Bi-sexual

[darkzero45]

My mom freaked out cause I'm bi. It was a while back like a couple months or so but I just remembered it and thought I'd ask about it. She found out cause I told her. Not like she walked in on me looking at yaoi or anything. She thought she was gonna have to send me to an effin' loony bin or something. I was kinda pissed too. We argued over it. I think she's crazy cause really there's nothing wrong with it. Not like the world's gonna end.

[playkid]

btw what is Bi? i didn't know sorry lolz

[darkzero45]

No need for sorries. It means you like guys and girls. Not just as friends.

[daniel2]

It's cool being Bi like its cool being gay or straight. Your sexuality doesn't matter in this world, just make sure that you treat everyone equal and not use your sexuality as an excuse to annoy other people.

I have a few bi friends.. A friend once told me that you cannot be perfectly Bisexual.
That you have to either like girls or boys more, some people who are gay often use being bisexual as an excuse to not to seem too gay.

It's good that you told her about your sexuality. You should think about what sex you like more then the other, if you like them both the same ammout then I guess what my bisexual friend said is wrong.

As for her reaction, thats completely childish. She needs to grow up and realise that your only bisexual and therefore are not going to have all the hardships of being gay..
Talk to her about it and tell her that she hurt you when she said what she did, she should care enough to apologize and talk it out with you.

Best of luck in life.

[darkzero45]

Like I said it was a couple months ago. I already talked to her about it but she doesn't listen. I hate it too. And she's always on the damn computer chatting. Least I get on here and do more stuff. I make art and all sorts of things. I think the last time I saw her make a picture was like a week and a half ago. Every other time I've seen her on the pc she's been chatting. Pisses me off but she just won't listen when I say anything about it. She's too bullheaded. Well... Thanks for the support. My grandma thinks it's some kind of phase I'm going through. I know it's not. I started liking both sexes pretty much as soon as I hit puberty. (which I think was a little early. like, 10 yrs old.)

[daniel2]

Well then you'll feel that way all your life, unless you find a girl or a boy that you want to be with forever. As for your mum I know parents can be pretty hurtful and at times they don't give a hoot what their child is thinking. You just need to talk to her even if you have to scream it out for her, I did this with my parents which made them listen to me, because I just said that they were ignoring me and if they had any ounce of compassion inside them then they would at least listen and help me..

Other then that your grandma at least gave you a better reaction then your mother.

[darkzero45]

Yeah, I'm not gonna bother talking about it with my grandma though. She'll just blow it off as something that's just gonna pass. I can't yell at my mom though cause that's just another reason for her to send me away.

[daniel2]

I see so you have troubles with that and your staying at home and pretending to be good so she doesn't kick you out because your at that age..

Well I think the only last thing I could say is that regardless if you feel you need to talk to her then you defiantly need to talk to her about it.
Just bring it up one day and tell her that your her son and weather she likes it or not its not going to change that your bisexual.

Do you want acceptance from her ?
or
Do you want acknowledgment that your Bisexual ?

Which one are you trying for ?

[darkzero45]

Neither. I gave up on getting my mom to accept it and continue like normal. My friends are ok with it and that's all I want.

[daniel2]

Then good luck in life and in trying to find a mate (:

[darkzero45]

Thanks much. I appreciate it.

[Kenadian]

Then good luck in life and in trying to find a mate (:

He should have an easier time than straight people, he has twice as many to choose from.:em0111:

[daniel2]

He should have an easier time than straight people, he has twice as many to choose from.:em0111:

Yes I suppose that is true but then again their a more complications involved, he knows better then both of us put together.

[darkzero45]

It's actually not that easy. There're alot of guys that're gay or bi that I don't like. Most of them are preps and I don't really like preps. Girls that are like me are easier to find than guys. Except for some of my friends but they're either not looking or are not gay or bi.

[reminder]

My mom freaked out cause I'm bi. It was a while back like a couple months or so but I just remembered it and thought I'd ask about it. She found out cause I told her. Not like she walked in on me looking at yaoi or anything. She thought she was gonna have to send me to an effin' loony bin or something. I was kinda pissed too. We argued over it. I think she's crazy cause really there's nothing wrong with it. Not like the world's gonna end.

Wanna try wiki?

A 2002 survey in the United States by National Center for Health Statistics found that 1.8 percent of men ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 2.3 percent homosexual, and 3.9 percent as "something else". The same study found that 2.8 percent of women ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 1.3 percent homosexual, and 3.8 percent as "something else".

Your mom should be happy... you could like "something else"....


PS. Are you equally exually attracted to both males and females?

[ANBU]

Wanna try wiki?

A 2002 survey in the United States by National Center for Health Statistics found that 1.8 percent of men ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 2.3 percent homosexual, and 3.9 percent as "something else". The same study found that 2.8 percent of women ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 1.3 percent homosexual, and 3.8 percent as "something else".

Your mom should be happy... you could like "something else"....


PS. Are you equally exually attracted to both males and females?

lol whats the "something else" shemales, animals, or hermaphrodite.

geeze i get sick to my stomach when i see a shemale, or hermaphrodite, close off or on, its like kyrptonite to me, now i feel like taking showers over and over just to clear my mind of the haunting images. i had nightmares about shemales once....woke up sweating

[darkzero45]

Wanna try wiki?

A 2002 survey in the United States by National Center for Health Statistics found that 1.8 percent of men ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 2.3 percent homosexual, and 3.9 percent as "something else". The same study found that 2.8 percent of women ages 18–44 considered themselves bisexual, 1.3 percent homosexual, and 3.8 percent as "something else".

Your mom should be happy... you could like "something else"....


PS. Are you equally exually attracted to both males and females?

I like girls more. The something else bit sounds like it would be really wierd.

[Dark Akuma]

Move out as soon as you can. I don't see your mother changing.

[daniel2]

Move out as soon as you can. I don't see your mother changing.

You said what I didn't want to say...

[Christie]

I feel for you :( Sorry that you have to deal with it. Best thing to do is focus on your life objectives until you're independent enough to survive on your own.

[Dark Akuma]

You said what I didn't want to say...
Sometimes honesty is the best policy.

[daniel2]

Not in this case. I didn't lie either, which is how that saying works.

[Agnus]

all Yu Need Is Luuvvvv!

[daniel2]

Well you got plenty of that here, wtf are you talking about lol.

[reminder]

Well you got plenty of that here, wtf are you talking about lol.


Don't mind Mizu, she's on drugs >.>



Ok, to the maker of this topic. I can bet that your mom hates the "homosexual" part of your bisexuality. In other words, she hates the idea of you sleeping with men. So, if you'll have a girlfriend, she probably won't object, and if you have a boyfriend... well, better hide it from her. Some things shouldn't be said or shown, and if you care about your mom (and yourself), hide your "love men" part till you become indipendant.

[darkzero45]

Misu knows what she's talking about! Yeah, I supposed hiding that part would work..... And, I'm gonna try and move out when I turn 17 anyways. Advantages to moving out: I can do whatever the hell I want! and: I can be on niho more!!!

[doesthislookinfected]

My mom freaked out cause I'm bi. It was a while back like a couple months or so but I just remembered it and thought I'd ask about it. She found out cause I told her. Not like she walked in on me looking at yaoi or anything. She thought she was gonna have to send me to an effin' loony bin or something. I was kinda pissed too. We argued over it. I think she's crazy cause really there's nothing wrong with it. Not like the world's gonna end.

actually.. i wish i would be like you
i kinna get your situation.. i'm bisexual myself and my mom is one of the biggest homophobic person i've ever meet--
my friends know it.. my sisters know it--but.. ha.. she doesnt know.. well my dad either but thats another story..-
once she didn't let me out cuz there was "a lesbian outside" . lol-- she's nuts
knowing how she is..-- i feel like i shoudln't tell her.. cuz i would desappoint her even more than i already do-- i know liking guys.. or girls isn't wrong-- i'm okie with it-- tho it sucks i have to keep it in secret from my mom- well i keep mny secrets from here.. since i know how she would react-

yeah the world won't end
and the most important thing is that you are ok with it-- :')
cuz some close minded people belive is wrong and keep lying themselves all their lives u___u; -- people.. i don't get them

[darkzero45]

Well my mom can't scare me w/anything such as groundings to being sent off somewhere. I don't really worry about what she or anyone else thinks. I'll tell them and say if you don't like it, too bad. Not my problem. She actually told me she would send me to boys and girls town and I said if it was needed I'll send myself there!

[Sparkemus]

Misu knows what she's talking about! Yeah, I supposed hiding that part would work..... And, I'm gonna try and move out when I turn 17 anyways. Advantages to moving out: I can do whatever the hell I want! and: I can be on niho more!!!

I can't say I know how you feel because my parents have taken the bi thing very well.
I'll say moving out can put you in hard time many of my friends did the thing of moving out around the same age. Most of them whet though hell and I had to see it all, it hurt me a lot to see my friends like that but some of them said they where better off and they where happier. In the end its all up to you really if you think you can then good for it :em001:

One thing you can count on is that lots of people are happy for who you are. ^^

[Elfarion]

Imho.. Bi girls, that’s cool! But what about guys.. um, hope that’s not for me. ^^

[amirali]

So, err, I wonder if girls would be okay being part of a threesome with two bisexual guys? The guys would be happy because each one gets to satisfy both preferences; and the girl gets two men to satisfy her also.

[miyu333]

i know a girl that would be ok with that. I know guys that would like the reverse though, two girls and one guy. Most parents dont seem to like anything outside of the norm. ive moved out and i just dont tell my mom plus im in a normal dating relationship so she doesnt suspect anything. sometimes just hidding a few things is the best way to go.

[Yakusoku]

My mom freaked out cause I'm bi. It was a while back like a couple months or so but I just remembered it and thought I'd ask about it. She found out cause I told her. Not like she walked in on me looking at yaoi or anything. She thought she was gonna have to send me to an effin' loony bin or something. I was kinda pissed too. We argued over it. I think she's crazy cause really there's nothing wrong with it. Not like the world's gonna end.

Honestly, your mom is an ignorant. Is she modern or old school minded? Jesus!
In my opinion it doesn't matter what you are, but what you enjoy being. I'm like you too, but my mom was like, " Nah, you're joking! .. .. Really!? Idiot. ". It could be a phase yes, but then, what about it? Both sides are interesting for a BI to explore but then, I guess that that applies much more to girls than it does for men.
Just ignore what your mom thinks about this for now, if she can't understand how you feel and your trust with her then, she's a bad mom or has issues.

[nanash1092]

i don'y really care about bi-sex girls coz' i love yuri but not to bi-sex guy...

[Yanderekko]

Well, my parents never cared much about me being bi, so I can't relate all that well, but... Hope your situation improves. I wish you all luck in the future.

[dkeehoe]

nothing wrong with being Bi
period.

[hesqueliata]

ur mom's an oldschool *******, if you like girls better go out with em publicly, she;ll be fine. and work on moving out as fast as you fucking can, if she wasn't ready for the possibility of a bi or gay kid when she had you, she shouldn't have had kids.

although everyone needs to remember that your parents don't want to hear about your sex life any more than you want to hear about thiers.

[Nored]

ur mom's an oldschool *******, if you like girls better go out with em publicly, she;ll be fine. and work on moving out as fast as you fucking can, if she wasn't ready for the possibility of a bi or gay kid when she had you, she shouldn't have had kids.

although everyone needs to remember that your parents don't want to hear about your sex life any more than you want to hear about thiers.

Amen.

I believe the biggest reason your mom wants you to be straight is because she wants grandkids. Try not to only make her see your perspective, but you also need to see hers. I don't know why, but some people really want grandchildren.

Personally, I can't even stand children.

[mikoxkikyo]

lol parents are difficult to convince but if you give it time she will eventually see as her same son.

[Mojoe]

Shame on everyone calling the mother ignorant and names. You only get one mother show her respect. My mother took a bit of time to come around after I told her I was gay. She didn't scold me or anything, just strange looks every now and than. But eventually she got over it and remembered I'm her daughter.

I fully understand why a parent would be a little freaked out about it. After all they want grandchildren XD

[Taser]

....overreaction by mom? Cause like being bi is tottally fine in my books.

[Naynay102090]

He should have an easier time than straight people, he has twice as many to choose from.:em0111:
Ok it's not easy to find who he wants because he has a lot to choose from and most girls aren't too accepting of "bi boys". Plus I've had experience with "bi boys" I've dated one and I accepted him but in the end got hurt. That would be the case with most girls and "bi boys" there will, I believe, always be a fear that the boy will like a guy and the girl will get hurt.
Now for the parents thing, I myself am an 18 year old bi-sexual female. My sister who is 17 is bi-sexual as well (NO INCEST!!!) I cam out to my grandmother who was my legal guardian, when I was 16 she gave me hell and said you didn't get that from my side of the family. Not only that but she humiliated me by telling the other members of my family. My mother however thought it was a phase, but when I explained it to her and she looked back on when I was a kid, I hated barbies and played with my brother's G.I. Joes and hotwheels it made more sense, not only that but my grandmother had no choice but to accept it because not only was I bi but so was my sister. All I can say about the parent issue is you don't have to give up and give her time, because most mothers don't want to even know that their son is bi, my ex's mother didn't want to come to terms with it but she did, as well as my parents. Just give your mother time and when she sees you with a guy (maybe) she's have to come to terms whether she likes it or not. I mean it's not that big you can still procreate! Yeah sorry this is long, but I hope it helps....:)/8: