a decent career in my life. I have no idea whats really instore for me except from what I have read about it and from what I have learned at a J.O.E.S day. (Job Options Evaluation Session).

Why join the military?? I thought it was mandatory in your country and that was why you were going to them. Why not be a translator or something? Or go into business for yourself? Or be a musician? (;)) You're right about signing your life away if you go with the military. What are your aptitudes? I didn't figure out what I wanted to do with my life either until literally last month. Paralysis from analysis I suppose. You've got the brains to go into any field you want, but just can't settle on one.

Again, considering how personal this is getting, we can move this to PM's if you wish.

[stryder1000]

Well, my EX wasn't very vocal and I'm not sure if it was my lack of skill. But, when she was vocal it was usually because id stimulate two or more places at once so i'm figuring it wasn't usually fake. truthfully i find fake moans to be a extreme turn off and actually kinda irritating as if shes just feeding my ego or something. Biting has also been one of my things so i can agree with that though... ive never had a girl bite me so hard
i bleed profusely.

[Christie]

I'm not in tune with the latest generation enough to say it's right or wrong, but it always throws me off my balance when I hear 14 year olds are having sex on a common basis nowadays. Power to you, we all wanted it back then but couldn't get any. It's just...shocking though.

[daniel2]

I suppose. I know girls at 14 who know they are too young for sex. Then I also know girls who only just turned 14 who want to lose their virginity a.s.a.p because they don't want to die a virgin. Silly if you ask me, they have so many years left to be alive.

[EviL]

I suppose. I know girls at 14 who know they are too young for sex. Then I also know girls who only just turned 14 who want to lose their virginity a.s.a.p because they don't want to die a virgin. Silly if you ask me, they have so many years left to be alive.

Society is in a downward spiral in my opinion and it's things like these that only prove that point further. I know we all make dumb mistakes when were young but this just seems a bit ridiculous. If parents accept this from there child sooner or later it's going to be children younger then 14 years of age having sex.

Not that it's not already happening but just more of it.

But back on topic i'm not really a moaner at all I didn't even think many guys actually moaned at all if at any I thought it was just something you did with women, not so much masturbation with just yourself.

[daniel2]

If you live in Iceland you lose your verginity at age 12 or 13.
I suppose we are lucky. Tho Iceland is one of the lowest populated countries in the world and has one of the lowest crime rates and sexual abuse problems.

[rising crescent]

If you live in Iceland you lose your verginity at age 12 or 13.

what the.....

my friend said:"it is very terrifying facts...."

[meauw]

Indeed.. 12 or 13 whoa..

[Christie]

12 years old? That's just wrong.

[EviL]

These days I'm not really all that surprised that this would be happening though. I mean children are getting pregnant and having children younger and younger. It's sickening but then again at least it's at a low percentage of people that are doing this. I hope it's the same for Iceland that it's not a common occurrence that 12 and 13 year olds are having sex.

[daniel2]

12 years old? That's just wrong.

Seems to be tradition over there.

[Slayden]

12 years old? That's just wrong.

Wrong? That's the way things were done in most countries prior to the 1800s. 12 years of age was when boys and girls came of age and were referred to as men and women. Most were even married at this age.

[AHL1204]

.. I think it's just to assure boyfriends that they are enjoying it. At least, that's why my girlfriend does.

[Edom]

True, true. Now I just feel old. 0__0
Anyways, I don't think people should ever fake moaning just to attempt to turn their partners on, because lies are not a way to build up a loving relationship.

[AmSidar]

No pleasure no moaning!!! enuf said!!!

[Rand al'Thor]

if the moaning is a fake it'd really hurt me since i'd try my best to please the girl (unlike some egoistic guys ). The woman is an human being not a blowing doll :punch: )

[TheAmega]

I'm gonna have to say the moaning happens quite naturally. If a woman is enjoying herself, she's going to tell you. Even if it's really subtle. So, she may not be screaming in your ear, but she's still going to be making some kind of noise. If she's not making any noise, she's trying really hard not to, and that's probably because you haven't made her feel comfortable enough about herself for her to open up to you.

[Rand al'Thor]

true there's also this that's why a little foreplay is always welcome ^^

[Vegeta Himura]

I've not really been a moaner much myself, although I have to say that with new experiences come new hobbies and preferences. Although, still being a virgin, I can't really say for sure.

My girlfriend is more of the quiet type and because of that I can agree with the acute > loud point.

And I do think that fake moaning would be a giant turn off for me.Excitement is supposed to be contagious, and if the excitement is fake, that can't transfer and excite your partner. That's not the way it works.

[daniel2]

No pleasure no moaning!!! enuf said!!!

Yes indeed.

[demonicwolf69]

I'm gonna have to say the moaning happens quite naturally. If a woman is enjoying herself, she's going to tell you. Even if it's really subtle. So, she may not be screaming in your ear, but she's still going to be making some kind of noise. If she's not making any noise, she's trying really hard not to, and that's probably because you haven't made her feel comfortable enough about herself for her to open up to you.


werid enough i have had a girl who when moaned was really not into it i could tell usually shed just digg them things she called claws into my skin or shoulders and get really close which was very odd she didnt and wouldnt moan i even asked her moan a bit would you damn its like im doing a dead girl :innocence2:

when she wasnt into it though she would moan and gasp and cry out with little wimpers that basicly when i would just kinda be like uhh yea BOREING!!!

somne women are werid btw the chick im talking about we didnt just have a normal sexual relationship, breakfest, lunch and dinner and if things went good or she was happy late evening or late after noon till parents got home:wohoho::em38::hi: its hard being the energizer bunny...:071:

on a serious note ya im a crazy mofo ill try anything once basicly and she was one of those girls who just liked to have fun only her fun is wat ever guy wants...

[Aeolia]

I only moan if someone's doing me good, but I'm quiet most of the time.

However, once someone gets me to scream, damn do I enjoy it.