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Originally Posted by gakidou
thanks for the advice guys =)
just to add to it... it's just sometimes i wish i had someone more active... and who has a variety of interests... one thing i really like about my gf is she is REALLY hard working... in fact... that's all she ever does... work + study... so she never has time to develop interests or have hobbies... she honestly has no interests or hobbies of her own... other than hanging out /w friends and family...
I enjoy playing a lot of sports... and i'm always disappointed that she never has time for it... i enjoy playing music, singing, drumming, and piano... but she is not into music like that... also she doesn't have any clue about pop culture... and i'm really into that kinda stuff... so whenever i meet girls who are really into those stuff... it makes me think if i'd be happier /w someone that could attend to those needs...
but i mean she has a lot of other things that i do like and enjoy... we cook 2gether... we're fair on house chores (we don't live 2gether but she's pretty much @ my house all the time)... she's passionate about her work (she teaches mentally disabled children)... she's very supportive of me and understanding... and most of all i can be COMPLETELY myself around her... and a buncha other stuff as well
but to me, being active and having interests brings variety and excitement to life (which one of the things she likes me for... cuz i'm into a lot of things and everyday is a diff day /w me) but just her not really being into that or not having time for it... really drags things down for me sometimes...
but sometimes i wonder... can i find someone /w all of that and the other stuff i need?? i would never cheat just cause i could never bring myself to that...
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Did you tell her how you feel? Maybe she doesn't know and if you tell her she might do an effort in order to share more time with you.
On the other hand, you can have friends with whom to share your activities and hobbies. Including female friends. It is possible to have a real friendship (no romance or sex) with someone from the opposite gender. You just need to tell from the beginning the kind of relationship you are looking for, so they don't get any wrong ideas. The good thing of sharing your favorite activities with friends, is if you ever break with your girlfriend, you still have a life, which make the recovery faster.