Approaching your partner regarding H

[connerj]

Basically, I'm wondering if anyone here has ever approached their girlfriend and said "Oh by the way, I enjoy watching H as opposed to watching porn and I was wondering if you want to join me" or words to that effect.

Basically... I've enjoyed hentai for years and recently it's all I want to watch. I wanna tell my girlfriend that I watch it but I don't want her to freak out. I don't think she would but argh, I hate having to watch H in private and keep it a secret.

Anyone ever been through this experience?

[kiziroglu]

When I used to watch Hentai, I've told my girlfriend about it. She took it ok.
my words were : "well, you know that I tell you everything, right ?"
she goes : "yeah ?"
I : "well, I... I like hentai"
"you get turned on by watching cartoons?!"
"well, my mind is usually capable of providing me with enough fantasies... but when it doesn't, hentai does it"
"o..kay.."

the words must be said according to your girlfriend, I must say. not my branch though.

[connerj]

Fair enough, thanks for the insight Kiziroglu. I'm still debating the idea as I feel without the proper explaination she'll go a bit crazy. Ho hum...

Anyone else?

[hentai_buddeh]

Well, this is what I did. I brought her to my room. I persuade her by watching porn(convince her, not force her). Then you make a move right there. But I don't think I have asked her about hentai though.

Done it with my ex.

Well, dude...to be honest, don't approach her with that material. It can be chaos or worse catastrophic inter-galactic xenomorphing abomination. It can ruin your relationship. But if it is REAL porn, its understandable but sex in cartoons? nawww...

If she asks you that you WATCH these HENTAI things, then its fine. But not now, not then, not ever! if you want to keep your woman. ROFL!

Trust me.

Wait until the time is right or wait until she shows you something that she has the same interests as you.

[connerj]

Originally Posted by hentai_buddeh

Well, dude...to be honest, don't approach her with that material. It can be chaos or worse catastrophic inter-galactic xenomorphing abomination.

ROFL, I didn't really mean it in the sense of 'getting down to buisness' to/with hentai in the background, just more of a "coming out of the h closet" kinda way.

But I do see what you mean, it could wreck it if she really is opposed to h.

I appreciate your advice a lot man, thanks.

[Aborad]

hentai_buddeh is totally right man. I wouldn't ask my girlfriend, I doubt she's even heard about it anyway, haha. It would also depend if your girlfriend liked a lot of anime or something too.

[Slayden]

Try to get your girlfriend involved in your interests, and not just with hentai. Also try to get involved in the things she is interested as well. It will enrich your relationship as you two bind tighter together through common interests and activities.

Expose your girlfriend to anime first and watch it together. Pick out a non-hentai anime with great, captivating storylines like Elfen Lied, Soukou no Strain, or Samurai X. You want her as involved in anime as you or at least no longer discount it as "just cartoons." Then give her a kind of "transition" series that is 90% anime with only one or two ecchi scenes. Sorry I've only seen a few hentai series and both of them very hardcore (Bible Black and Discipline: Record of a Crusade) so I can't recommend an appropriate series for this one. ImI mentioned a good anime that had only one sex scene at the very end of the series but I can't think of the name of it at the moment.

Watch your girlfriend's reaction to the sex scene(s) before continuing. If she reacts poorly, then you're SOL and have to keep it to yourself, though every once in a while you can watch another of these "transition" animes together to see if she reacts differently. If she reacts well, then introduce her to one short hentai series, then judge her reaction again. Don't swamp her with hentai unless she becomes a fan after introducing it to her. If she reacts marginally well or better to regular hentai, then you can show your collection to her and she'll see it as something of a hobby of yours. If she's neutral, don't show her your collection, rather, intermingle the anime with hentai until she gets used to it.

[Daniel.]

What I did to get my girlfriend into Hentai was this:

She loves Final Fantasy IX right? You know with Garnet, Zidane and Beatrix etc... well I found some doujinshi that included them all in it, it was honestly a master piece, 180 pages thats about 600x800 print full color and English I read it. I loved it, it was drawn the best I'd ever wanted. (She got me into FFIX too so I loved the characters, always thought Garnet and Beatrix looked gorgeous). Anyway so one day she goes to me, (she was a little horny) and she was playing FFIX and she says "I wish Garnet and Zidane would have sex already, or maybe Garnet and Beatrix that would some nice lesbian action". I was sitting infront of the computer with my back to her blocking the screen so I brought up the doujinshi which is uploaded and hosted on the internet on the authors website and I said tada... and she took one really quick look at it and said "Holy shit, thats pretty good, give me 20 more seconds and I'll be in the mood for some serious love making". So she lent closer and said do you like this stuff too? and I said "hey its more interesting then regular comics'" and she just said "well I wish they moved you know, haha hey magic fingers can you make them move"? (magic fingers is my nickname sometimes) And I said "thats out of my power"

So there you have it, 14 and she doesn't give a shit. Aslong as I'm NOT normal she'll always love me.

[kenkrt1]

Well, the way I did it was browsing through several pron movies with her, if you have quite a few movies, just throw in an H or two and see what her reaction is. If she gets offended or thinks its weird just say that you had the movie by accident, or that you dl a lot of stuff and dont really check it.

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[Silmeria]

ok this is how it went my ex.
me>> i like hentai
she>> what is hentai
me>> anime porn(japanese cartoons having sex)
she>> what?
hersister>> lol you really get off of that?
me>> yeah, sometimes*insert some BS random excuse of why*
hersister>>crazy man...
she>>oh sent us some to see what its like
*shows couple of azazuke wind pics*
she didnt mention nothing that night because of her sis but later on days she told me she wanted some more pics...also she said she didnt knew what it was or why i was watching it, but it was her way trying to understand what i like to understand me a little more, and she ended up liking it, she also mentiones the drawings where pretty and that he only liked female male(normal sex) pics not yurii or yaoi, or facials Just normal sex pics.