I can't believe my first post is in
this thread...
It seems to me that very few people know how to perform anal correctly. Girls, you should feel absolutely
NO pain
AT ALL when receiving anal. Arika, you, and even you Christie, are doing it all wrong. The pain is obvious evidence of that. Christie, you sound like you're getting close, but you shouldn't be feeling any pain in the least. It's all about foreplay, technique, and leading up to it. It's so sad to hear about a woman who had a painful experience with anal, especially if it was her first time.
Hmmmmmm.....
I'd show you how it's really done if we were using the same computer...
The advice of "take it slow" is scant and rather misleading. I'll give a quick tutorial on how it should really be done. And no snickering. We're all adults here; well, most of us are. If you're underage veer your innocent (HA!) eyes away from this post, even though by telling you this, I'm just giving more incentive for you to read on.
How to give a woman PAINLESS anal (Ugh, my first goddamn post)
Okay listen up, 'cause you are about to receive a little "ejumacation". ;) ;) First off I want to say that there will be no penile penetration the first couple of times. Four or five of these sessions, however, should suffice to prepare a woman to receive a penis there, so be patient. Good things come to those who wait.
Guys, the cock's little sister, the clitoris, is your friend. Treat her well and all your fantasies will come to fruition, no matter what they may be. Keep this in mind throughout your undertaking, or better yet, keep this in mind period. To start, begin as normal with a lot of foreplay to get her in the mood. 45 minutes or so should be good, or however much time you usually take to get her aroused. Lots of kissing, lots of rubbing, messaging, and nibbling... Actually, foreplay techniques deserve it's own tutorial, but that's another topic. Basically, do what you have to to get her really really, wet, softened up, breathing hard, bouncing off the walls, and doing that sexy unconscious habit of undulating her hips in different directions.
After giving her oral for a while (oral is par for the course; I'm rather shocked that some members don't think it is), get your lube and spread it over her butthole. Get a latex glove, put it on, and lube up one of your fingers. The roughness of the inside of the fingers on a bare hand can cause soreness after a while despite the lube.
Now just trace circles around the hole with your finger pressing very lightly. Have her keep a regular, deep breath pace too since it will help significantly. Another key is to have her "push" out or down as though she's having a bowel movement. Trace far on the outside of the hole then trace your way closer to the entrance, then trace your way out again. Do NOT stick it in at all at this point, and especially don't poke. This is called anal rimming. Do it a lot the first few times you experiment with anal. For the first few times, this is best done on her back with her knees up to her shoulders so that her pussy is in a convenient licking position.
Shortly after, you should see a surprising size difference as she will "wink" at you a lot at first. The expansion and contraction of her butthole will become increasingly infrequent and slow down over time. Once she stops winking at you, the hole will expand more and more only a little bit at a time. When her anus stops expanding on its own, rim your finger closer and closer to the entrance. It's a good idea to have a vibrator in her vagina at this point so that you can see what you are doing while keeping her stimulated.
This is where we will begin the penetration. Continue rimming to her entrance and finally press against her hole with the flat of your finger, not the tip. Poking her with the tip of your finger is uncomfortable, possibly make her seize up and you'll have to go back to rimming for a while to loosen her up once again. Perform a light, gentle message against the hole, then do a little rimming again, then go back to the center and press *slightly* harder. Go back to rimming and return to the center again pressing slightly harder again, but now don't do any more rimming unless she begins to seize up.
Keep your finger there, applying constant pressure, and you should see her butthole expand a little more in a kind of "reverse wink." You might need to remind her to keep breathing as well. Your finger should slip in with ease, but don't go any further than the first digit. Curl your first digit a little and put tension against her anus by pulling straight out, but don't pull your finger out of her. You've "hooked" her anus and are lightly pulling against it. This should be pleasurable to her.
Begin a small rimming motion, but don't go any more than a few millimeters in any direction. In fact, vibrating your finger or pressing a vibrator against the palm of your hand is a good idea. When she cums from the vaginal vibrator, take the opportunity to slip your finger up to the second digit mid-orgasm.
Viola! You've done it! And no pain at all. It's best to leave it at that the first time, the second time work up to two fingers
maybe three (and also experiment with soft thrusting), the third use a small toy, and the fourth time a penis. If you are a well-endowed guy, you'll have to continue to use larger dildos each session until she can comfortably fit your penis in her butt. Personally I had to wait for round seven on my girlfriend before I could even attempt it with my penis. But hey 7 is the golden number right? Why does the movie
Goldmember come to mind all of the sudden? Anyway, have fun exploring.
Oh, and when she gets used to it, assume doggy-style and stab downward with your penis in her butt. You'll press her vaginal wall against her g-spot and can even give her g-spot orgasm this way. ;) You can do this vaginally instead of course, but it's a different experience both mentally and physically. There's just something... lusty, and primal, about making a woman cum from anal. It's hard to describe.
One last thing. You're satisfying a sexual desire, not making a conquest. Treat her well, not as an object. She may be yours, but she is not your property.