[starblade27]

hey women of nihonomaru ive been in alot of relationships in my life but they all end bad and my ex girlfreinds all say its because i dont talk in the relationship my father never talks to my mother so i dont really know what a guy is supposed to do in a relationship. So the main question is what do people talk about in a relationship or rather what do girls want to hear or talk about?

[TheFemininja]

In a relationship, people talk about any and everything. About their day at work, their hobbies and interests, what they thought of that movie, etc...

However, if you're losing girlfriends over 'not talking,' chances are (while the above may still be an issue), they're talking more serious subjects. Such as your feelings, your feelings about your girlfriend, your relationship, etc.

We want input in a relationship. Otherwise, it feels like we're carrying the weight of it, with a guy coming along for the ride/pussy.

You've got to be frank, and willing to discuss where you're going as a couple (if anywhere), and what you think of major events that happen within your relationship. Just open up a bit more about WHY she's your girlfriend, or why she shouldn't be. Women need to know WHY when it comes to feelings, though.

That's the only way I can really explain it. Maybe someone else can put it into words better.

[starblade27]

i understand what your saying i mean i do try to talk about stuff but it always ends in a awkward scilence like hmm... now what to say

[TheFemininja]

Haha, don't worry about stuff like that. Tell her how you feel, when it seems important. Or if she tells you how she does, let her know what that makes you feel. And that's the extent of it. If it falls to awkward silence after that, that's fine; you don't have to KEEP going on it. You don't need to dwell on the subject, because that's just as bad as avoiding it.

If you've both said your piece, and the room goes silent just nudge her into a new subject (unless it's one of those heavy silences of doom; then you're toast, haha). Things'll be okay!

[nite]

Here's one way to help you communicate in relationships more easily. Talk to them like you would talk to a best friend. Just complete nonsense and utter bullshit about every day life but nothing disgusting. PLEASE NO GAY FART JOKES!!!

Then once in awhile throw in some LOVE LOVE words like "oh you look cute in that" or the usual "how's your day so far". After than just listen to your gf ramble on about her complete BS story about how she *accidently* traveled through Chimeran territory and got everyone killed when you specifically told her to provide rear guard just in case any of our mates got injured.

All in all, the least you could do is comfort her with warm words and kisses.

[onydja]

well u see, i don't know very well what say to u becau i'm very bad with my comunication skils too....

[starblade27]

lol i got NO GAY FART JOKES the hugs and kisses i think i can handle i just dont want our relationship to be based on hugs and kisses

[TheFemininja]

Originally Posted by starblade27

i just dont want our relationship to be based on hugs and kisses

GOOD. Kudos to you for that!

I cringed when I read that advice; I can't stand a guy who tries to solve relationship issues with a hug, or a pat on the head. That solves nothing, and it feels patronizing, like you don't take the relationship seriously.

[nite]

Relationship is much more deeper than it's cosmetic counterpart of hugs and kisses. It's about spending time with each other, sharing and confiding in the joys and sadness of life.

Confucius say there's many definition of what a relationship is but it's for you to understand and find your own interpretation of it.

@TheFemininja

I feel you lack a sense of humor, then again I'm horrible for cracking jokes at the expense of another.

[starblade27]

yea.... confucius... his answers always leave me asking more questions...