Males getting excited fast during sex

[Rina Touin]

Me and my BF are very close and we have sex a lot.
My question is it is always only 3-4min long >_<;;;; He just gets so excited he is ready before I even get close.
Any suggestions?
PS skipping foreplay is boring. I know if we do foreplay it cuts the time to 1-2 minNow that is not me ^, for me it is about 30-45 min long :3 with my bf. Don't ask me how *He is good =P* !! but as my personal opinion I enjoy slow sex more then fast/rough ones, fast/rough sex doesn't excite me. So I think it is how you and your bf/gf work together on it.

But i find this topic really interesting. So what do you think?

[ZephyrBlack]

haaahaa, now you are telling us the style you like well don't blame me if I give you 24 hours pleasure.

[Rina Touin]

haaahaa, now you are telling us the style you like well don't blame me if I give you 24 hours pleasure.

I am not talking about you giving me pleasure !??!??

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I am talking about your experience if you ever had any! heehee

[Zyro]

if it 2 minutes then, that man is definitely a premature ejectculator :JFBQ00208070428A:

[Blu]

well :-/ I don't know :-/ I just know sometimes my first load can be quick (1-5 mins >.>) but then the second usually lasts about a half hour O.o...Think he would try a cock ring?

[renegadesoul]

if it 2 minutes then, that man is definitely a premature ejectculator

Yeah... its a sexual disorder believe to be a result of the absence/voluntary withdrawal of sexual pleasure during early adolescence/puberty... resulting to increase excitability leading to premature ejaculation.

:nani: wth am I talking about.. Im too young for this topic... :snicker2: ^^

[ElderKain]

Lol, My first time was with a girl a friend of mine married, lol.
Lol, He has ED "Erectile Disfunction" and she asked him if he could come up with a solution, lol then I Knocked on the door at the time *lucky me, lol*
She was too sensitive, lol. I went on for round 40-50 minutes, and she came like 10+ times, lol. Pretty much the oposite situation.
Foreplay was good too, especially since she easilly got wet, lol.

Good sex should at least go untill the Female is satisfied. if not it could lead to relationship problems.

One time I was with a girl, and she was complaining that her old boyfriend got satisfied after 30 seconds.... now that's a quickdraw...

:monk: :monk: :monk: :monk: :monk:

[renegadesoul]

:em0128: .... THE FAST and THE FURIUS!... lol

[Rina Touin]

Yeah... its a sexual disorder believe to be a result of the absence/voluntary withdrawal of sexual pleasure during early adolescence/puberty... resulting to increase excitability leading to premature ejaculation.

:nani: wth am I talking about.. Im too young for this topic... :snicker2: ^^

Sound like u don't know anything and u past that from a resource
:em038:

[renegadesoul]

Sound like u don't know anything and u past that from a resource

As I said... Im too young for this topic... woot woot ^^

Experience wise... havent encountered that kind of a problem before ... hehe ^^

Maybe the girl was just to good in doing her stuff....... Nah probably the problem lies with the boy... no matter how skilled your partner is, you have to at least last half an hour... ^^

[vittu_17]

i last pretty long with my girlfriend "Palmela Anderson" lol. hopefully i can last just as long when i get a real girlfriend.

[JEskandari]

if it 2 minutes then, that man is definitely a premature ejectculator :JFBQ00208070428A:

no it's not premature ejaculation ,that last even less.

[hound]

I have never had sex, but i would say i can go for two to three hour's at best.

[laziee_katt]

only 2 mins on foreplay in total?
girl, you need another man, lol

[Agnus]

geeh @______________@

[Shinozaki]

*cough* i dont know from where i must tell u XD

[hound]

Hey i like girl's and i know i can go for a long time, would any girl like to go on a date with me on the forum ?

[DehanHolda]

If a guy comes during sex early. Give him a minute. The next time around he should last for about 30 minutes or more. Guys usually come fast if they havent for a long while.

[mohshinobi]

Talk to him for a next round xD ...

[bitter15]

o thats easy just make him cum like 3 or 4 times and he'll last a lot longer

[Aplus]

I have never had sex, but i would say i can go for two to three hour's at best.
You're crazy O_o"

[visay]

whatever it's fine to me!!!

[baottosai]

well...I haven't done that sex stuff....so I can't really give a suggestion to this.
but I guess it's true that guys gets exited fast during sex.....but they can doit again..again..and again :D

I have never had sex, but i would say i can go for two to three hour's at best.
dude...you're awesome....what kind of "viagra" u use :JFBQ00208070428A:

[Aplus]

dude...you're awesome....what kind of "viagra" u use :JFBQ00208070428A:
It's natural.

[Ryo-Cokey]

It's kind of a mental thing for guys. If you're really into the sex, you tend to ejaculate quicker. If you're more relaxed, not focusing, you can go a lot longer, but you risk losing the erection, which is a definite mood-killer.

[Sylvius]

men can solve premature ejaculation by doing kegal exercises and working on holding it in whenever they orgasm. that's how men can have multiple orgasm's, it's one of pivotal points of tantric sex.

[Fatal_]

To be honest though, it depends on what kind of sex we are talking about here.

The normal time for to ejactulation from full speed penetration is only 2 -10 minutes. But again, all those things stated above do actually increase the time you spend...having fun =p

But yes, for me and my girlfriend, foreplay is a must - I hate it hard and fast (unless she wants it too) but prefer it slow and passionate =]

[EBDX]

Sounds like a mix between being too anxious and sensitive. He should try using protection if he isn't (but she is) and if that doesn't work, double up.

[Sylvius]

despite what american pie thinks. you shoudlnt' double up on condoms. first of all because of hte lube inbetween condoms it's going slippy and well it's rather uncomfortable. secondly if you didn't lube inbetween the condoms they'll rub up against each other and either tear or well... more uncomfortableness. either way... dont do it.

[tsunami-kun]

my ex gf was pretty good too, we were used to spend all night long together... *sigh*

[ltltsmash]

My personal best whas sixteen point four seconds!

[kazuma104]

weird...hahaahaha......anyways if the guy is inexperianced of course he will not last long the first time,practice is a must, also he can masturbate before doing it and give about 20-30min to recover and if he cares more about the girls pleasure then his own, taking a 10min hot shower with the boner will increase the "endurance" but he will lose most feeling

[kid81]

hmm...but i cant really say anything to help out since i dont have a problem with early climaxing. like what others been saying, maybe once he gets the 1st one out itll take him longer the 2nd time around. perhaps dig into some four play to give him time to re-charge the batteries.

personally i love the four play shit...i eat pussy until i burp. my main deal is to please the chick as much as possible for however long she wants it. im a fuckin freak so once i cum, if she says "lets go again" my dick is back up at attention and im ready for the next round. jus giving it to the chick...thats how i get off

[Christie]

I've never been with a guy who lasts more than 10 mins (and that is already pretty good considering the average) of hard and fast sex.

If we're talking about slow paced sex, with foreplay and fondling, it can be stretched to 20 mins.

With a girl, I've made it up to 1 hour <3

[wassup]

I would agree it is a mental thing for the guy. He may simply enjoy having sex with his girlfriend so much that he ejaculates quickly. Theres thousands of factors for this one as the qoute is very plain. How sensitive is his penis, how excited does he get, what are his favourite positions (guys tend to go quicker in there fav positions, another mental thing :P) Is he using desinsitisers (god help him if he is >.<). There is also the fact does he masterbate during the time they don't have sex? how many times do he and his gf have sex a week?

It's true a guy who hasn't ejaculated for a long time will go faster then usual, but afterwards it's usually harder to make him go.

When I was about 15 (here we go :P) I used to masterbate all the time (don't all boys :P) It was at least once a day, and if I missed a night I usually made up for it later on by ejaculating twice on one day. The first time to go usually took 5-30 mins (depending on the material I was looking at and how I was masterbating. Sometimes I'd use my hand and strangely enough sometimes I'd pretend I was thrusting the chick I was watching on my screen (Yep, that was weird days now that I think back on it)), and the second times (when I missed a day or two) usually took 30 mins to an hour (sometimes 15 minutes if I was doing it really fast)

It really depends on the guy, what he wants, and how his penis works.

[troyx]

it depends if i didn't have sex in like 2-3 days i can do it 3 times in a row with 10 min break between each time but if do it every day tow times per day is my max

[kooldogy88]

Hmmm interesting. I hear about stuff like thins but for me I actually find it difficult to climax during sex. It just doesn't feel that good lol. But then again I don't do it a lot. I think my 1st time I took like 1hr if not more. I got bored after the 1st few times... <_<;;;

[Silmeria]

how about he just loves his gf to much that get on with just getting kissed thats pretty normal if the guy loves that girl that much and wants to be with her, because its not the same to have sex with a loved one than having sex with a stranger for a night stand.

[eisenzahn]

Just give your bf some Vitamin V ([Only registered and activated users can see links]) and fuck him 5 times in a row. There's always quality in quantity.

[cooleyhighbit]

Just give your bf some Vitamin V ([Only registered and activated users can see links]) and fuck him 5 times in a row. There's always quality in quantity.

not a good idea, you can cum all day if he was beasting but after like 5 times,
he WILL be afraid of you cause it will hurt. a lot
(bad exp. with a chick on coke and ex when i was sober.)
but i don't know what vitamin v is.

[Chrisuu01]

I know the following post is goin to be f&&cking useles
But im sorry a cant help u i have realy no understanding of sex sorry:sob:

But what iu do know this is somehow a very common problem the way around it is IMO a good talk with him and try to balance it out

[demonicwolf69]

i never time myself..

but the time i did i pased out around the 4-5 hour marker of course we had a break namely enough time to run down get a bottle of water and hit the pool :) prolly 20 mins...

i remeber heading to the hot tub and jumping in middle of winter next thing i know her dad and mom were staring at me i think they were more worryed about the fact my hair littler had ice frozen to hottub and the fact is was 4 pm and both were home >.< !!! i met her mom kinda umm well with my hands in my pants one could say... i have to admit since then beena while:abandoned2::frozen2:


if a guy thinks about it or specificly knows hes more then likely to cum if your not thinking about it its alot easyer, but if your thinkin about another chick just keep the thought to yourself...:twitching::damn:

and i even started at a late age but knew much more then i shouldve alot time before hand.....:5921f236:

[Topazoleck]

Me and My boy can go on for about an hour each of the three times that we may or might not do daily. foreplay is outta the way with us because we just dont need it to be over-excited about being in someones pants. I think that if a guy has a problem with cumming too soon then he should see a doctor but my boy is great when we go at it!

[Sakujo]

I think part of the problem is what 'sex' is defined as here. Intercourse normally lasts for 3-5 minutes or so. The timespan of engaging in sexual activity may be much greater.

[Radiant Muse]

Maybe there's too much friction going on to cause such immediate ejaculation? 2-3 minutes is REALLY fast for any sort of intercourse. Its quite possible that the guy in question just has raging-demon hormones, and once he matures (Terms of age, etc) that'll straighten out and everything.

My partner and I can go for around 30 minutes. Anything after 40 mins gets uncomfortable and over-stimulated.

[Sakujo]

Maybe there's too much friction going on to cause such immediate ejaculation? 2-3 minutes is REALLY fast for any sort of intercourse. Its quite possible that the guy in question just has raging-demon hormones, and once he matures (Terms of age, etc) that'll straighten out and everything.

My partner and I can go for around 30 minutes. Anything after 40 mins gets uncomfortable and over-stimulated.

Alright, because of what you said and the fact that the 3-5 minutes stat sounded kind of off to me, I did some research. 3-7 minutes is the mean time of intercourse, and thus includes quickies and the like. The normal time for intercourse (constant penetration) is 5-16 minutes.

Obviously, this is a broad spectrum.One survey shows that roughly 3-7 minutes is considered adequate, but a bit disappointing, roughly 7-13 is desirable, and 10-30 is considered too much.

I don't know what to make of the average time of intercourse based on the 3-7 minute statistic compared with the responses of males and females individually, but I think it's likely that it's between 5 and 13 minutes. Again, this is only when speaking of penetration.

Another stat I heard was that women take between ten and 20 minutes to reach orgasm during intercourse. I can only think at this point that intercourse was defined differently for the study that brought that result, since the public opinion study found 3-7 (penetration) to be adequate. Considering some of the responses of women I saw in a survey video, I'm thinking women generally include some form of foreplay or genital touching when speaking of intercourse. Does that sound right?

Also, the poster who spoke before about the second time a man ejaculates taking longer likely speaks of the case for all men, from what I know. Can anyone speak differently to that?

[Radiant Muse]

Another stat I heard was that women take between ten and 20 minutes to reach orgasm during intercourse. I can only think at this point that intercourse was defined differently for the study that brought that result, since the public opinion study found 3-7 (penetration) to be adequate. Considering some of the responses of women I saw in a survey video, I'm thinking women generally include some form of foreplay or genital touching when speaking of intercourse. Does that sound right?

Most women touch themselves during sex. Penetration alone will not get me off, honestly. I can take 5-20 minutes, depending on how I feel. I'm not sure what you meant when you said, "Women generally include some form of foreplay or genital touching when speaking of intercourse." Meaning, do they touch themselves during sex to get to orgasm, or, do they consider foreplay as part of intercourse? Sorry if I'm being daft, just wondering.

I still don't know about the whole 5-13 minutes for max intercourse. I guess... well, we're just a weird couple then. We tend to go a lot longer than that, but we've been together for five years, and basically have sex every night. So maybe we're just experienced with each other's needs? 30 minutes for penetration, for me. Almost always has been that way.

[Sakujo]

"Women generally include some form of foreplay or genital touching when speaking of intercourse." Meaning, do they touch themselves during sex to get to orgasm, or, do they consider foreplay as part of intercourse? Sorry if I'm being daft, just wondering.

I really don't know, which is why I was so vague about it. My point was that I think the responses women give in magazines or non-specific surveys don't have just penetration in mind.

I still don't know about the whole 5-13 minutes for max intercourse. I guess... well, we're just a weird couple then. We tend to go a lot longer than that, but we've been together for five years, and basically have sex every night. So maybe we're just experienced with each other's needs? 30 minutes for penetration, for me. Almost always has been that way.

From what I heard/read, it seems that this is simply the norm, not that there aren't guys who go for longer or shorter. Also, as said before, it matters if it's the guy's first orgasm of the day or not, and how long ago he last orgasmed.

[Barky]

Humm.. I guess this is a topic I never delved much into..
But sounds odd tho..
Why would a guy enter the "Fast and the Furious mode" (hilarious Kid)
Run a race for 2-4 minutes.. Reach the Goal and then stop?
He can't be out of fuel that fast can he? =P
Most guys can come over 5 times if they just keep at it.. Tho I admit..
5+ times in a row will make a guy do funny faces when he ejaculates.. lol
Can't be that unnatural for a guy's Cannon to shoot a load.. And then reload for more action..
If the guys stamina aint enough to keep pumping... Get him to do start jogging or something. Will help him in a lot of ways other then just sex.

And.. Some fella said you can train yourself to hold it in.. That came as a shocker to me.. lol.. Does that mean I can come 10 times without having an aching, soar.. erh.. "Cannon".. I realize I use odd words.. Not sure about what is allowed to say and not.. lol

[KyorFish]

hummm......... well it kinda just depends

i mean are you counting just straight hardcore penetration time? or the whole ordeal.

straight penetration time is pretty short 5-6 min ON AVERAGE max (unless) he has a problem. like...

medical thing or has busted already that day, also if your using vaginal techniques or not.

i mean their are all kinda of things guys do to last longer. such as

go slow
hidden brakes
blank out your mind
penis muscle/ pressure point
and the last ditch effort to thrust in and wait

personally i have a hard time. I can only bust 3-4 times and it hurts really bad if i do it to close together.

sigh how nice it would be to get a chick that wanted to take it slow , but i always get the freaks. pull my hair, slap me, choke me, scratch, bite, harder, etc..