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^*random posts XD* (no one's posting in the threads I like in spam XD.)
what a coincidence,you're in the same country XD

[vivifc]

Originally Posted by Lhiam

I cant act like that...and the fact is that I wont be hot, never!
Another thing is: I'm shy.
Ok, there is a community of asian ppl here, my parents want me to be and to hang out only with japanese ppl...but I dont, I have another friends (latino ones), and I really dont feel attracted by asian boys.

No problem, I live on Chile, santiago del chile...(but now I'm on brazil for vacations)

LOL

i live in Valparaiso, Chile!!!! we are neighbours.....

soo, cant you fake the confidence??? i am a really shy person, but when i go out, i just turn my common sence off, and iŽve never had any problem geting guys, well, the only problem is that i never get the one i really like... lol
dont worry, i bet youŽll find a boyfriend really soon, and i hope heŽll be perfect for you...

enjoy your vacations!!!!

[angiestar58]

Originally Posted by vivitafc

well, the thing is that i dont think iŽm hot....

but the trick is making guys think you are...

aparently, out going is considered really HOT, so if you are like that, even if you dont have the hottest body, guys will want you anyway....

soo, just be confident when talking to guys, and theyŽll be eating of your hands.....

btw, where are you living?? can you say???

oh sorry about that i live in U.S. anyway thanks for all ur help

[Lhiam]

Originally Posted by vivitafc

LOL

i live in Valparaiso, Chile!!!! we are neighbours.....

soo, cant you fake the confidence??? i am a really shy person, but when i go out, i just turn my common sence off, and iŽve never had any problem geting guys, well, the only problem is that i never get the one i really like... lol
dont worry, i bet youŽll find a boyfriend really soon, and i hope heŽll be perfect for you...

enjoy your vacations!!!!

Nice...you know what kind of boys we have to deal here then...
I mean, ok, there a nice ones, but most of then are stupid, selfish and really weird (about the asian thing)...
Nah, I dont want a bf atm...I cant accept the thing about my body...mmaybe i need a therapist or sth like that ....I cant hang out, all of my friends (as if i had many) has a wonderfull body...but not me >__> ...

thank you! Im enjoying here! Im close of beaches and cool places! But brazilian boys are even more freak than chilean boys ... D:

[vivifc]

Originally Posted by Lhiam

Nice...you know what kind of boys we have to deal here then...
I mean, ok, there a nice ones, but most of then are stupid, selfish and really weird (about the asian thing)...
Nah, I dont want a bf atm...I cant accept the thing about my body...mmaybe i need a therapist or sth like that ....I cant hang out, all of my friends (as if i had many) has a wonderfull body...but not me >__> ...

thank you! Im enjoying here! Im close of beaches and cool places! But brazilian boys are even more freak than chilean boys ... D:

yeah, sadly i know exactly how boys are in here, since all my friends are guys....

you forgot about the machist part!!! they think that because we are girls, we have to serve them...

well screw them, they can be served by my foot up their ass....

maybe you really need a bit of therapy, but most importantly, you need to stop listening about what people think about you, and then youŽll be happier, because you cant never please everybody., but at least you can please yourself....

i wouldnt know, iŽve never left the country.......yet...
but i bet they are freaks.... lol

[Lhiam]

Originally Posted by vivitafc

yeah, sadly i know exactly how boys are in here, since all my friends are guys....

you forgot about the machist part!!! they think that because we are girls, we have to serve them...

well screw them, they can be served by my foot up their ass....

maybe you really need a bit of therapy, but most importantly, you need to stop listening about what people think about you, and then youŽll be happier, because you cant never please everybody., but at least you can please yourself....

i wouldnt know, iŽve never left the country.......yet...
but i bet they are freaks.... lol

Can I ask your age?

And well...about being happy with myself, Idk...because asian women are educated to serve the guy that your father's choose...so its sad, because sometimes I still think like "Am I being too selfish?" about thinking in making me happy or no..

Its hard. a lot.
well...thank you for advices and all! Now my cousin wants to use the notebook, I'll be back laters!

[manubishe]

Lhiam , even though im 16 and not much of hot/cool guy but since your Asian and in Latin America(foreigner there) especially that you are shy and people see it , it's enough for guys like me to drool in mind and eat from ur hands only if you let us near and give the hand .
personally i would start immediately with a Japanese girl once i see one cuz i just loose my head seeing mature(25y.o.) woman passing by when going out in the city .
with your 19 and shyness more then 2 guys will be , just look for them and let them see you - they'll start with you.
be confident.

[Sword Dancer]

Well for me (a guy) I don't really care about boobs, legs, butt. What I look for is a 'healthy' body, someone who likes to exercise and knows how to take care of themselves, that's all! I want someone who I can spend the rest of my life with, not just half. And then I do the personality match, to see if we click.

Lhiam, maybe the guys that you surround yourself with right now only look at bodily features, but know that there are guys out there who doesn't. As long as you look healthy (only through exercise) then you shouldn't worry about anything.

Peace!

[Konradz]

Originally Posted by fooleh

I think you can answer this:

If physical attraction didn't really mean much in relationships, why would we as a species even have a notion of it?

We are one of the few species that have a selective breeding system, ie, we pick who we fuck. So whats the reason for this? To better our collective gene pool, I'd say. Now, there are other factors to the sustainability of the human species beyond physical prowess, like intelligence, humor, etc., buuuut there are generally no true outward indicators of these traits. So we look for the obvious -- the physical frame. People like what people like for a reason: Girls like muscley, angular guys because these features are a common indicator of physical survivability and dependability; Guys like big tits and hips because these are indicators of an ability to successfully carry, bear and nurture a child.

Physical attraction is important in any relationship, not because humans are fundamentally shallow, but because the physical features that humans are attracted to are faithful indicators of basic biological abilities, necessary for our species advancement and continuity. Relationships have two sides, the mental and the physical. You can be overwhelmingly in love with somebody's personality, but if there is no physical side to the relationship (dependent upon physical attraction) it just won't work in most cases.

[as a reply to fooleh]
I think you're really going too far with the biological stuff. Darwin may be cool, but let's not push it.

The reason we can choose who we fuck cannot be "to better our genetic pools" ; that would imply someone, something designed us that way. As you're quite into nature, I don't think you'd agree with that. So, we don't choose who we fuck because it helps better our genetic pools ; perhaps we do so in order to, though.
And I don't think we do, either : us Humans have gone quite beyond animalistic instincts, as far as I know, thanks to dearest education. I don't see myself acting like an animal, nor even thinking like an animal. So, of course there's a biological influence, but I don't believe that biology is the only factor, or that it fully dominates us ; else, we'd just be apes running in the forest, having buttsex and eating berries.

I agree with you that we're firstly going to look for the obvious, boys and girls alike. But the obvious is not necessarily "big tits and hips", or "muscles and... angles" : "beauty" usually was, as far as I know, never really judged by such criterias : rather, the size of women's belly (being obese was important in many countries, and still is in some nowadays, because it would show that said woman was wealthy (which has nothing to do with biology but rather society)), the amount of hair, etc. could be very important criterias in many parts of the world ; every culture had a different definition of beauty, and that beauty had nothing to do with breast size or hips.
Nowadays, just check any survey on breast preference, and you'll notice that a lot of men, if not more than half of them, prefer the C cup (or less) size. Why doesn't an outstanding majority of men prefer D cup? Why, if we only look forward to good reproduction, is there only a minority(10-15%) of women who have D cup+ sized breasts?
I believe that this shows that we are not influenced that badly by our biological needs and instincts, as we are Humans, and only technically animals (something which can be argued as well)


[as a reply to the actual thread] Anyway. Personally, a girl's appearance does matter to me, to some degree : there are A LOT of girls that I find pretty / "decent" ; very few that I find ugly. But the ugly ones, I will never approach. After that, they can be decent, pretty, or sex bombs, it doesn't all matter that much to me. That's when personality comes. Generally, I just like a cute face and a reasonable silhouette
For girls, I think that appearance matters in such a way as well : most girls I know don't care that much for the appearance, to some degree : you just musn't be ugly ; you must be reasonable, decent. That is, except for girls who only find guys such as Orlando Bloom or Bill (Tokio Hotel) to be good looking. Also, girls don't have that much to judge on : we don't have breasts, we don't have a sweet, slender figure, soft silky skin, nor any grace at all. Seriously, are hairs all that attractive? I think not. Except for our musculature and face, there's not much to judge on. That's why I think that girls base themselves a lot on personality.
For girls, I believe that what's really important is self confidence : self confidence will attract girls. They like a dominant, strong, superior guy much more than the opposite ; I think that is what matters the most. This is where I think that the biological thing can apply ; girls are much more bestial in that way, in my opinion.

That was long, sorry.

[manubishe]

in Russian my reaply for previous is : Ебанутся! . in literal English it's : get myself pwned-beaten with a bat or metal pipe , or just fall on face. That is not a reply people should write man! ok,im calm , now ill start reading the reply...