Moving on: easier said than done.

[Mysterious L]

Alright, so I'm a wierd guy. I'm fat and I'm not attractive at all. Yet, I'm kind and a great person overall. Plus I'm a bit naive....that's the worst way to start a thread.

*Several minutes of thinking.*


Ok, I'll get to the point. I'm a young guy. I used to date a girl that was TOO old for me. What sucked is we were kind of lovers. *Well...over the phone.* I was always worried I'd lose my love since she lived so far away. After a good 10 months, she cheated on me and left for a different state. She left me behind and all she could tell me was to move on. I tried over this summer, but no girl wants a fat, ugly guy as thier boyfriend. I was obviously sad, since when I was with my EX, I loved her and she loved me. I often pretended one of my pillows were her and talked to it, made out with it, etc during this summer. *Sorry if I'm wierd.* I've always had problems, I'm usually depressed and sad. Yet my EX looked passed that and made me happy. I didn't get any luck on finding another girl who would love me like that this summer. By the time school started, I got a phone call. It was my EX and she was home with her new BF. I hated talking to her...it wasn't her I hated, it was her BF. I hate hearing him, kiss her, talk to her with all those retarted nicknames he gives her, and what pisses me off more is hearing him try to feel her up while on the phone with me! After 2 weeks of talking though, we were back on our habit. Saying I love you, having phone sex and all that. After I realised this, I questioned her. She told me she had felt bad all summer, that she was worried for me. She also told me that she loved me more than her BF, and that instead of me being the dog and wondering what my master is up to, it felt like she was the dog and I'm the master. Now I know what your thinking. "Just get her to leave her new BF and date you again." You have no idea how retardedly easy that is. I could do that now if I wanted to. But like I said...I'm a few years younger than her, so we can't date LEGALLY. So now I'm in a position where I have a few years to see if I can get other girls to like me, while keeping my EX from getting knocked up or married in that time. So here's my 2 questions:


1. How can I get other girls to look beyond my Fat and Ugliness, to see the real me?

2. How can I get my EX to wait for me to legal age before she makes any bad decisions?

Please help me, I'm in a bind.

[YoungMike]

Quote: Originally Posted by Mysterious L

Alright, so I'm a wierd guy. I'm fat and I'm not attractive at all. Yet, I'm kind and a great person overall. Plus I'm a bit naive....that's the worst way to start a thread.

*Several minutes of thinking.*


Ok, I'll get to the point. I'm a young guy. I used to date a girl that was TOO old for me. What sucked is we were kind of lovers. *Well...over the phone.* I was always worried I'd lose my love since she lived so far away. After a good 10 months, she cheated on me and left for a different state. She left me behind and all she could tell me was to move on. I tried over this summer, but no girl wants a fat, ugly guy as thier boyfriend. I was obviously sad, since when I was with my EX, I loved her and she loved me. I often pretended one of my pillows were her and talked to it, made out with it, etc during this summer. *Sorry if I'm wierd.* I've always had problems, I'm usually depressed and sad. Yet my EX looked passed that and made me happy. I didn't get any luck on finding another girl who would love me like that this summer. By the time school started, I got a phone call. It was my EX and she was home with her new BF. I hated talking to her...it wasn't her I hated, it was her BF. I hate hearing him, kiss her, talk to her with all those retarted nicknames he gives her, and what pisses me off more is hearing him try to feel her up while on the phone with me! After 2 weeks of talking though, we were back on our habit. Saying I love you, having phone sex and all that. After I realised this, I questioned her. She told me she had felt bad all summer, that she was worried for me. She also told me that she loved me more than her BF, and that instead of me being the dog and wondering what my master is up to, it felt like she was the dog and I'm the master. Now I know what your thinking. "Just get her to leave her new BF and date you again." You have no idea how retardedly easy that is. I could do that now if I wanted to. But like I said...I'm a few years younger than her, so we can't date LEGALLY. So now I'm in a position where I have a few years to see if I can get other girls to like me, while keeping my EX from getting knocked up or married in that time. So here's my 2 questions:


1. How can I get other girls to look beyond my Fat and Ugliness, to see the real me?

2. How can I get my EX to wait for me to legal age before she makes any bad decisions?

Please help me, I'm in a bind.

Man u sound like a really depressed guy but here's my answer
1. No offense but I'm not fat and ugly but the way I get though girls is to make them laugh no matter what u make the girl laugh that tells her that your a fun guy everytime she with u or so she'll laugh and have a good time and she can talk to u when she down cause u can turn everything in to a joke and cheer her up.

2. ummm Hard Question so IDK I never been in this situation so sry

[Mysterious L]

I maybe depressed, but I have done your answer to #1 with every girl. But it didn't matter much, it made things worse. They would then see not only a fat guy and an ugly guy, but also an idiot. I'm not an idiot at all, but my physical appearance doesn't show that. I wish girls weren't so nit picky.

[darakm]

if your unhappy about the way you look then change it, i lost about 15 kilograms, and still loosing, by going to the gym. (i did it mostly for me, but also so girls will actually look at me), i was fat then and im still fat now. and i can get girls to look at me or love me, it doesnt matter how fat you are (but there is a limit) girls also like confidant guys and funny guys. i used to turn of weight problem into little jokes, and the girls laughed.

so i think you should either change, or accept who you are and be confidant about it.

as for you EX, sometimes its better to forget about them, im sorry to say this, but she left you and went on, you should do the same.

[Mysterious L]

Ok, I know that. I may often be pissed off about my appearance, I never show it. I'm always happy when around girls or guys. I'll admit I don't like my body, but I've grown to accept it. I've been on a diet all summer, and as of now, lost 30 lbs. So, people don't think I hate my fat. So why do girls still look for charming looks and a good body, when a guy is beautiful on the inside?


Yes, I know it's bad for me to cling on to her but...I want some form of motivation.

[Kyouki]

Quote: Originally Posted by Mysterious L

1. How can I get other girls to look beyond my Fat and Ugliness, to see the real me?

2. How can I get my EX to wait for me to legal age before she makes any bad decisions?

Yo!
First of all, I personally think its important to be who you are, and live with it, or change yourself where you can. Be it working out or dieting or just going over who you really are in your head.
Because you keep calling yourself fat and ugly, you kinda give that impression to the people looking at you too. Being natural and outgoing works always, and when talking to people, you kinda need to smile atleast a little bit. The other person might get a wrong impression, that you dislike talking with them.

How to make someone wait for you... One way is to talk it over with her... I'm sure she realizes that you're still too young, so you should just openly talk about it. Make sure she understands your feelings, that you really want to be with her (you DO want to be with her? right? You're not just clinging onto her because she's the only one who's accepted you, ever?).
While you're at it, try to understand where she's standing at, ask her what she wants. Would she be happy with you? Why did she start going out with this current guy she's seeing?
That's what I would do atleast.
がんばってね！～ Good luck with it!~

[Mysterious L]

Like I said before, I don't like my body, but I don't give off that vibe. I'm always smiling around guys and girls. Also, I try my best with every girl I meet. As a matter of fact I'm trying to impress a girl now by joining the Speech & Debate club she's in.


But...my EX...

I love her so much...it hurts me that she wants me to move on. I wish I was older...that way we could be together right now. And yes we've talked about why she left me and why she liked her BF...it was age. "He's just like you...except older." ...Hearing her say that made me cry...and I cursed myself for being young. ...I feel like a dog actually. I love my EX so much...I'd probably kill just to have her...

But yes...we've talked about futures...but when we talk about 'em...they sound like fantasies.

[darakm]

hmm like i said, if the age matters, then its not meant to be, you should look for a girl at your age, look for a girl like her only younger.
it sounds kinda harsh, but thats just the way it is.

im curious of what you think is ugly, i think i am ugly but everyone (girls and boys) keep telling me im beautiful and handsome. and i look great even when im a bit overweight, but i still think im ugly. so you could think your ugly but girls think your pretty.
and not all girls look for the handsome guys, they look for it just for the sex, but if they want a steady boyfriend they look for other things first like personality. these are the girls that wouldnt care if your ugly or fat.

[Mysterious L]

Lol, is it good when a guy is pretty?

But yeah...I'm not "ugly" inside, yet my body is just...UGH. When ever I put on a XXL my gut just...basically hangs out, standing ouy. Man-tits don't help either. >.<;; Plus puberty ain't helping much. I've been getting a few pimples on my face, which is bothering me. One thing I'm happy about is my beard that's finally growing. Sadly, the majority of girls have told me they hate beards, so I can't help but yell "WTF!?"

[darakm]

actually being pretty in the face is a good quality you'd be surprised by how many girls look at the face of the guys.

and again, you talk about your feeling, believe me i have the same feeling as you do even though i went from xxl t-shirts to just l t-shirts this past year. (i still have the mind of a fat guy )
but that doesnt mean other people look at you like that. maybe they think you look good, (some people actually look better as chubby rather than thin). when you talk to people dont think "owe im fat, i wander if their discussed by this like i am) just dont think about it at all.