My girlfriend is 14 right. Her and I are both virgins
Last night she told me that she was ready for sex with me. But that she didn't think she was a respectable age.
She was however fine with the fact we would both be preforming oral multiple times for eachother and all that (which I am really happy for btw) but she just said even though we could use protection and all that, that she thinks her age is a problem.
Shes 15 in 4 months. So shes not just like 14.
This is exactly what she said:
"hey... i didn't want to tell you on MSN but i want to tell you now... im pretty much ready.. i really want to make love with you.. but i dont want to be 14 for my first time.. i dont wan to be that young and i never have... im really sorry.. but please.. if i say i want it, then im lost in the moment.. and please stop me.. i hope you understand....?"
(I told her I would and that understood).
So basically I'm screwed? I don't just want to make love with the girl, I love her to bits so I'm fine with just making her orgasm until she passes out.
But this is really a complicated fine line, I don't know what she wants from me, everytime she has come over before shes been on her period... so that was her I dunno... "excuse" for it, and she always screamed for sex after I was only even halfway through what I was doing... now we are going to do oral on eachother which is something new for us, in the shower, in the bed.
So theres going to be lots going on, I know that I'm really fantastic at oral
and i know that shes going to scream for me to make love to her again, but now shes safeguarded herself by saying please stop me. I don't WANT to stop her, I'm going to the army in 2 months, I want to have sex before then, I'm a MAN for crying out loud, I'd never forgive myself if I let this pass me, I want to give my all to her and I think age is no excuse if your in love!!! I'm only 16, I'm not much older then her. If you think that I see her for just an object to have sex with, you couldn't be further from the truth, I really love this girl and I want to give my all to her, she says she wants to give it back but I don't want to leave and come back and have missed the chance to prove how much I love her, because thats what I see it as.
I want to do something that is the biggest object of love, dedication etc. and giving our virginity to each other would be that. Sure I'm nervous about it, from the whole conversation before that she didn't seem nervous really. I know the internet can be deceitful and I know it was only MSN that she said it on, but shes coming over this Saturday (It's Sunday now, so 6 days away)... I have 6 days to try and change her mind, if you look at it properly I only have 1 day (The day she comes over)... but I don't want her to scream at me to make love to her and then I say "but you said..." and her go "ooh... thats right... I'm sorry" I don't know if I could continue with whatever it was that I was doing to her, my heart would break and I.... I really don't know.
All I can say is I'm a man, at my age we go through a 400% boost in hormones compared to a female.. I WANT to have sex. Thats just the long and the short of it. I love this girl and I want it to mean something and I think it would. If I miss this then the 2 other times shes begged me for it I'll never get out of my head, what if, even though she was on her period we had, have had sex... I could have proved myself to her then.
So I need anyone and everyone to help me. Is there anything I can say or do to change her mind without giving her a guilt trip or making her feel bad about it, because its her body and her choice and I don't want to lay a guilt trip and I don't ever lie about anything in my life.
If your going to post like "You should be lucky my girlfriend doesn't even give me Oral" blah blah blah, then please don't post. I need help her, this is my turn for help please. I don't want boasters I don't want people saying I'm lucky about some of the things, I need any real and/or hypothetical help about things I could say, do, whatever that could help change her mind so she knows she has made the right decision. Theres no deception here or anything.
Thankyou so much everyone for anything thats ontopic to what I want in this thread. I will ask Dark_Clown nicely to remove anything thats offtopic. Also I don't expect this to have any less answers then anyother thread in here, just more ontopic answers.
~ImI