A New Problem With My Girl

[Daniel.]

Well to start things off my girl has been in a relationship with another guy quite a few times. So shes not really "my girl" but she calls me "her boy" so I do the same. Anyway now that, thats out of the way I'll start things off.

My girls boyfriend has been cheating on her, since day one he made her look like a slut. Basically telling his mates she was his dick puppet and that she was at his will.
I told her to dump him but well she went to him with the intention of forgiving him no matter if it was true or not.

Now they've broken up, gone out, broken up, gone out and broken up and gone out again. So its their third time together.

Shes been cheating on him with me for about a month and well when I found proof (always had suspicion but now I have proof) that he was cheating I told her because I care about her.

Josh (My girls Boyfriend) has been cheating on my girl for ages with another girl called Sandra and a red head who I don't know. Sandra basically blurted it out without thinking it was a big deal. I told my girl, she confronted Sandra, Sandra denied the lot because she was scared my girl would get angry and beat her up.
Ontop of that when my girl went to Josh he denied the lot as well. So you have two people who deny everything and me the only person with 19 pages of horrible truth which I sent her stuck in the middle. My girl believes what I heard on MSN and that the chat logs are the truth. But she doesn't want to believe her bf is cheating her and has been for so long.

This is where things get messy.

2 days later and my girl has asked for a break from me.
Now the reason why I was shattered is because her and I haven't seen eachother in 3 weeks. We hardly talk on the phone and its usually on msn that we do our chatting. We were planning something for this weekend and these holidays but well now she wants a break from me so the holidays are going to go past without me doing anything with her and the next ones are 11 weeks away. We were going to do something but this bullshit about her bf cheating came up. I want to see her but well she says she needs a break. I've tried telling her that we already don't talk much and that the reason shes asking for a break is bullshit (there is no reason) and that distancing ourselves from one another is stupid because we already don't get to talk very often.
But she insists and I don't want her to let the holidays roll by without doing anything..

Anyway I just wanted some advice and opinions..
Thanks..

[shahice]

just give her all the time she need mayb she try to find what really happen...
and why dun u just tell her that u really love her and care for her also dun wan to see she sad or hurt.......just be honest

[Daniel.]

I've told her that heaps and she knows that. Which is why I have no idea why she needs time off. It's not that bad anymore because I found out well theres another whole week of school before holidays and I don't know how long she can last without me really... God I'm so confused really.

[AmSidar]

Maybe she need the time to clean her head and think what to do. Probably thats the best what shahice suggested. Give her all the support what she needs. :)

[Daniel.]

I can't support her though, because we are on "break".

[txcforever]

What is this a spanish soap opera? You were searching for proof that he is cheating her when on the same time she is cheating him WITH YOU. It's like two thieves trying to prove that the other one is guilty. In case you didn't notice, YOU are the "extra" part in this relationship since they were together before she started dating you. Also by telling the truth with no one to support your claims , you doomed any chance you had of a relationship with her (unless she finds them in bed or something) since she probably thinks now that you lied (or over reacted) to break them up.
Are you so desperate for a woman (or do you love this one so much) that you are willing to break a couple just to have her? IF she really believed you but still forgiven him then you are fighting a losing battle my friend.

[Daniel.]

Woahhh you took that the totally wrong way.

My girl and I were in a 2 year relationship beforehand (I broke it off because my best mate commited suicide and I felt like I couldn't cope and I might be next). [Don't ask]. Shes only dated this dude for about a month, and yeah they've already broken up 3 times. So its like once a week.

Shes cheats on him for love, because hes frigid as hell and because I do everything better.. He cheats on her to brag to his mates that hes got loads of girls. She wont dump him because hes the only male company she has at school. Where as I don't go to school.

See the difference? No I don't want a girl so badly, if I wanted a girlfriend I could walk outside my front door come back with one in 2 hours. I don't want a girlfriend, I wanted things to continue like they were. I had no idea that telling her would sever our friendship to "this".

Also I wasn't searching for proof. Didn't you read the part where Sandra blurted that shit out, out of nowhere?

Lastly, as for the proof I have its 19 pages of MSN chat logs from 4 different people who have all be subject to her bf's "dirty deeds" what more proof do you want???!

[AmSidar]

I still say this the wait out game, at least you got all the proof on your side. If she still chooses a "female pelt" hunter then you then that was not a great relationship anyway.

Lets hope she wont do that shall we?

[Daniel.]

Well I'm guessing shes going to have to catch him, which wont be too hard because now she might actually be keeping an eye open. I don't care if they don't break up I just want her to be happy... I wanted things to go how they were..

[txcforever]

Hey it's not me you got to convince and sorry if I misunderstood (I read your post many times before I actually posted my self). Let me get this straight (because apparently I got it all wrong :P): You had a relationship with her for 2 years but you broke up (something you haven't mentioned on your post, you said that she is your girl and she calls you her boy). Now she is with a guy that he cheats on her since day one and she only forgives him because he is the only one at her school that she can date?
From the time she chose him over you (maybe she is more need of love than friendship) and you tried to tell her the truth and not only did she not accept it but blew you away then maybe it's game over. Since she chose to stay with him any attempts to break them up would only seem hostile from her even though they were in good will. And coming from you, a guy that she had a relationship for so long would only look even worse as in the blurred eyes of a girl in love would only seem like attempts to win her back and that's probably why she broke all ties with you. In my opinion you acted too fast and only achieved the opposite result.