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Originally Posted by kiziroglu
you got me wrong...
when I said that I won't do anything to buy time, I meant doing things that're only meant to buy time... I mean none of my actions will be done to buy time...
and this "giving love " thing, I never understand...
love isn't something you "give", it's something you "have", which can generally be seen in your attitudes and words...any one who observes my actions would see that I love her, and my words with her will exhibit it... It's not like I'm alienating myself from her, telling her to be deepfreezed for a few years, until I got back to her... I spend time with her as much as I can... we go to movies (she likes them) frequently, I don't like talking on the phone a lot, so we walk around the campus every night. we go to sports together (I'm her capoeira trainer), lots of more which I can't name at the moment... it just, sometimes seem that she wants more , which I can't give her...
so a talk must be done, and I'm asking for few tips to do that talk... a few tips so that my words won't hurt (they usually do :) )
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and please, I'm not asking for analysiz of my relationship... I don't need that.. I've done that talk will zilllions of people, and none of them made a slight degree of change.
all I want is few tips and may be a guideline which I'll use during the talk I'll make with her (I invited her home, to my hometown, to pass the semester holiday together, so she'll be here like in 1-2 days, which means that the talk will be done soon... very soon...)
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you feel the love for someone and you give it to that person...if those feelings reach that person she anwsers the same way, if yu are in love you want to give a lot of time to that person even sometimes break the rules for that person, but sometimes breaking rules will have its reaction back, you are telling us to tell you how to tell to a girl "baby, you know i cant give you enough time wait for me years/months and dont fall in love and keep your feelings the same for me without giving you my feelings because i am to BUSY making my life on school and proffession"
even if you dont want a review of your relationship and you dont change....if you dont want oppinions dont post on a freeking forum -,-
i dont know about others but this actually happened to me and wast because of studys was because of my own stupidity..dont let her go.....but if you still want a tip:
you have 3 options:
a)break up
b)tell her you need time to make your life (wich you are selfish on it but w/e)
c)put more attention to her and stop beign so mr study boy
so bassically the tip you want is option B
you can start as "baby, i think i need time to finish my studys so i can focus on you fully after(wich i doubt happen because of the type of person you are you will be a sheep of work just like you are for your studies) migth as well think on our marriage in these 2-3 years.
also if she waits for you you got a hell of a woman(good partner).
PS.- i am sure she joined your religion BECAUSE of beign with you more.