How Should i Deal this Couple >_<!

[Queenie]

I tried my best with this couple and i swear ive run out of ideas .
Well, Heres the back ground story of the first couple i have to deal with ~

Fya = My best friend
Kain(Girl)= Also a close friend

About 10 months ago, i hooked them up because they liked each other and i didn't know how there dating life was yet but they seemed happy together at first . As time went by i noticed there both really jealous ppl. So most of the jealously led to arguments . The first couple months , Fya had sacrificed everythnig so that kain would be happy but when fya was sad . kain would only say "lets break up " , which fya hated alot . Then Everytime a break up occurs it seemed to switch roles , where Kain was sacrificing and fya was demanding one .

Finally, in about 9 months Fya couldn't take it and said she wanted a clear break up . which i thought was the best for them , however when we got back to school fya was with kain like everysingle day !!. I asked Fya like what are u doing i thought u broke up and she would reply to me " Were just friends" . So thats what i thought. But when Kain told me she might like another girl , Fya snapped at kain which caused kain to not like anyone and only want fya back .

This led on for like another month or so and i was tryin to tell fya that this isn't good for both of u guys because its like fya was trapping Kain on a leash. Then Around the 10 month or so A guy starts to like Kain and fya became really REALLY jealous . and finally she spoke her words" fya: I still miss kain so .. (tellin me and kain) Tell that other guy to NEVER talk to kain again and cut off ALL contacts with him . So we did and the guy never talked to kain again and fya went back with Kain .

But its been 2 weeks and Fya hasn't shown Any affection to Kain at ALL like not even talking to kain at school . So kain was questioning Fya .
Kain : Why don't u show me any affection any more ?
Fya: I do . u held my hand
Kain : for like 3 seconds and u brushed me off and u talk nice to Rei but not to me ,
Fya : i do give u affection , and im just uncomfortable and i need more time
Kain : What ? whats ur affection u gave me then .
Fya : well, i want to talk to u and want u to sit beside me
Kain : If thats affection then everyone in the world must love each other .

i heard the tone in Fya's voice and she sounded liek she didn't care at all . Now Kain is Exteremly Emo because of this and gettin really pissed off . Yet everytime me or kain try to talk to Fya it seems as if it goes out her ear . And also Fya has put alot of Rules to kain ._. . and i dunt know if thats right or not but here are some of the rules i know .

Fya's Rules 4 Kain

1: Do not talk to other girls/guys
2: Must be with me at all times , in classes u have to use every chance to be near me .
3: No swearing at all even if u tongue slip, if u do it means u don't love me enough
4: Must be home before 10
5: U can't play Maplestory because u flirt with online girls and waste money (when she plays games too and hinted to kain that game>Kain )
6: No texting or Calling in front of her


and Kain is giving up and isn't bothering to fight back anymore soon .
What should i do :[..........

[Silmeria]

wow that relationship wont get to far......that person is beign OVERLY strict...and it seems she doesnt believe the person who likes anymore...

edit:
forgot to say it........
want something to do? let them go on and see how they do it enjoy the show...also putting leash on yourself for your other half(you can but in a moderate manner) will only lead to unhappyness

[dragoncrusher]

ask them to talk to me :)

give them my email and i can help out

[Daniel.]

Why are you playing Matchmaker for your friends ?

[Queenie]

@ Silmeria : Thats what i think but then fya isn't doing anything even if i tell her .

@dragoncrusher: If she doesn't know the person she won't talk >_< shes liek the Loner/emo type person

@ Imi : At first because . They both tell me they liked each other but they were too shy and wanted me to help get them together but then there both my good friends and when things happen they want me to help . and this is what happen ..

[Slayden]

*sigh* Matchmaking is an arduous process and most CERTAINLY not for imperceptive amateurs (no offense Queenie) or else this is the most expected outcome.



If I were to get to know them and speak to each of them directly, like over MSN, I could help them out to at least tolerate each other and even at times show some affection, but in all honesty, they are bad, bad, BAD for each other. And their greatest stumbling blocks are their own lack of maturity. The extreme jealousy that each harbors with the other will continue to tear each other apart. It is best that they never enter a deep relationship. Have them break it off entirely. Their natures are too conflicting. This relationship is unsalvageable.

[vengeance]

Originally Posted by Queenie

Fya = My best friend
Kain(Girl)= Also a close friend

I asked Fya like what are u doing i thought u broke up and she would reply to me " Were just friends" . So thats what i thought. But when Kain told me she might like another girl , Fya snapped at kain which caused kain to not like anyone and only want fya back .

i heard the tone in Fya's voice and she sounded liek she didn't care at all . Now Kain is Exteremly Emo because of this and gettin really pissed off . Yet everytime me or kain try to talk to Fya it seems as if it goes out her ear . And also Fya has put alot of Rules to kain ._. . and i dunt know if thats right or not but here are some of the rules i know .

and Kain is giving up and isn't bothering to fight back anymore soon .
What should i do :[..........

Forgive me if i'm wrong, but it sound like this is a gurl with gurl relationship? Or did those "She" that i happen to underline and bolded out happen to be typo's and its suppose to be he instead?

[Daniel.]

Match making is a waste of time. If they cannot see ways of being together properly then its going to be pretty hard if not near impossible for someone else to get those two people together.

I stopped playing matchmaker when girls that I LIKE came to be and asked me to help them get with someone else.

Every man and woman has to look out for his and her own desires above anyone else. (Well no, but only in matchmaking).

[Silmeria]

Originally Posted by Slayden

*sigh* Matchmaking is an arduous process and most CERTAINLY not for imperceptive amateurs (no offense Queenie) or else this is the most expected outcome.



If I were to get to know them and speak to each of them directly, like over MSN, I could help them out to at least tolerate each other and even at times show some affection, but in all honesty, they are bad, bad, BAD for each other. And their greatest stumbling blocks are their own lack of maturity. The extreme jealousy that each harbors with the other will continue to tear each other apart. It is best that they never enter a deep relationship. Have them break it off entirely. Their natures are too conflicting. This relationship is unsalvageable.

screw msn i like to people look at me at the eyes when we are talking about serious stuff XD better go and take each of them to date(friends date) and talk to them in the restaurant or something......also this kinda sucks for you...since they are very good friends of yours....if they hate each other with the jealousy problem they wont like you to hang out with each other so you will have to choose either friendship....this is more fun than i imagined...so try to at least makes them break in a peacefull manner if they come a break up.....to not hate each other.

[LightElf]

I dont think the relationship will last very long as well. It'd be better to cleanly break it off. The term jealousy is a word describing the feeling of angriness or unhappiness because someone you like or love is showing interest in someone else. And mere acts such as talking, laughing, or just being near someone else may very well induce emotions to override reason, creating a set of misunderstandings, and thinking your GF/BF may be thinking of cheating on you. Whilst this may be an indication that the person feeling jealousy is deeply in love with his/her GF/BF, it may however also be obsession, which is not the same as sincere love. I believe love cannot exist without trust. Just because a couple is together, it is not right to limit that person's contact with other people, even if it is of the opposite sex. Keeping a leash on your GF/BF like the Fya guy you talked about means that he does not trust her enough to be sure that she only loves him and will not cheat on him. Such a love cannot hold for very long. It would be better to break them off now. I think as a friend it'd be better to do that for the sake of both of them.

But you may well decide to invite both of them to a restaurant or something like that to quitly talk about this whole issue, if you dont like my initial conclusion I offered. I think the best you can do there is to tell them to trust each other, if they really love each other, and if they cant do so, then it is not love, but rather obsession. Or you may decide to have this talk with each of them individually, and let them work it out themselves. That relationship is seriously crumbling, and the best way to save it is to repair their broken trust to each other, and if that doesnt work, it'd be better to end it.