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Re: How Do I Fix This ?
LOL Okay. I'm not really a fan of lines, but I'll give you some examples of what I would say if I were in your position.
You need to stay flexible, however, instead of rigidly sticking to memorized lines, because in all likelihood, she's going to fight you on it. I'll give you a start, but you'll need to work them into the conversation. From what you have written about her in other posts, it seems that she's pretty open-minded anyway, which will make this much easier than otherwise. Also wait for her to be in a slightly horny mood when you are having this discussion, but not in full swing. You want her to be even more open than normal, but you don't want her using the excuse "But I was really horny at the time."
Tip: One of the things you'll want to keep in mind is to address issues and answer questions before she even asks them. It's extremely disarming and she'll be less inclined to fight because of it.
Tip: Ask questions even though you already know what her answer is going to be, just so that you can address her answer. This serves two purposes: 1) to get it out into the open so you can alleviate her concerns, and/or 2) so that she doesn't catch you off-guard with a similar statement later.
Let's begin.
Question: "Why are you hesitant to have sex while you are still 14? I mean, why exactly?"
It doesn't really matter what she says, if she can even pinpoint a specific reason in the first place. Even if she does, she'll be coming from a standpoint of "feeling uncomfortable" about it. The root cause is most likely that she thinks that she isn't old enough to make a proper decision regarding sex. It's a spinoff of the "age of consent" laws in most countries. To address this concern, you ask her this:
Question: "Let's say tomorrow is your birthday. Will your mind change so very much in 24 hours? Is there so much of a difference between you being 14 years 363 days old and you being 15 years old?"
This will get her thinking about her maturity level, and the question will make her internalize it, causing doubt to form around what she has convinced herself to follow. Actually, the doubt is already there because of what she feels. What you are doing here is exposing just how much her current belief doesn't make sense as well as compounding her doubts.
Question: "Is it really because you are 14?" (show her a doubtful look) "What's the real reason?"
Asking her the "real" reason why she doesn't want to have sex will imply a disbelief toward something that doesn't make sense, even though it is her reason. This will just continue to feed her doubt.
You see, what you are doing is undermining her beliefs and replacing them with yours. What makes this case particularly easy is you have logic on your side AND she already enjoys sexual pleasure with you. The next thing you do is subtly switch up your tactics and begin to address the fact that you are already enjoying each other sexually.
She'll likely say something along the lines of "But that is the reason" but she'll say it halfheartedly. Continue to engage her in conversation, eventually working this in:
Statement: "Well, I am already putting parts of my body within yours." Hold up and wiggle your fingers, then stick out your tongue a little and immediately follow up with this:
Question: "So why can't I put my penis in you? Well, you suck on my penis, so actually you've already put it inside of yourself."
You've asked a question, then replied to her answer even before she got to say anything. She'll just give you a dumbfounded look and probably say something like "But it's different..." or "That's not fair" or some other stammering remark. At this point, don't let her gather her thoughts. Next a little humor to lighten the conversation. Give a mock pouting or a somewhat exaggerated sad look and ask:
Question: "Do you dislike my penis that much? Is there something wrong with it or is it ugly or..."
She'll undoubtedly cut you off at this point, but not really know what to say, saying "No, no it's not that." You don't want her constantly be put on the spot or think that you are picking on her. You want to make sure that it is obvious that you aren't serious because it's a bad idea to put on a guilt trip. At the same time, you are again making her question why she is truly holding back regarding sex. Soon, she should realize that she doesn't really know why she is holding back, that is, if she's not the stubborn type. Let her respond with something, anything, but it likely won't make sense. If silence fall between you, just pause a moment. Then while she is thinking about the lack of a reason not to have sex, smile, become very serious, and say this:
Statement: "I want to look into your eyes as I put a part of me inside you next time, in here." (gently grab her crotch while looking in her eyes)
Her heart should melt at this point, and given her lack of a reason not to have sex, she should be fine with it. But before she has a chance to answer, close her lips with yours and give her a passionate kiss, still fondling her groin. After a few moments, keep your lips locked to hers and slowly lean toward her using your other hand to lay her down. There is a small chance that she'll resist and start to push you away. In this case, don't jerk back, rather maintain the kiss and slowly pull away. She's still confused and may need a little time to process everything you've told her, so give her the time. Trust me she'll be brainstorming over it. If she doesn't push you away, you're home free and proceed to actual sex. Keep in mind, however, that she will be very scared, even though she is accepting you, so take it slow and maybe give her an orgasm or two with oral to release some of her tensions.
When embarking on this, make sure to keep the conversation flowing. One of the problems with memorizing lines is it's rigid. Go ahead and memorize them, but you may need to reword it a little or add some stuff so that it seamlessly fits within your current context.
One more thing, if at all during the conversation she mentions feeling pain the first time having sex, just reply with:
Statement: "That has nothing to do with age, but I know a way that you won't feel much pain at all."
There are a multitude of signals to keep in mind. Is she getting angry? What's her body language? Is she shifting in one spot? Is she uncomfortable? You'll need to steer the conversation in different directions depending on how she reacts. Remember, stay flexible.
Last edited by Slayden : 02-17-2008 at 12:27 AM.
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