[Konradz]

Originally Posted by DieHardjagged

Since i only have contact with my only friend, i dont think someone else would hold a grudge against me, because i know no one else around in Town.

No.

Happend somewhere else too and not only once.

To tell you the truth, i dont have anything in my Face, or else i would know that.
Thats why im curious about that Problem.

Well, i also found out, that i cant go out anymore without any Problem.
When im out, its fine at first, but when i come in Contact with a Mass of People im getting nervous and must then hurry to escape this at any cost.
Ive also felt, like i was loosing energy, because i felt dazzed and had nearly to go down on my kneel.
Since im getting again this Problem (which i thought i had overcome this) its now even more hard for me to try anything.
I would say im atm not mentaly fit to get a GF, since it would crush me again (if i fail again)
I already thought about, not to get a GF ever, i dont work yet, so i cant offer anything and Girls dont want to hang around with Guys who are fucking useless.

Thanks a bunch for your Answers btw..

Reflect upon yourself a little. Be higher than your problem, be stronger than your situation, and only then will your issue be solved. I recommend you to think things over, think about what happened, and relativize as much as possible ; think about yourself as objectively as possible, and get over your problem. Just think about yourself, tell yourself what you are, in a most rational way, and think about what you did and about what happened before. I think it is then that you will realize your past is not a big deal, and that you have the strength to overcome relationship problems if you wish to.
Thing is, your own analysis of the situation is the only one which will have an actual effect upon you. And that is why you have to think things over, and position yourself higher than your problem, then overcome it.
For example, I am quite certain that once you think things over in a most objective way, you will realize that what you said about "girls not wanting useless guys" is complete nonsense. What if the hypothetic girl you have a crush on was clueless? Would you care? Do you give a crap about a girl being useful? Would you give a crap about a boy's "usefulness", if you were a girl?
Anyway, take distance, think about it ; it helps.

As for your problems when it comes to "masses of people", this actually sounds like agoraphobia. That's actually something serious, and pathological, so you should go and see a specialist about it.

[Deserthoney]

Try to always give a good first impression, cus it really matters.
Have u approached the girls that are angry at u more than once? If u have, then maybe ur an annoyance to them.
But no worries, there are many girls out there.
U dont have to start a conversation by saying hello. u could come up with something else.
like for example, a question maybe? smile and show that ur interested when u converse and try to relax.
Dont be too hasty on things and take it slow.
It would be uncommon if u were to actually have a long conversation the first time u met.
It's okay to let the person know that ur nervous, but it really depends on how the other party feels about u.
Being nervous might also make them feel as though they really mean alot to u and they'll probably appreciate the effort u made and start being friends. From then, it's all up to u on what to do.

[Arcsodeus]

now, now.... remember just to be yourself... talk regularly and sometimes make a joke to liven things up.... but don't do it too often... and don't do anything stupid....

[Sora_Dono]

well i did my best and i can only say that i hope you get better with you relationships ...
good luck and dont despair everything will work out some day ^__^

[cooleyhighbit]

every girl isn't her. i had a friend like that we tried helping him but he shut himself off from everyone, stop thinking when you go to talk to them just do it its easy once you try and get used to it, im less comfortable around guys than girls my baby always asks why i don't have but 1 male friend lol, dudes are weird its easy to talk to girls

[Megaflash]

i can relate somehwhat to you OP thou more like in the past, having a physical deformation (mine is a crippled leg) usually does that "the weird looks", well guess nowadays ppl don't comment but still give weird looks and well its not very comfortable like you said... anyway im not here to talk about my life, i only can say you should piss off about what others say and i know it sounds crazy but talk to yourself sometimes and say " if they don't like me fuck em i don't need them anyway" it usually works. You always should walk around with no problems in your mind, don't worry about what others say just be yourself if they are pissed about you they surely are retarded... seriously how can one get annoyed at other if he didn't do a thing? well try that for now don't worry about what other say just relax and do what you like, world's free others don't have the right to insult you about nonsenses hope it helps you man good luck

[SFfan]

What is the best way to approach a girl at like a party/club/bar scene? I feel like women would think that you're only starting a conversation with them in the hopes of sleeping with them. How can I overcome such an accusation without being amazingly funny or good-looking?

[Mina Toivo]

Well, girls/women are all different.
But, like coming onto girls/women too fast only makes you seem desperate, and we close of even before you've stated your name (:
I think, starting out slowly with a normal conversation would work. Using humour often works, because laughter is the best connection between two people :]
Make the conversation interesting, not stuff like: "so, cool party, huh?", because that seems like you just wanna get into the pants of the person XD haha'

[DieHardjagged]

God, tomorrow will be the Day, when i see her again (I explained) and it still hurts me, because i simply cant forget it but i was too dumb and had to use the "I love you" words on her, i should have noticed it, because she smiled, but not for me, i think she laughed about me.
Why am i talking again about her, i dont understand that.

[SFfan]

Originally Posted by DieHardjagged

God, tomorrow will be the Day, when i see her again (I explained) and it still hurts me, because i simply cant forget it but i was too dumb and had to use the "I love you" words on her, i should have noticed it, because she smiled, but not for me, i think she laughed about me.
Why am i talking again about her, i dont understand that.

You need to find another girl to take up your attention. As for your approaching women problem, you should ask some friends what you're doing wrong since we don't exactly know your mannerisms, how you dress, how you look, etc. You should preferably ask a female friend for advice or even a sister if you're desperate enough. If you don't have either, I'm sure one of your male friends has a girlfriend you can also get advice from. Just don't expect a clear cut answer from online. It's one thing to ask for tips, but it's another to ask why women seem to dislike you before even getting to know you. Only people who know you well enough can help you there.