How do you find girls who want to move at your pace?

[tyciol]

I'm wondering how to do this, because I don't want to get involved with a girl but have her get offended or insecure if I move too slowly, because that's just how I'd be due to my personal interests and method of thinking things and lack of experience and stuff. Basically it'd be good to find someone else inexperienced since they'd understand this more and not have a rushed perspective.

[Daniel.]

I have no idea what your talking about. If your talking about "How do you find out when a girl wants to move in with you?" then just ask her...

[krnxknight]

basically you want to find a gf that wants to advance the relationship at more or less the same rate you find natural, no?

personally, i'd say that if previous experience makes a girl want to advance a relationship quickly, it's because she's feeling withdrawal symptoms. don't analyze that ^_^

i'd say, with the info you've provided, that it would be difficult to find a gf willing to move at your rate because i have no idea how fast you want to advance one. i'll assume you'd prefer slowly; assuming your age is in the teens and you're in the united states; i would say finding a gf that wouldn't mind advancing at a slow+steady pace would be one of the more conservative girls, maybe devout christian/catholic girl. if you really want a slow advancement, try a girl of amish descent. typically they adopt some of their conservative nature from their parents and it would work to your advantage.

[Daniel.]

Oh I get it. Well if you want a girl to move in pace with you then basically you need to find one first if you don't have one lol. So you need to work that out, if you have a girl then you should try asking her, is she going too fast or too slow?

You honestly need to provide more information.

[starfire]

Look for girls at places you enjoy going to. You're more likely to meet a girl there with similar interests/values/pacing than a place that's "totally not you".

Also, women are wonderfully adaptable. So even if the girl you meet prefers to move at a different pace than you, odds are she'll adjust as long as you explain why you prefer to move at a different pace. You'll also have to make some small adjustments in how you relate to her, but that's simply the price of being in an intimate (as in invading my mental/emotional space close) relationship with somebody who's not an exact copy of you.