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Apirant

06-22-2010, 08:39 PM

I want to get closer to this girl, but the problem is that my friends (including her) know me for being a person who doesn't usually know what he's talking about. In simpler terms, I'm the stupid one in the group.

I've tried sounding smart, but that managed to backfire every time. I've also tried flirting with her, but that fails instantly. Should I give up on her?

I know I don't sound that dedicated, but I always end up thinking about her. Even more than I think about the MMO before I stopped.

takuya13

06-22-2010, 10:51 PM

Firstly badluck... its happened to me before and i can sorta understand how you're feeling about it. to answer your question:
if you think she's really special then no dont give up on her, but otherwise... stay friends always good to stay friends..

my story is similar but instead it was me being the nice guy ALL the time and guess she got tired of that. so when my friend told me i should be a little bit of a dickhead i just couldnt do it coz i'd been nice to her all this time (and when i did act like a jerk she just looked at me funny). I ended up setting her up with said friend which i thought was pretty lols but we're all still friends and our (me and the girl's) relationship is pretty good.

it is hard to change a person's impression of you but i guess all you can really do is find ways to show her other things your good at? hope it helped

Apirant

06-23-2010, 10:00 PM

Thanks. Your post gave me a little more insight on my situation and what I should do.

She already knows all the things I'm good at. I kinda known her for a few years. I'm leaning over the decision of just being her friend. I don't really know whether she's special to me or not. I mean I like her and she's been a friend, but I don't think that's enough to consider her special to me.

Fujino-chan

01-21-2011, 12:12 AM

Never give up, there are chances that she might see the positive and unique side of you that no one could have. Try impressing her, but don't be too showy. And most of all, make her feel your "love"

Daku Zetsumei

01-23-2011, 06:29 PM

Apirant... the hell are you doing!? Get back to your MMO right now! Life sux ass believe me. MMO's are a doorway to being happy. Get it? You don't wanna be unhappy do you? Do what your good at and stop waiting time on things that never work. Just get yourself some dogs and cats btw so they can drag you outside and stuff instead of sitting in front of the monitor 24/7. Chop some firewood too it helps.

BleachOD

01-23-2011, 09:11 PM

I am sure you have a good quality or two....don't try to be something you're not and I know you like her but if she can't see or like you for who you are...forget her...

there are plenty of fish in the sea. My friend is called "Spacey Dash" because he's total air head but he's likable anyway. So don't worry about what is wrong with you...show her what's so good about the REAL you

Mucklurker

01-23-2011, 10:03 PM

Going with the obvious here..... NECRO!!!!! Ok...done...
Now for some meat!
The big issue I have: So what if you are the "dumb" one in a group. You still have feelings. Obviously she really does mean something to you because you think about her A LOT!!! (more than a past MMO, yeah, you got a real thing for her)
If you have to, set her aside and have a serious talk with her. Let her know you are serious.
If you ever come back to this question...... let us know what happened, before and after you read our posts.

BleachOD's sig. Good to know who is serious here! XD

viviomega

01-25-2011, 09:39 PM

Just be yourself, and be persistent if you really want her. I asked my girlfriend out 3 times before we started dating (but I already knew she was kinda interested in me). Just take it slowly and be yourself mainly.

tdiddy150

01-27-2011, 09:27 PM

umm... okay then... ask yourself these 3 questions... do you want it? and can you get it? and if both of those are yes... how badly do you want it? do what you think will work... i would give that "persistence ftw :banzai: advice, but i have no idea who this girl is... just use your discretion and try to make things happen...

viviomega

01-29-2011, 02:59 AM

[-]And when I say persistent, I mean not annoyingly go at it non stop, you'll have to give her some time, just don't flat out give up[/-]

Now that I look back at the dates, this thread started over 6 months ago, our advice probably won't be of much help anymore.