Relationship prob.

[darkzero45]

I have a problem. There're two girls that I like. Their names are Kortney and Sierra. I like them both alot. They're both really nice. Sierra knows I like her I think, Kortney might know. They both share most of the same interests as me. I was wanting some advice on how to choose. It would be greatly appreciated. If I get good advice I'll give a rep in return. That's if the advice helps me. If more information is needed tell me. I figured that ^^^ would be enough.

[Blu]

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[Rina Touin]

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Blu, did you read the sticky ? This is not the E/N section

~As for DZ, the only advice I can give you is that well you if they both share the same interest , which i doubt but if, you need to know which one you like more, you can't possibly like both and also you're young as well, that could be why you can't decide, may be you simply see both of them cute and nice as hanging out with them as your friends etc.. but may be spend more time with each of them. Also you must know which one like you as a bf ?

[darkzero45]

Well, Sierra says she would go out w/me but I've changed somehow or other. I'm not sure how so I can't really elaborate on that. Well, thnx.

[darkhunter]

chose the one with the bigger brests xD

nevermind that just chouse the one you like the moust

[darkzero45]

Well, that's the thing. I don't know which one I like the most.

[zerox]

.................that a real pain
well who you talk to the most you should think it over look over pros and cons and think if you two are right or just friends

[reminder]

Well, that's the thing. I don't know which one I like the most.

First of all, male here.

Pick Sierra (even if you changed, she would probably date you anyway) and try going out with her for a bit. If a thought like "I should've picked Kortney" comes to your mind during the time you're dating her, then you've probably made a mistake. Shrug off somehow and start dating Kortney.

One thing you must be sure about is whether you DON'T like one girl (or you like her LESS than the other). Then, it's easy... in any way, if you'll have to leave a girl, leave on friendly terms - you'll never know when it might be useful to be in good terms with someone.

[darkzero45]

That sounds good. Thanks everyone. I'll see what works.

[playkid]

well i think u need to try with sierra or kortney if 1 of them r better then it must be ur best gf^^

[Agnus]

Follow your heart, but see wich one will make you the happiest and add good stuff to your life, you should only date someone who can teach you and add you good stuff, only good stuff. ^^ cuz if its the other way ur better off alone

so follow your heart but dont be so blind

[darkzero45]

Thanks Misu.


Playkid! Neither of them are better!

[Blu]

Blu, did you read the sticky ? This is not the E/N section


I was serious o.O

[darkzero45]

I won't be able to solve this till breaks over so if anyone still has any kind of advice, I'm open. I'll let you all know how it goes though cause you've all helped.

[zerox]

dam it boy you like both of them right but have you even bother to see if they have the same feelings for you?

[darkzero45]

Ok, I know Sierra likes me. Kortney might. Not sure. Haven't asked yet.

[zerox]

then you should go with cause like each other and it could become a strong relationship if you build on it.

[darkzero45]

I know that. I still need to see if Kortney likes me though.

[zerox]

.............well have you asked her or bother to find out?

[darkzero45]

Not yet. I talk to her a lot though.

[zerox]

just cause she talks you two talk to each other alot does not mean she likes you

[darkzero45]

I know that. I'm not saying she might like me just cause we talk to each other a lot. We're good friends is what I'm saying. So it's quite possible she likes me.

[zerox]

ok then what do you plan to do if she does like you?

[darkzero45]

No clue. If she does like me then I'll have two girls that like me(as far as I know) and I still won't know which one to ask out. I guess I could figure out which one likes me the most.

[zerox]

well how about if she only see you a a friend

[darkzero45]

Then I ask out Sierra. I go on being friends w/Kortney.

[zerox]

but how long has..........the one who likes you liked you?

[dragoncrusher]

well, the solutions would be is to see how they both really feel about you, cause there are some cases, where a girl only likes you for your popularity, money, handsomness (if that is even a word). yah, choose carefully. if they both like you the same way as eachother, well, go out with them both. lol ecchi

[darkzero45]

I can't go out with both of them dragoncrusher, that's insane!!! They would both kill me once they found out. So would all the rest of my friends.


As an answer to your question zerox. I don't know honestly.

[Silmeria]

I can't go out with both of them dragoncrusher, that's insane!!! They would both kill me once they found out. So would all the rest of my friends.


As an answer to your question zerox. I don't know honestly.
maybe they gave your the chance and you didnt notice...thats how i lost a possible new hot GF....she wanted to take a Photo of the 2 of us in wedding suits(for only 20 usd) and she would pay, but i denied and denied then the miss from the store asked if we where a couple and and i said no without heistating, that night she went early as any day and declared to my best friend.

maybe something like that happened to you?

[Buttnaked]

Hey, darkzero45. Sounds to me you like Kortney more. How long have you known them?

[darkzero45]

Hey, darkzero45. Sounds to me you like Kortney more. How long have you known them?

I don't know which one I like more. I've known Sierra since the beginning of this year(school year, fall) I've known Kortney for about two years(again, school years)

[Buttnaked]

Well, first you do need to know what you want. I know you don't want to hear that, but knowing what you want is very important; also, don't be ashamed of what you want. Be a man dude.
If you can't decide, stop wasting time and just flip a coin. Just because you date one of them doesn't mean dating the other is off limits, if the first relationship doesn't work out i mean. I've had it happen a lot to me; I'm dating one girl and after we break up run into her friend somewhere, and we hook up. It's really not a big deal dude.
In reality, no one but you can make a decision about your life but you; and your question definetly requires a YOU answer.
Make a decision, grow some balls, and ask one of them out.
But, if you need an opinion, I'd say go with the one you've known the least years. Think about it from their perspective, you been Kortney's friend for like 2 LONG years, and all of a sudden tell her about your crush, that's a long time dude. It's risky as He%!! for her to lose that good long friendship with you; by starting up a relationship. A lot a girls aren't willing to gamble it. If they really see you as their friend that is.
Until you make up your mind I'm just rambling here; so if nothing i said made sense, I'm saying make a decision on what you want, and go from there dude. You can't win anything if you don't put any money on the table. ...and... I can't believe i'm giving you lame quotes. Good luck dude.

[reminder]

Gotta agree with the user above, if you don't know which one you like, there's no way that e-doctors without any ideas about your feelings will give you a good advice. The best advice is simple - pick one and start dating her, without trying you won't get anything...

Or you can wait for a few years till you actually decide, go to the girl and hear "Oops, sorry, I'm married"

[Reaper]

wow looks good how many guys find a female side in them ^^

[ANBU]

choose kortney...trust me.."new flavors have to wear out eventually.."

[Tenji]

Well you have known Kortney longer.. when did you start to like her? If you noticed her a long time ago and your good friends now, I would say at least ask her about how she feels for you, you don't want to get into a "if" situation *if only i had asked her.. I wonder if she thinks of me the way I do her..ect*. Point is you have to take the initiative and take steps towards figuring out how she feels instead of leaving it a mystery.

[darkzero45]

Ok, here's what I'll do. I'm gonna ask Kortney how she feels about me. If she just wants to be my friend, I'll ask out Sierra. I feel really stupid for not thinking of this before. It's so simple too.

[Tenji]

yea there ya go

[darkzero45]

Alright, well.... Yeah..... I'm gonna message Kortney on myspace and ask her cause I don't wanna wait til Monday.

[Buttnaked]

Let us know how it goes.

"Ok, here's what I'll do. I'm gonna ask Kortney how she feels about me. If she just wants to be my friend, I'll ask out Sierra. I feel really stupid for not thinking of this before. It's so simple too."

It is simple, but I understand, it is tough to actually do. Especially when you're so attached to the outcome. Think about this though; all they can do is say no. THAT'S IT! You're not going to be struck down by lightning. Be brave, and good luck dude.

-Naked is good-

[darkzero45]

I messaged Kortney. I'm waiting on a response now. It's never tough for me to do these things though. I'm so used to being turned down and such I just do it thinking: "Well, here goes. If I get turned down, too bad. If she says yes, Great. Not like I'll die."

[daniel2]

Looks like you have gotten a fair bit of help on this already but well...
It depends, give them both the same treatment/affection/attention etc and see which one reacts the best way.

Also mate, make sure you make a choice quick... because sooner or later it'll be too late... thats what always happens, you find out which one you like the most and they are both taken or gone.

If Kourtney turns you down go for the other one. I couldn't imagine ever liking 2 girls at the same time. I can only ever think about one.

[darkzero45]

Yeah, I pretty much do that.

[Tenji]

All thats really left to do then is wait for the answer eh?

[MysticEdge]

Well from personal experience, being in a similar situation of liking two girls it comes down to who you feel more natural with. If that fails I think weighing up who you think would have a better and more fun relationship with you in the long run?

Hope it all works out for ya though

[darkzero45]

If you put it that way it would be Sierra. And yeah, all I gotta do now is wait.
By the way, nice avy Tenji.

[daniel2]

How long do you plan on waiting.. how did you contact her?

[Christie]

If you can't pick, you love neither.

[daniel2]

If you can't pick, you love neither.

Thats a pretty crazy way to put it!!!