At what age is it still ok to live with your mom? [Archive]

Nored

01-10-2010, 10:37 AM

Houka

01-10-2010, 10:44 AM

You people do realize that people go to university, right? Sometimes, the university is close to home, so you wouldn't pay an extra couple grand a year to live on campus. Assuming you start uni at 18, you'll be 22 if you go for an undergraduate degree. Then, if you opt for a masters, you'll be 26. If you go for a doctorate, you'll be 28. If you decide to go for teaching after the doctorate, you'll spend another 3 years going to a teachers college, and after all that, even if you got into a co-op program, you've only lightened your student debt; you still owe money and you can't exactly go buy your own home right off that bat. It's actually a good choice to live with your parents longer because then you can save more money and make a larger down payment for a home, lessening what you pay in a mortgage by tens (or even hundreds) of thousands, shortening your mortgage by several years.

Very good point. Even though I Iive in another country from home atm because my university is abroad, I sort of envy those people who have the choice to stay at home or at least close during their studies.

Konatard

01-10-2010, 11:55 AM

Maybe until 24 I don't know, I think until you end the university if you live in the same city of the university, it's OK, but later of that, that's gonna make you a parasite, that's who I think.

affie

01-10-2010, 01:26 PM

You people do realize that people go to university, right? Sometimes, the university is close to home, so you wouldn't pay an extra couple grand a year to live on campus. Assuming you start uni at 18, you'll be 22 if you go for an undergraduate degree. Then, if you opt for a masters, you'll be 26. If you go for a doctorate, you'll be 28. If you decide to go for teaching after the doctorate, you'll spend another 3 years going to a teachers college, and after all that, even if you got into a co-op program, you've only lightened your student debt; you still owe money and you can't exactly go buy your own home right off that bat. It's actually a good choice to live with your parents longer because then you can save more money and make a larger down payment for a home, lessening what you pay in a mortgage by tens (or even hundreds) of thousands, shortening your mortgage by several years.
I thought of that. It's actually really handy if you live with your parents for a very long time. It's really cheap. You won't have to cook your own diner. You don't have to wash your own clothes. Neat. I've bin in a situation when you r talking to a beautiful girl you just met and when she asks where you live. I mean, if you're 24 and you say you still live with your mom. Not a very good first impression.
But it's the smartest choice if you have to studie for a long time. So I guess what you're saying is that it's okay to live with your mom when your 31 years old. Or even older.

+nR.Hikari

01-10-2010, 07:07 PM

Like a lot of similar questions posed here, the answer is relative. Like Nored said, if you're going to school and want to save money, the best choice would be to stay if your institution happens to be close to your home.
However, to strangers' first impression, living on your own is a sign of independence and self-realization. This is particularly true to relations with the other sex (or whoever) and dating. Being dependent on your parents after a certain age is a major sign of weakness, therefore even an embarrassing fact to face (were one to tell the truth, of course).

candichik

01-10-2010, 08:02 PM

How about if the situation was reversed? My mom has been ill and had to quit her job. Poor mom she's way to young to be having all this drama. So I had her move in with me so I could help her out. I pay all her bills and I gave her the master bedroom set up to her liking. I've gotten some sh*t talked to me mostly guys because ppl r like u still live with your mom. I'm like no fool that's my house and I'm not struggling to make ends meat. I don't see what's the big deal? If someone wants to live with there mom they can as long as they hold there own.

Ninja_Cutie

01-10-2010, 08:16 PM

um,,,,when ur 18 or 17~! ur moma don't want ur ass hanging around the house when she can be partying~! (<<<mostly what my mom said to me)

+nR.Hikari

01-10-2010, 08:40 PM

um,,,,when ur 18 or 17~! ur moma don't want ur ass hanging around the house when she can be partying~! (<<<mostly what my mom said to me)

One is hardly grown and/or mature enough to move out at 17 years old. Just because you feel older it doesn't mean you should be on your own.

Soviet Kitty

01-10-2010, 08:56 PM

I don't care if people live with their parents or not, I imagine it'd be helpful to stay with your parents for awhile while you're in college so you don't have to pay for a dorm.

frankenscoot

01-11-2010, 04:22 PM

I moved out on my 18th b-day. I've rented even since up until now because I own my own house now. I'm currently 28.

Yozo-kun

01-11-2010, 04:27 PM

18 - get ur ass the hell out of ur momy`s house and go to work !

sarashina

01-11-2010, 06:02 PM

i lived in my mom's house (starting to pay rent after 18) til about five months ago (i'm 20). the answer really is relative, i missed college largely due to my brother's illness, but if i had gone i would probably have lived with my parents for the duration.

タケル

01-11-2010, 10:07 PM

*sigh* I want to move out and be free but I need to get some money first

ShadowJet

01-12-2010, 06:43 PM

I see nothing wrong with living with your parents after your 18 at all. Which is something I well most likely be doing anyways. And like the above statements (or whatever), it well really helps if your going to school nearby. The only thing I would expect form anyone doing this is to help pay for food and bills and clean the house when your expected to yeah.

DanGuard

01-12-2010, 10:29 PM

It's best to move a year after you graduated from college/university at the most. I mean it still can become stressful even if you had your college education and your mum can understand that if you are lucky. I'd personally move out by the age of 25-26.

Dr. Shaneman

01-13-2010, 09:24 AM

Prices around here for moving out on your own are flippin' expensive. Even renting is getting difficult.
You'll need a few years worth of savings in this country so it's not that easy to move out around 20.

I-ALITX-I

01-13-2010, 02:28 PM

I said 24 but to be honest it's really aslong as you need to, as long as you intend to move out and not just stay there until your 50.

graham1000

01-13-2010, 04:47 PM

the economy is getting better so no later than 20 years old you should be out

LadyRiven

01-19-2010, 09:02 PM

There is no "right" age. It's completely a matter that depends on each individual person in their individual situation. Don't think about what's right for others; worry about what's right for you.

ozakism

01-20-2010, 02:52 PM

I don't think there is a "right" or "wrong" age, however, at a certain point, the person living at home should either try to get out or (s)he should contribute at home, like doing chores (e.g. cooking, cleaning, do the laundry etc.), pay a rent and generally acting according to the parents' house rules. Yes, they may be 18, or whatever age is the legal one, but they are living at their parents house, which means they should follow their rules, since they are allowed to live there, after all.

CodeOfConduct

01-20-2010, 03:13 PM

Really, it depends on a lot of factors, like university which has been discussed before, but disability could be a factor. I'd say if you have a good paying job and have finished school, that's when you need to start thinking about moving out. I'm guessing that's usually around 21 or 22, depending on how much education you seek.

hikarisakura

01-23-2010, 03:28 AM

24 is enough if you want to make your own family ne~
but forever is ok ne ~ :3
cause it's all depends with the family...
and yeah..
i got some aunties and uncles that still lives with my grandma ne ~
even though they are already more than 35 y/o ne ~

Troublesome

01-23-2010, 07:46 PM

I'd say anything up to 45 is fine.
But 46? What the hell is wrong with you? You make me sick.

jonadrian619

01-23-2010, 09:24 PM

That depends. The moment I get a job & some other legitimate assets I can live with myself (I still live in my house, but my mom needs to be out for a long time 'cause of her job so I'm now the dude behind the whole house). Actually, that time is getting closer (still at 3rd year hs and 16 y/o). I have to do laundry, dishwashing, cooking for myself, programming and everything else in between...so, that's it..

18 can be a good age, depends if the guy can handle all of the burden....

Shiiro

01-31-2010, 02:44 AM

You can live with your mum until whatever age you are, just don't burden her and make her treat you as if you're a 5-year-old baby who needs wub fwom mummy. Take good care of her and don't treat her like freaking shit like all motherfuckers these day do.

And when I say live with her, I don't mean hogging her money and spend the eternity of your life lazing around without a job. When you're an adult, you live with your folks to take care of them and support their financial problems. At least that's what I think.

CrownedChild

01-31-2010, 10:17 AM

Well... I know for sure 18 year olds are okay. LOL, since im still living with my mom. plus, she wants me to stay with her anyway. :D

DenKare

02-12-2010, 08:11 PM

well as chinese person i say its more economical to live with ur parents. just pay them monthly to keep them out of your way its like having a maid lol...... or 2.... srsly

Baroque0621

02-15-2010, 07:00 PM

I think about 19 is ok but after that it starts to get a bit odd, that and you need to have a Job vehicle and hopefully starting college. I dont know about you but I dont wanna bring my girlfriends to mums basement lol.

petite_mort

02-15-2010, 09:37 PM

I think 21 because after that age I think the parents would like their children to leave the nest and would get tired of their children loafing around unless they were going to a college nearby.

My stepbrother is almost 28 and lives at home, and my mother can't stand it! She even packs him lunch everyday and is mindful of what foods he doesn't like and he is so rude to her in return. We call him "the little prince" because he acts like a spoiled brat and walks around like he owns the place. He was on his own but moved back because he wanted to use my mother as maid service. I think it is very odd...to be that age and at home. He NEVER leaves the house except to go to work and he is supposed to pay rent but he never does and my mother can't say anything about it or his father will get angry at her.

I think it is very good for parent and child relationship to move out. I think I have bonded the most with my mother from living on my own. We were always very close but now we can be more like friends and she is less bossy over me now.

krsnikzwei

02-18-2010, 03:12 AM

Personally, I would think until 25 is still OK. By 25, you should be able to buy your own house and move out, Although I know that not every people can afford to buy home/flat by 25.

Mongoosem

02-27-2010, 10:54 PM

Depends on the situation I suppose...

Masu

02-28-2010, 02:03 AM

I say 24. Its much easier to go through college and finish when you dont have to worry about rent and bills and such. Also I would classify this as "Living at home" because either I missed out on something, or im just dumb, because living with your Dad doesnt change the fact that you still live at home nor does it make it okay to live with him till the age of 30+. (In the case that you lack a mother for some reason)

K.J. Ace

02-28-2010, 02:28 AM

It depend on the situation.
My first bro moved out when he was 25 because of his work and my second bro still live with my mom although he's 29 this year and he is also working.Even my mom said it's impossible for my second bro to move out because he's the type that can't plan on something well enough and because of some family situation.

My mom still having a traditional thinking.She want to see her daughters to move out only when they're married and having stable income every month.So it's mostly depend on the situation whether you want to move out or not.

Snakevssam

02-28-2010, 01:37 PM

its better to go at first time u think u can work and can live alon .

Skythe

02-28-2010, 10:13 PM

Why doesn't this topic say "live with parents?" anyway I'd say at least minimum til 25-26. Since I live in California, economy sucks. Also its great way to save up if you already got a good job. But that's my opinion.

But it really shouldn't matter. Everyone will have there reason on why,wether it be mentally or situation status.

Snakevssam

03-01-2010, 02:57 PM

Skythe

03-01-2010, 09:39 PM

I think you and your mother love eche other together:onegai:
What kind of stupid reply is that? Me and my parent's don't talk much at all, and I'm only 18. I find my parent's irritating and annoying.

...And no im not mad at your reply. It was just really stupid. In my opinion at least.

Mojoe

03-01-2010, 10:49 PM

Depends, if you're 21 and never had a GF or never been on a vacation than yeah...thats kind of bad.
If your 21 and have a GF and been on 2-3 vacations than not so bad.

Pretty much depends on how you live under your mom's roof. I don't care if your in college or not .if you don't live than why are you on this planet. Harsh kinda but you understand

P.s. not saying those 2 examples define life but....

Salue

03-02-2010, 04:00 AM

you know in some countries like dear old kuwait u cant work until ur 21 >.<" so ya thats annoying so moving out when ur 21-22 and less is kinda stupid in kuwait because u cant get a job lol ;p;

vizard light

03-03-2010, 05:02 PM

I'd say when you can afford to
If not r u gonna sleep on the street ?

ddk

03-07-2010, 02:31 AM

Yeh, i dun think it matters aslong as you can afford it i.e. have a job. I sure wouldn't want to live in the streets jst so i can say, 'ya, i don't live with my mom, am i cool or wat?'

cooleyhighbit

03-10-2010, 02:58 PM

i'd say until you're 18 for a boy but for a woman there's really no age (even though there's many strong women doing excellent it is harder for a woman to be on her own, not saying a woman is weaker than a man just things are harder)
the funny thing is i lived with mine until last year when i had to take responisibility for the shit i was doing and man up and be a father and i was 22

Sun Seto

03-11-2010, 04:24 AM

Where talking about your mum here.... The greatest human being
known to mankind. Any age is fine because mums are wicked cool
and always give the best hugs and kisses. I wouldn't give that
up for anything in the world. Plus they are also the best listeners
and advice givers. *nods*

Well my mum was mean and crazy, but to all the other "good mums"
out there. Stay and love her always!

SephirothEX

08-23-2010, 06:13 PM

Forever
Because she is my only family

SoraKey

08-23-2010, 09:42 PM

living with my mom doesn't mean that I can't be independent
my parents has given me food and taught me a lot of thing.
It's because of them, i'm here
So, when I'm able to make money myself, i must give them something -the best- in return

Silence ღ

08-26-2010, 05:57 AM

I love my momma.
I will live and take care of her until the day she pass away ♥

shadowtetsu

08-30-2010, 12:39 AM

you make a good point but there are people who dont think the same way or
give a sh... about their family

Fragsamp

08-30-2010, 01:11 AM

17. thats the only time u can stay with ur mommy and daddy nyaa~

Samimista

08-30-2010, 12:56 PM

You can live with her forever but the smartest move is wait til after college once you get a good job that pays a lot then move out so during college you can live there for free.

MercyLove

09-01-2010, 05:05 PM

Well i dont know but i guess once you get a job and want to create a family that should be the time were the son or daugher should move out.

Setebos

09-01-2010, 05:50 PM

I miss me Mum, Mums are special. Cherish them while you have them. I say any age is okay as long as you are self supporting.

Shiomi-chan

01-08-2011, 03:58 AM

hmm....well...i'd go for 20~ 21 is where my freedom comes in!!

gehageha

01-08-2011, 07:15 AM

i am a girl i guess its okay to live with your mom until 50, but i am already want lived my mom since 5

vivster

01-08-2011, 07:28 AM

depends on your mom and your environment
i'm 23 now and the earliest time for moving out would be end of this year
the latest probably 3 years from now

vordai

01-08-2011, 12:01 PM

Depends on the situation. I moved out when I turned 19 and that was absolutely the right time. I only moved a couple of kilometers away so mom was still close by when I needed her :) And she still is just a couple of kilometers away, it's been nearly ten years and this is the fourth apartment I've lived in since :P Oh well.

I have to say though that I thought it was quite pathetic when a cousin of mine broke up with his live-in gf and moved back to his mom - at the age of 29 :P And he had a job too so it wasn't out of real necessity...

R. cucullatus

01-08-2011, 09:56 PM

Until you have the means to actually support yourself. No parent wants to see their kid go, thinking they're grown, only to see them crawling back. When you're mature enough to spread your wings a bit is when you should leave. Obviously, that's relative and is specific to each person.

AjaKS101

01-08-2011, 10:06 PM

I reckon people should try aiming to move out by their mid 20's

ConnerA

01-09-2011, 05:39 PM

Any age you want to really its depends on home situation like room, money ect.

If married tho you defiantly need your own place.

RVIVR

01-10-2011, 02:18 PM

sfauthor23

01-19-2011, 01:52 PM

Im 23 n i still live with my mum, but ive only been here a year thank god!! I went to university when i was 19 and lived in student accommadation away from my mum but when i came back i had no where else to go so she agreed to keep me up for however long i need to be here! Ive been looking for somewhere to rent cheaply but at the moment, i am currantly unemployed so its handy that my mum pays for the bills. As soon as i get a steady full time job with a decent wage, im going to start going to estate agents and asking them for advice and applying for council flats and stuff :XD:

Coyote Starrk

01-19-2011, 05:52 PM

There's not really an age I would find acceptable on here... I mean... I think it's OK to live with your parents until you're around 26-29 if necessary. In these tough economic times, our generation is largely caught in a trend of moving out soon after high school and then coming back home within a year or two because they're unable to afford life on the outside yet. I think it's okay, as long as your situation warrants it.

I completely agree with this here, my brother who is 26 years old has tried to move out twice already fits this description. I think its ok to live with your mom until you're around 30, after that it can get awkward.

Ushio

01-20-2011, 03:19 AM

Just think of the advantages and disadvantages living with your parents xD

Gobik

01-20-2011, 12:36 PM

I don't know really, I don't see a age problem but i would not wanna live with my parents until im 50. Must try to support my self one day tho ^^

Liissi

01-23-2011, 05:26 AM

It depends on your situation.
If you still have no place to study and no work, then you shouldn't move out no matter how old you are. (Though it'd be damn pathetic to have neither when you're over 24...)

But if you have a school to go to and/or are going to work, I see no problem. But a high school student is a bit too young to move out, unless there were some circumstances that demand it. Like mine...:innocence2:

I'd say 20-21. It depends a lot on the person and how mature they are.

Traitor"L"

01-23-2011, 05:13 PM

Technically the instant you have a job and are able to support yourself your priority should be to get out. The sooner the better. I mean these people have been stuck listening to you and enduring your quirks, BS, and complaints for "X" amount of years. Independence is bliss. Yes, you love your parents, Yes they love you. But using them to syphon money, shelter, etc. returns you to the bittersweet idea of life support.

Kurikara-chan

01-23-2011, 05:26 PM

Like everyone said before, it depends on your situation. if you are going to college and its near by then sure its cool to live with your folks, but after a certian age then ya, you need to think about moving out.

Ciel-XXX

01-23-2011, 07:25 PM

Well depends.....Live with mum is good because you get to eat loads of nice homecook food yum yum!!!!!!!!! Xd

Embracing_Fear

01-24-2011, 12:42 AM

I'm not sticking around too far past 18...

My oldest brother moved out not 2 weeks after his 18th

zakuu

01-24-2011, 01:41 AM

there's nothing wrong with staying with your parents till past the adult age, in my opinion. asian culture=close family-ties. some teens stay in their houses till in their late 20's. if ever they get out to find a place, it would be just inside a compound or a block away. i prefer to live with my mom/parents till i decide to marry. it's one way of helping them in their bills and take care of them because they're growing old.

tdiddy150

01-24-2011, 01:44 PM

im wasting away at home :)... boo hoo hoo lol... but yeah... in America... my uncle said that some survey denoted 25 as the age of people who would be still livin at home

Kreios

01-26-2011, 07:24 PM

Like said earlier in the thread, it depends on the situation. What matters more is how you make use of the time given to you (didn't notice the above poster ha)

Spicyflakes

02-08-2011, 08:37 PM

Maybe until 24 I don't know, I think until you end the university if you live in the same city of the university, it's OK, but later of that, that's gonna make you a parasite, that's who I think.

i'm in that situation, when i get my 4 year degree/Bachelors, i;ll move out

AkitaKun

02-09-2011, 09:18 PM

bout 21?
i guess the max age about... 25?
XD

Crimson Lotus

02-09-2011, 09:37 PM

When I was 16 I was hyped. I thought I'd be able to move out the day I hit 18 and get away from annoying parents. Then the express bullet train to reality ran me over. College came around and mind you, if you're going to a college with even the slightest positive reputation, you're going to be taking on loans. You can try working part time while you're in college but your grades will most likely suffer as a result and you'll never make enough money to pay for living expenses along with tuition. So if you're going for a higher education, it's fine to live with your parents until you've finished whatever degree you're getting. Maybe even stick around for another year or two to pay off the loans and then finally you can move out. If you finished high school and you're not going to college, pick up a job. Work your ass off, get your position secured, save some money. Do that for a year or two and then you can move out. (This scenario is most fitting for the USA)

Honestly this is a vanity question. Who gives a damn whether you live with your parents? Obviously the people that say there is a certain age (especially in the 16-26 range) are displaying their own immaturity and inferior intellect for not being able to consider variable factors such as education, disabilities, different religious and cultural traditions, laws of different countries, etc. They can take their awesome "independent" life and shove it to someone as shallow that might care like them. So if this is a vanity question as I suspect, just flip off anyone that tells you that something is wrong with you for living with your parents.

denisaryu

02-13-2011, 04:22 PM

I agree with Zakuu san, I don't plan on moving away from home while my mom is still around, I won't leave her alone. It's not so much about "convenient" as it is about being close, supporting each other, etc.

amilgaoul

03-06-2011, 05:51 PM

I would have stayed with her till the day I die...
:even sitting on her lap forever kissing her head:
I'll do that every second without even being bothered at all...

but I know that wouldn't happen since I lost my mama when I was 8years old...

so reading other wants to move out fast make myheart ache
"there comes a day when you'll be alone..no need to rush"